Ever had a nursing instructor hate you?

[bustthewave]

Heeeey, so I'm in a weird situation. I just started my beginning nursing fundamentals class, of which I have enjoyed and been excited. We start clinicals at a nursing home in about two weeks! I'm always 15-30 minutes early to this class, which is 6 hours long and no break 3 days a week.

So apparently I've rubbed one instructor the wrong way. This is actually the first time I've had an instructor for any class not like me. She basically told me, almost word for word actually, that I am the least pro-active person in the class, and I spend too much time talking to my friends in the back.

I dunno, I was sitting in the front, but they decided the class was talking to much so we all got switched around. Then I got sat beside this girl who constantly wanted attention and to argue (which might of got me in trouble as she would talk to me, and then yell at the instructor for telling her to stop)... then to save myself I moved to the back to avoid that girl, where people wont stop talking.

Gawd I feel like I'm 5.

So she's a nursing instructor, and I'm going to have her for 2 more years most likely. Any suggestions on how to deal with this? Is it appropriate to pull an instructor aside and say "hey, I think we got off on the wrong foot."?

I dunno... I just don't want to be talked down to like a child for the next two years by this instructor, and I don't really know how to make the situation better, and I feel like it's going to be a basic life skill I need to develop or something... sigh...

[MollyLPN]

Hey guys let me just say-

Thank you all very much for the honest feedback. I have really read every post and thought about it.

What I've learned here is that, if I'm going to be dedicated to nursing I can't give up just because instructors dislike me. I'm the only one who can make me feel defeated.

In dealing with my instructors, I decided to let it slide, and let clinicals speak for itself (I foruntately got clinicals with the instructor who is nice, and now after almost being done with clinicals I feel like I am leaving a very good impression of being a hard worker, and caring for my patients no matter what).

If after clinicals, I still get pushback, I will, instead of complaining about it and feeling defeated, pull the instructor aside.

What I think is my fault in all of this? My attitude. Even though I didn't try to show an attitude towards the severe lack of organization with this class, I felt it consistently. It must have shown through somehow. Maybe I made a comment that I thought the instructors couldn't hear, or maybe it just showed on my face. Either way, even if I'm frusterated by how things are done, my goal should be to getting that RN degree and license. If I'm having a bad attitude, bad enough that it's showing, then I'm allowing something external defeat me, and not really being fair to my instructors.

So yea, thanks again for the very thoughtful replies guys. I have one more week of clinicals left, and I will pass this class with flying colors! :)

I am so happy to read that this has turned into a positive experience for you by asking for advice and using your own wonderful insight to figure out what you need to do. Getting a nice clinical instruction changes a lot too, so I'm glad you had that experience. Congrats on passing the class with flying colors!

[Megarline, CNA]

I don't care if an instructor dislike me. Sometimes, I do it too for no good reason. However, I don't do dirty work to people I dislike. I can still be civil and fair with them. I just don't like people including my family. Lol

[merrywhiterose]

I had a nursing instructor that only wanted young female students. I was an older female student. This instructor tried to say I gave a diabetic patient orange juice & wanted to kick me out of the program. I reminded her that SHE gave me the fluid (water) to give to the patient. I passed nursing school & got my RN license. I found out she was a NP where my PCP was. I had it put in my records that she was NEVER to treat me because she's dishonest. Also, she is never to see my records.