Engagement/Wedding Ring Question

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I just got engaged, but for now have a "stand in" ring so my fiance can save up and get me a "better" (read: more expensive -- it's what he wants and I'm fine with that lol) one. Well I've been looking, and I found one that is absolutely gorgeous, but it's morganite which some people say is too soft for a job such as nursing where you use your hands a lot. Opinions?

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Honestly, the whole diamond thing for a ring is so overrated (mind you, I don't know what morganite is). I told my boyfriend I don't care if the stone is cubic zirconium, as long as the band is real silver or white gold. The diamond for a stone was a marketing ploy and somehow became tradition for wedding rings so now everyone thinks that the ring has to be diamond. Idk, I guess I'm not high maintenance.

Where was I even going with this. I'm sorry, OP. I seem to have lost my train of thought.

I think I was trying to say, it doesn't have to be diamond for it to be a nice ring. Or morganite..I wish I knew what that was.

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I never wear my wedding ring to work. :)

I have no idea what "morganite" is. Your best bet would be to ask the jeweler. I am not sure nurses are experts on jewelry but maybe there are some out there.

(Not a fan of expensive stuff - weddings, rings, or otherwise).

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.

When I go to clinicals & start working again I don't plan on wearing a band or anything. Bacteria like to harbor in/on/around it & if I get a job with the BOP the less the inmates know about me, the better.

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I'm one of those never take my ring off girls. Always have been.

Morganite is a stone that is fairly inexpensive and has a pink/peachy color to it. It's absolutely gorgeous, but it's not that hard (rated a 7.5-8 on the MOHS scale while in comparison a diamond, the hardest of all the rated materials on the scale is a 10.) I'm not one of those girls that needs something expensive or needs a diamond, but I am the kind of girl who will take what is given to her :)

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

In some nursing jobs, rings are not allowed -- period -- because they harbor germs. Also, when they are allowed, a lot of nurses loose them -- prompting them to not wear them voluntarily. Other people don't wear them because they don't want to bring those germs home.

My recommendations (in order of preference).

1. Wear no ring at work

2. Wear only a cheap ring -- and if you want, have a nice ring for social occasions to show off for your friends

3. Only have an inexpensive ring -- unless you are rich. I know too many people who waste so much money on such things and then have a marriage full of stress and fighting because of money problems ...

When it comes to things like wedding rings, gifts, etc. --- it really is the thought that counts, not the price. Don't hurt your financial future and strain your marriage because of materialistic fantasies fueled by TV shows, fairy tales, and merchants trying to sell you stuff.

Best wishes on your upcoming wedding.

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Infection control issues decide whether you wear a ring - also, a ring can tear gloves and scratch patients so I just don't wear my ring to work. You can lose it as well when you take the ring off to wash your hands.

Again, ask the jeweler about how soft the stone is and if wearing it while working would be a problem.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.

There's a post around here somewhere & in it a couple users posted about how the diamond came out of other nurse's setting at work. I would personally wear the current ring at work & keep the expensive one for at home.

Linky:

https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/engagement-ring-help-991210.html

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Oh, no financial strain here. We (my fiance) aren't buying a ring until we can afford it comfortably. I plan on working in an office setting, so I don't think a ring would be an issue. I know for a fact that my current employer allows rings (I'm an HHA with them right now, but they're one of the largest health care organizations in the area), so at least for the next while there are no issues. My school also allows rings and I know schools are usually stricter than out in the real world, but I do get the concerns raised here.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Oh, no financial strain here. We (my fiance) aren't buying a ring until we can afford it comfortably. I plan on working in an office setting, so I don't think a ring would be an issue. I know for a fact that my current employer allows rings (I'm an HHA with them right now, but they're one of the largest health care organizations in the area), so at least for the next while there are no issues. My school also allows rings and I know schools are usually stricter than out in the real world, but I do get the concerns raised here.

Do they allow a rings or a plain band? Usually it's a plain band because big rings like engagement rings can harbor bacteria, tear gloves & patients.

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Do they allow a rings or a plain band? Usually it's a plain band because big rings like engagement rings can harbor bacteria, tear gloves & patients.

And scratch patients . . .... .

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Do they allow a rings or a plain band? Usually it's a plain band because big rings like engagement rings can harbor bacteria, tear gloves & patients.

Rings with bling. They have to be engagement rings/wedding bands (so no cocktail rings just for the fun of it), but your typical run of the mill engagement ring is absolutely allowed.

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