PLEASE don't do it!

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Hi fellow correctional nurse's. I'm having a hard time convincing a coworker of mine to stop making contact with an inmate. I've tried to explain to her that they can be manipulative and that she can lose her job. She said she came to me about it because she "heard" that I did it and kept my job :nono:

The truth is that my husband had been arrested around the same time I started and I had to inform the administrator so that I could be move to another facility and she refused to move me because she needed me on the shift I was on. He was there for 3 days and somehow it was said that I met him there (funny how we were able to get married in jail within that time frame-WHATEVER!).

Anyway, if you know any situations gone wrong please post so that i may refer her here.

Specializes in pure and simple psych.

It happens not just to nurses in prisons, it also happens to guards, chapelancy staff, etc. Mercy, you are right, in that the nurse gets lots of warm fuzzies from the inmate, and it must feel like love. But the only two that I have actually known personally were jailed, lost their license, wrecked their future, and one ended up killing herself.

Specializes in Rehab, Corrections, LTC, and Detox Nurse.

No one here has ever lost their license but were just blacklisted. Maybe that's why they take the chance. My firneds whole attitude is that she can get another job because she doesn't look at corrections as a "career". And it does happen to others who have inmate contact as sanctuary said. I've worked in prisons where guards ask inmates to do sexual things in front of them. But that's another story for another site. Mercy I do see your point and it is a different way of looking at it.

I'm saddended by it because she is dead set on this and believes every word even when my husband and I have told her that some of the things she's being asked to put up with she shouldn't take from a man on the outside. She called me upset today that he called her last minute and asked her not to come to visitation because his children's mothe ris coming and he doesn't want the drama. Good Grief!

Some nurses might find themselves in situations where they've given into inmate manipulation for something small and then basically been blackmailed into continuing the behavior. I once heard of a nurse who was bringing cigarettes in for money. Once she'd crossed that line the inmates started demanding narcotics etc., and threatening to rat her out for her past behavior. It's a lose/lose situation.

Specializes in Rehab, Corrections, LTC, and Detox Nurse.

I don't even know how they can get away with it. Security at my facility is too tight. You'd have to have security in your pocket to do that. When stuff like that happens it's usually security.

My friend called me today and said he asked her to sneak in a cell phone when she comes Saturday. I think I'm taking a telephone break from her. She's out of control.

Hello:

I am sorry that you are in this position. There is only one thing for you to do. Run, don't walk to your SIS office and make a full report. You may be able to save your job. Your co-worker is finished. Indeed she may be headed to jail. The problem is that she will be found out. When she is, she will be pulled into an office and one of the first things that will happen is that she will be threatened and forced to give all the details, including your involvement. When that happens you will be gone. I have seen this happen. Please take this seriously. In the eyes of the investigators your hiding your knowledge of what is going on is as bad as what your co-worker is doing. Report this today. Good luck.

Paul

Specializes in My first yr. as a LVN!.

Sooooo crazy to me!!! Those nurses who actually get caught in it must really be naive! Or maybe desperate. I know for a fact no GUY or anyone for that matter is worth everything one has worked hard for. Plus your self worth.... all goes down the drain.

Better go to the administration and tell what you know. Both of you might become inmates if you don't. Inmates are manipulative social predators!

Specializes in Rehab, Corrections, LTC, and Detox Nurse.

UPDATE

I was surprised to see this thread active again. She was "walked out" by the administrator. Like I said you don't lose your license here you're just blackballed. She can't work anywhere in corrections in this area. Prior to that, the administrator found out from security members who didn't want this to happen to her and our administrator found out and tried to warn her of what would happen if chief of security found out. She didn't listen just denied it to the administrator and 2 weeks later-fired.

Also, the inmate played her and was released and went to live with his "real" girlfriend. It was a hell of a time.

Right now, I'm hearing whispers about another nurse in the facility.

UPDATE

I was surprised to see this thread active again. She was "walked out" by the administrator. Like I said you don't lose your license here you're just blackballed. She can't work anywhere in corrections in this area. Prior to that, the administrator found out from security members who didn't want this to happen to her and our administrator found out and tried to warn her of what would happen if chief of security found out. She didn't listen just denied it to the administrator and 2 weeks later-fired.

Also, the inmate played her and was released and went to live with his "real" girlfriend. It was a hell of a time.

Right now, I'm hearing whispers about another nurse in the facility.

You might want to let this nurse know about what happened to the other nurse that got fired. You might also want to suggest she read the book "Games Criminals Play" on one of her days off. Then maybe she can decide whether she still thinks her behavior is ok.

Also, the inmate played her and was released and went to live with his "real" girlfriend. It was a hell of a time.

When a female CO fell for an inmate and picked him up after he was paroled, he ended up stealing her car ... not only did she lose her job but she lost her car too.

These guys are so not worth it but some women still fall for it.

:typing

Specializes in Cardiac Telemetry, Emergency, SAFE.
When a female CO fell for an inmate and picked him up after he was paroled, he ended up stealing her car ... not only did she lose her job but she lost her car too.

These guys are so not worth it but some women still fall for it.

:typing

ROFL!

:rotfl:

ROFL!

:rotfl:

Yeah ... it was pretty funny, actually.

You gotta wonder about some of these women ... dumb as the day is long.

:rolleyes:

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