Failed the nclex... how to get remotivated

live2help · Feb 28, 2008

genny0616,

Thank you so much for those comforting words you wrote. I know, every one has struggles in their lives and i guess we all have to beat it by confronting it and overcoming those struggles. I guess in our case, it's the NCLEX exam.

I am not a very positive person in life even though many times i wished i could.

When ever failure comes in my life, i sometimes wonder why me? and always tend to blame myself for everything... even though i am not the only one in this world w/ problems in lives... i know so many people whose lives are worse than mine and... people around me tells me that it's not the end of the world.. but sometimes it is very hard for me to accept that...

especially with the Boards.... I really really wanted to pass the exam so badly and give all the glory to GOD Almighty... and take care of the ones who are in need. I guess that's not happening...

Sometimes, i feel like i am a very depressed person, and the only way i make myself feel better is by helping, giving, loving and caring for those who are in need... and when i do all those things, i forget about all my problems and try to be positive... but when those dreams shatteres in front of my eyes, i don't know what to do, don't know how to go or look forward.... I felt like i went to 4 yrs of college for nothing except add more burdens of $80,000 dollars in my head and be more depressed more than ever and have no career, or anything else in life...

I just hope one day i'll look back and say that everything in life happens for a reason... even though i can't control my destiny...

Genny, good luck with the exam and thanks for sharing part of your life story with me and letting me know that i am not alone. Thanks!!!

lawelane · Feb 28, 2008

live2help, i know how much it hurts not passing the first time, just like me. That almost everyvbody believes in me that they know I'll pass with 75 questions. But it disappoints me after receiving a huge envelope. That's life. No matter how u tried sometimes, God doesn't give u the right time to have it with RN after ur name. But don't be ngative just because u didn't pass for the 2nd time. Like what genny0616 said, she will do it again and again until she will pass the exam! Just bear in mind that there are many people out there who passed after 6 attempts or more, so it is not just you alone in this country who keeps on trying to pass the exam. Same here, I really want to pass the 2nd time around cuz i've been keeping promises to my family to help the out once i'll be RN already.

Currently, I'm reading the Saunders Comprehensive Review for NCLEX-RN, the blue book. And will also attend the review, Excell Review that my friend highly-recommended it cuz they got the best lecturers, as what she said. International nurses found it most helpful (I guess) and it will give u a very comprehensive review not just doing self-review alone. I did the Kaplan before but it didn't worked out on me so i'm looking forward to Excell Review cuz 10 days straight from 8am to 5pm everyday, there's a review, intensive review for the whole class.

Just be positive. Never give up and always look at the mirror and say, "I am a Nurse!" Good luck to us!

live2help · Mar 2, 2008

Lawelane,

Thank you so much for the wonderful advice & tips. I am going to start thinking positive now on and take the exam again & hopefully, this time, I will pass the exam.

Good luck with your studying and God Bless !!!

lawelane · Mar 3, 2008

live2help,

ur welcome... who would be helping each and everyone of us here? nobody, except US, nurses!!! Hehehhee... We really have to be motivated enough to say... we are nurses! Go go go!!! We can do it. Let's keep in touch of our progress. Good luck!

shiina,RN · Mar 3, 2008

I just found out i failed the nclex... i have been crying all day... i will retake it in 45 days. i don't even know how to get motivated to study... i think i have fallen into an acute depressive state ... i wish i had someone to talk to but i am too ashamed to tell anyone.... what should I do

I DID THE SAME THE TIME I KNEW I FAILED, THAT WAS 5 MONTHS AGO.NOW I AM MOTIVATED AGAIN TO SCAN MY REVIEW MATERIALS.JUST GIVE YOURSELF A TIME TO RECONSIDER EVERYTHING WHAT YOU REALLY WANTED IN YOUR CAREER, THEN HOPEFULLY, YOU WILL REALIZE THE VALUE OF TIME.SORRY IT TAKES MORE TIME FOR ME TO GET MOTIVATED BUT I HAVE LOTS OF FAMILY RESPONSIBILITY THAT COUPLED MY PROBLEM, AND NOW I NEED TO STAND AGAIN.

JUST PRAY THEN YOU WILL BE FINE.

jenrn2008 · Mar 4, 2008

I DID THE SAME THE TIME I KNEW I FAILED, THAT WAS 5 MONTHS AGO.NOW I AM MOTIVATED AGAIN TO SCAN MY REVIEW MATERIALS.JUST GIVE YOURSELF A TIME TO RECONSIDER EVERYTHING WHAT YOU REALLY WANTED IN YOUR CAREER, THEN HOPEFULLY, YOU WILL REALIZE THE VALUE OF TIME.SORRY IT TAKES MORE TIME FOR ME TO GET MOTIVATED BUT I HAVE LOTS OF FAMILY RESPONSIBILITY THAT COUPLED MY PROBLEM, AND NOW I NEED TO STAND AGAIN.
JUST PRAY THEN YOU WILL BE FINE.

Thank you so much... I have regained my motivation.... I am working on Suzannes plan now and will retake Kaplan starting March 9th.... THANK YOU!

SeekingSuccess · Mar 4, 2008

Hey live2help..just reading your situation in life just made me look at myself like..wow that's exactly me right there. I know you've probably heard this countless times..but I do know what you are going through and it does hurt. You don't know how many times I've wanted to throw this book away and just give up on this test after two times of failing it. But I regain hope and faith knowing that there are countless posts on here about people sharing with us their failures and struggles in defeating the test. I've always been afraid of the test, no matter what I do I just never feel confident or too prepared but I've always tried and that didn't seem to be enough. I've done the same things that youve done. Avoiding Family, Relatives, keeping myself cut-off and isolated and not wanting to go out..socialize with family and blocking myself off from the world..I just felt like my life was going a downward spiral. And when everyone says that No-One understand you, it's absolutely true. The feeling of having your family constantly put in your mind that they need you to pass so you can help them or your siblings move on with their lives..it's definitly agonizing. I'm not saying that I don't love them and don't want to help them..in fact that's the first thing I plan on doing once I pass..just get on with my life. All of us are depressed or have been and are going through alot here apparently..but it gives me comfort somehow in knowing that there are people in the world just like me who are going through the same exact agony that I am in..I'm greatful for having discovered this site through a friend..it's enormously helpful and therapeutic reading similar situations being experienced in different parts of the world. Before I just felt like I was the biggest loser and that NO-ONE has ever failed their tests and so on...I'm keeping the faith no matter what. I'm not giving up those 4 years that I spent in Nursing School for nothing. I wana be somebody..I Want to help others..I want to finally be happy and settled and secure with my future..Hope we all pass guys. Gudluck to us.

lawelane · Mar 4, 2008

I really don't like Kaplan cuz it's more of self-review and... oh nevermind! I just don't like their review style. It's not effective for those people who get motivated when there is somebody in front who could give u lectures, if u r this kind of person, then Kaplan is not good for you. The lecture style isn't good either.

live2help · Mar 5, 2008

Seekingsuccess,

I totally agree with you when you said how comming in to this website makes you feel better... b/c thats exactly what i felt too. Before i found out about this site, I also felt so discouraged, depressed and almost gave up in taking the exam again. I felt like i was the only one in this world who is a such a failure in life and no one will understand what i am going through. But until i came to find out about this website, i felt like there are so many people in this boat that i am on and if they can do this, then I can do it too.

I always wanted to help people, take care of them and always had the passion to be there for those who needs help in their lives esp. sick patients, but i got discouraged so badly that after all these passions that i have, i can't put it in to use...

But, after posting what a failure i was in my life last week, i received few responses back ... and those comforting words really really helped me to get back and finally open my book on Sunday night.

I am very thankful to God knowing that there are a lot of people like me who are on the same page as i am and yet they are still pushing me, encouraging me not to give up even though i don't know anyone of you guys personally except through these messages. This really gives me an inner peace...

so, THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO IS REALLY CHANGING PEOPLE LIVES ONE WAY OR ANOTHER!!!

jenrn2008 · Mar 5, 2008

Live 2Help-- THANK YOU TOO!!!! This website is very very encouraging.... when I started this thread I was so discouraged! However, I have also received so many CARING and THOUGHTFUL responses... I am not the only one going through this... it gave me the motivation to keep pursuing my dream.... funny because I named this thread "failed the nclex... how to get remotivated" and what REMOTIVATED me was this website and the people here with similar stories and words of encouragement...

Along with LIVEHELP, I would like to thank everyone for their support and postive words.... it means a lot! :specs:

Genny

victr1 · Mar 5, 2008

Knowing that you failed should be motivation enough to study and pass the boards. Make sure you study smarter, and not harder. Whatever your weaknesses are do a quick content review and get back to practicing more questions. Once you have the strategy to answer multiple choice questions it won't matter even if you don't know about the subject being asked. When I took the boards I couldn't sleep the night before because I got the flu. The body was over stressed from studying. Every 30 minutes during the exam I had to go to the bathroom because I was feeling so ill. I was tortured with all 265 questions which took about 5 hours for me to complete. 2 days later I found I passed. Just a reminder that nothing can stop you from passing. If you really want it, I'm sure you're gonna get it. Good luck.

cetch · Mar 14, 2008

I want to thank everyone who has posted such positive post on this wesite. I am losing sleep over this NCLEX exam and I thought I would get online and I stumbled on to this thread and I feel soooo much better!:) I will be taking the NCLEX RN for the 5th time in April and I am at a loss on what I can change to help me pass, I have never been a good test taker. How many times can you take the NCLEX?

I am praying for all of you!

GOD's timing is always perfect! With his help we will all be :nurse: !