Family not taking Covid-19 precautions and only myself!

[InSchool4eva20, MSN, RN]

I am a nurse and my family does not take precautions. I have kept my parents safe and now since they see the state has lifted precautions for businesses they no longer take any precautions. I'm talking close to 20 family members. I have four children and I insist we do, but I can't get anyone to. I don't work directly with Covid patients but know there always is a possibility. Now they want a big bbq for fathers day.

[A Hit With The Ladies, BSN, RN]

You can't change anyone else, only yourself. You can suggest precautions, but if you act preachy and sanctimonious (like Fauci, Birx, etc.), you are quickly going to alienate your family members. You don't have to go, your kids (assuming they're under eighteen and your partner's on board) don't have to go, but you have no right to spoil everyone else's BBQ for Father's Day tomorrow.

Life is for living. I think there's a "misery loves company" element to the Corona-obsessed, where their alarmism won't be enough until everyone else treats this like Armageddon. So annoying!

BTW, my family's doing a barbecue tomorrow, too, for Father's Day. That Corona will be no match for brisket on a skillet ?

[Emergent, RN]

You can always not go to the barbecue. Otherwise just do what you want and let them do what they want. I wouldn't get into a big argument about it.

I have a lot of family members that are super into liberal politics. I don't care about people's politics that much, but that's all they talk about. I find it an annoying subject of conversation , so I don't go visit them.

[LovingLife123]

You can’t keep your family locked up forever. Here in my state, we are allowed gatherings of 250 people. A family BBQ is not that big of a deal.

If you personally are uncomfortable, then don’t go. You can only control your actions and not the actions of others.

[pixierose, BSN, RN]

On 6/20/2020 at 9:19 AM, InSchool4eva20 said:

I am a nurse and my family does not take precautions. I have kept my parents safe and now since they see the state has lifted precautions for businesses they no longer take any precautions. I'm talking close to 20 family members. I have four children and I insist we do, but I can't get anyone to. I don't work directly with Covid patients but know there always is a possibility. Now they want a big bbq for fathers day.

Like another poster said, you can only control your own actions. Personally, 20 people would be out of my comfort zone, especially as you stated they no longer take precautions. I’ve seen patients test negative in the ED, only to test positive later on (I.e., prior to a surgical procedure), and they’ve been asymptomatic; I’ve also witnessed patients, and a coworker, die from COVID. It was traumatic to experience. To subject myself, and my kids, for some burnt hotdogs so I might further expose vulnerable patients?

So, *for me* - no. I hope it worked out for you today.