Feel like I'm failing as a mom and student

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I have a 4.0 average and study every chance I get.

I'm in the process of earning an ADN at Augusta Tech. Lately, I've been stressing and worrying about being able to find a job with this degree in 2017. I would like nothing more than to go back and get my BSN immediately but financially, I can't right now.

What can I do to stop physically making myself sick about employment after graduation? My stomach gets in knots and I give myself a headache and feel like breaking down at the thought of letting my child down. Any advice?

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Don't quote me on this, but I heard there's more job openings available for new grads in rural areas (where they don't flock). I'm also pretty sure they can't be too picky either.

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I have a 4.0 average and study every chance I get.

I'm in the process of earning an ADN at Augusta Tech. Lately, I've been stressing and worrying about being able to find a job with this degree in 2017. I would like nothing more than to go back and get my BSN immediately but financially, I can't right now.

What can I do to stop physically making myself sick about employment after graduation? My stomach gets in knots and I give myself a headache and feel like breaking down at the thought of letting my child down. Any advice?

I will *hopefully* be graduating in 2017 with my ADN too. I think you need to adjust your expectations. It's very possible that both of us will not get the hospital jobs that we would like to have right away. We may need to work in a nursing home or elsewhere while we pay off loans and apply for other jobs. I am ok with this. I know I will go back to get my BSN, and then I will be more marketable. Until then, I'll be happy with almost any nursing job.

I also think you're worrying a bit prematurely. You have nursing school to pass right now! Focus on that right now. You're doing the best that you can.

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I agree with purple_roses. Freaking out about it won't change anything that's going to happen. Focus on excelling at your program and then do an RN to BSN program once you're done. There will be places that will hire you; you might need to move out of state if you're in a saturated area. Network with the nurses while you're in clinical. Let them know that you would like to work at the hospital so they can put in a word for you with the hiring manager. Treat your clinical as a job interview so they see you as an asset to the floor.

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I think we all as students have these feelings. I have found myself stressing over the same things lately. Like the PP said we all have nursing school to pass right now. Stay focused for yourself and the little one, you will be fine. :yes:

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Doctors hospital, university, and GRU all have nurse externship positions. That will help you network and also have experience with the hospitals in the area. That should reduce some of your stress. They require that you have nursing fundamentals completed. They are extremely part time positions, so it really shouldn't add too much more stress on you.

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Worrying about a job after graduation is normal. The nursing shortage is regional. Expand your sphere and consider jobs outside the acute care hospital. Is relocation possible? Consider long term care or consider public health. How about personal networking - do you know anyone who is already employed somewhere who can put in a good word? Experience in a healthcare-related setting can only improve your story. Would you rather hire the nurse who didn't work in a healthcare-related capacity for the last year because they couldn't get a job in a hospital? Or the nurse who spent the last year learning what it takes to care for patients, one who learned the importance of bedside manner and one who understands patient care? This will give you experience and if your heart is set on acute care, you'll be a better prospect to a potential hospital because you'll have experience.

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I have a 4.0 average and study every chance I get.

I'm in the process of earning an ADN at Augusta Tech. Lately, I've been stressing and worrying about being able to find a job with this degree in 2017. I would like nothing more than to go back and get my BSN immediately but financially, I can't right now.

What can I do to stop physically making myself sick about employment after graduation? My stomach gets in knots and I give myself a headache and feel like breaking down at the thought of letting my child down. Any advice?

You might want to talk to a therapist. You seem to be experiencing pretty severe anxiety.

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she may be experiencing severe anxiety, but that is normal for the area. The only employment in the area is military, call centers, and hospitals. The cost of living is high in the 'good' areas due to the price gauging based on BAH of the soldiers. So you either live in a dangerous area, or you barely survive. I have similar anxiety to hers, and I only just applied. I recognized the school name she mentioned and realized we are in the same area. Trust that its hard to survive out here, and 'just move' isnt an option unless you have the money to do so.

To OP- volunteer at the hospitals I mentioned, plus the VA. The only way you will ever get on at the VA is if they ask for you by name, so you need to know people there. Hospice is also always looking for volunteers.

The meet up group AAG has many successful people that work in the hospitals, and the events are fun and you can take your child to most of them. Networking will only help you.

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Thank you for all of your responses! Anxiety is definetely doing its part but over all you guys made me feel a bit better about my situation. I am truly trying my best to follow my dream and provide a better life than what I have always known. Best of luck to everyone and may we all accomplish our dreams. :) Augusta is very well saturated with military and new comers moving into the area

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