Do I throw down the Gauntlet?

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I work for a great hospital with a lot of professional docs and nurses that work well together. Recently I have gotten into conflicts with a resident physician that always seems to start rounds with condescension and works up to brow-beating and belittling. This is not tolerated at my hospital, but if I start going through "the process" I have to confront, report, document, meet, counsel.... The end result is I'm going to make an enemy of someone who is likely to be working here long after I retire. Odds are, I'm not going to get someone who has little respect for nurses to change that opinion by dragging them into the department heads office for a few sessions of "how to play nice together". Good chance I'm going to end up working daily with someone who gives me even less respect than I get from them now; Less grousing and sniping, but still less respect. On the other hand I really hate to bite my tongue and act like it's OK to treat nurses(or anyone) like that.- ADVICE?

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I am not green at this- I've been dealing with cranky doctors for 30+ years. When pushed I can put on the best snarky-professional affect you can imagine. I just wanted to see if any nurse, anywhere, has taken a doctor, no matter what rank, to task about unacceptable attitude and ended up with a positive outcome. I think I'm just getting too old and too tired to go tilting at windmills. Maybe, in another 100 years, we will all work together for the good of the patients without power trips and posturing- but I'm not betting on it. (and I won't be around to see it).

I've taken a couple of doctors to task for miserable attitudes over the years, and have always had positive outcomes. One outcome took 25 years to come about, but still . . . . it was overwhelmingly positive. One doctor was giving me a hard time, and I sort of lost my cool and snapped "Yes, I'm sure Dr. S ordered this consult just to make both of our days miserable!" INSTANT turnaround. I wouldn't recommend this approach, but it sure worked! Another time, a cardiologist flew out of a patient's room, spotted me and started exclaiming "No matter what that nurse says, I didn't hit him." Nurse in question came out of the room a bit slower, sporting a rapidly-swelling eye. Cardiologist went to anger management classes for the third or fourth time. Interestingly enough, *I* never had a problem with him.

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I've taken a couple of doctors to task for miserable attitudes over the years, and have always had positive outcomes. One outcome took 25 years to come about, but still . . . . it was overwhelmingly positive. One doctor was giving me a hard time, and I sort of lost my cool and snapped "Yes, I'm sure Dr. S ordered this consult just to make both of our days miserable!" INSTANT turnaround. I wouldn't recommend this approach, but it sure worked! Another time, a cardiologist flew out of a patient's room, spotted me and started exclaiming "No matter what that nurse says, I didn't hit him." Nurse in question came out of the room a bit slower, sporting a rapidly-swelling eye. Cardiologist went to anger management classes for the third or fourth time. Interestingly enough, *I* never had a problem with him.

Anger management????? If he had hit me or a co-worker, he would have gone to physical therapy.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Anger management????? If he had hit me or a co-worker, he would have gone to physical therapy.

:roflmao:...I know I shouldn't laugh but that is funny!

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Specializes in Post Anesthesia.
Anger management????? If he had hit me or a co-worker, he would have gone to physical therapy.
A doctor HIT SOMEONE???

Physical Therapy- Nope, You hit me=you go to Jail. I may be willing to work with the local prosecuter for a community service instead of Pen time, but I don't wave my rights for civil damages- I need a lot of expensive dental work, and I may never be able to face working in the hospital again- let me give it a year of two off with pay and benefits and a little extra for pain and suffering and I'll let you know.

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Specializes in ICU.

The trouble starts when you go to "management".

They don't want to deal with extra work. They want to come in late go to a meeting take a two hour lunch off site, play candy crush/angry birds and leave early.

You need to have the conversation with this ying yang.

I would simply say to him privately : you're behaving like an ass ( or dick). When you act like this you just make yourself look bad. Knock it off.

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