Anyone Lost A Baby?

  1. Hello. I just lost my little boy at 20 weeks gestation last week. I am scared to death to go back to work, not only the fact that I have to face all of my peers with an empty belly and empty heart, but how I am I going to take care of all the miscarriages and ill infants of white trash parents who smoke in the house and all those kinds of things. I feel like it really takes a bit of emotional strength to perform our jobs on a day to day basis, so how am I supposed to do it when I am completely worn down? Have any of you ever been through something like this? Advice? I am thinking about making an appearance to "check the schedule" or something the day before I go back so I can get some of the hugs and things out of the way in case I break down.
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  3. by   oldiebutgoodie
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I have also lost a baby, and felt like a truck hit me for many months.

    That is probably a good idea to go in to check the schedule, to ease your way back in.

    Don't feel obligated to "get over it" and "move on" quickly. You have to mourn the loss of your boy. Take care of yourself. You may find yourself feeling angry when you see others who are pregnant or have new babies, and that's okay. Acknowledge your feelings, to yourself, an understanding friend, or a therapist.

    Best of luck to you.

    Oldiebutgoodie
  4. by   TCRNCOB61
    ((((((((((( happy-er-rn ))))))))))

    there is your first hug!! i to lost a baby and worked in l&d. it was hard but i had the support of my co-workers and that helped loads.

    just remember everyone grieves in their own time and in their own way so don't be hard on yourself. i still donate every year to the march of dimes in memory of my baby at christmas and it's been 18 years.

    create your own memories and only my best wishes for you and your family.

    theresa
  5. by   PurrRN
    I'm so sorry for your loss. {{HUGS}}
  6. by   gr8rnpjt
    (((((((((((((((HappyERRN))))))))))))))))))

    May God's Peace envelop you in the weeks and months to come. Do take some time off if you can. The hurt is unfathomable to those who have not experienced it. Good idea to pop in the day before to check the schedule.
  7. by   DiannaK
    Quote from gr8rnpjt
    (((((((((((((((HappyERRN))))))))))))))))))

    May God's Peace envelop you in the weeks and months to come. Do take some time off if you can. The hurt is unfathomable to those who have not experienced it. Good idea to pop in the day before to check the schedule.
    I second all the PPs opinions .... I've miscarried before, and it was very rough. Just keep in mind, everyone's grief has it's own timeline. What works for someone else may not work for you. God bless you.


    gr8rnpjt ... where did you find the pic in your profile? It was in Catholic Digest this month, and I just loved it.


    Dianna
  8. by   gr8rnpjt
    Quote from DiannaK
    I second all the PPs opinions .... I've miscarried before, and it was very rough. Just keep in mind, everyone's grief has it's own timeline. What works for someone else may not work for you. God bless you.


    gr8rnpjt ... where did you find the pic in your profile? It was in Catholic Digest this month, and I just loved it.


    Dianna
    I just found it online several months ago along with the story-the grandmother took the picture- granddaughter loves to go outside and carry on animated conversations with the Blessed Mother. (Priceless)
  9. by   June55Baby
    Yes, I lost a baby June 16, 1977 and although the grief is now just a heavy spot in my heart, I still think of that baby and remember him/her each June 16th and each January 7th (due date).

    Someone told me when I lost our baby that you grieve all you can grieve for the child you lose, whether the baby is 8 weeks gestation, 8 months geatation, or 8 years old.

    God Bless You and take the excellent advise of the other posters.
    Last edit by June55Baby on Apr 23, '07 : Reason: Clarification of post.
  10. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Yes I have. And it is devastating.

    I am so very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you, as do my prayers.
  11. by   princess_picklejuice
    I am so sorry for your loss. I had 3 miscarriages within a 3 year time span and I know how much it hurts.

    Please remember to take care of yourself. Give yourself time to cry, to be angry and to ask all the "why" questions.

    My prayers are with you. Take care.
  12. by   jill48
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you.:icon_hug:
  13. by   cardiacRN2006
    I'm so sorry you lost your precious baby boy... What did you name him?

    Good luck going back to work. I have never miscarried before, so I can't understand the pain you are going through. I will say a prayer for you and your boy.
  14. by   NurseyTee
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I too lost a baby, a little girl @ 22 weeks gestation on June 9th, 2004. That date and the day she was to be born are heavy days for my heart. I think it took me a good year to begin to move on carrying this grief. The hospital took care of buying the plot and burying her. The one thing I regret was that my husband nor I were able to hold her and say goodbye.

    I will keep you in my prayers, as that is what sustained me through the pain. Also haveing a very young child at home helped me too. I poured my heart into my children and that did help.

    Again, I'm so sorry.

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