I would really like some advice on how to handle this. I transitioned from inpatient to outpatient about 2 years ago. Two of the girls felt quite threatened for some reason, & at first I did feel a bit bullied. One of them wouldn't acknowledge me or look me in the eyes. In time we all grew & became good friends. We laugh & share problems & help each other now - we make a nice team. I am great friends with one of those women now; I'll call her Bretta. We tell each other everything & just connect very deeply. My coworker "Erin," however, has always seemed to be quite bothered by this. It started out pretty passive, like if Bretta & I walked to grab a coffee & came back, Erin would passive aggressively mention that we didn't ask her if she wanted one. I literally felt uncomfortable leaving the ward w/ Bre to get coffee or grab water or take a walk. I'm very friendly to Erin. We crack jokes & I'm always willing to help. She seems to be very fixated on my friendship w/ Bretta though. She now says things about how we can't be without each other when we aren't around. She told my boss we don't do work... although yesterday I received an award for going above & beyond during COVID... which probably perturbed her. She tells people we are mean to her. I have never once been rude to this girl, & if I had been, I would have apologized. Today we were given our annual competency & one part is on lateral violence. In front of my co-workers, she randomly said to my ANM, "if you ask me, we sure have A LOT of bullying & lateral violence around here." When asked what she meant, she said "um them" & pointed down to where Bretta & I usually sit. She said, "me vs. them." When a co-worker reacted & said "what are you talking about?" She said, "them leaving me out of everything is bullying." Later, Bretta was standing w/ a portable computer around the corner & I was sitting at the nurses' station next to Erin. Bre mentioned she re-scheduled something to Sept. I knew what she was talking about - an entrance exam as she is an LPN wanting her RN. I said I thought that was great if she didn't feel ready but she had to have a plan. She said "I don't like talking to you through a wall," & laughed. Erin then immediately grabbed her things angrily & said "I'LL JUST GO YOU CAN SIT HERE BRETTA" & started to walk away. I was a bit confused & kind of lightly said "Emily why would ya do that there are five open seats right next to us." She kind of brushed me off w/ her hand & said something I didn't hear. She then left the clinic.
I have never gone to a supervisor w/ an interpersonal issue. I usually just work it out as I am an open communicator. But this has been going on for about a year & a half. I am a grown woman who has a friendship w/ another grown adult. We like to take our breaks together & we are laughing a lot because we get along great. I am also friends w/ my other co-workers - never ignore anyone or do anything weird/mean-girlish. I can usually anticipate peoples' moods & needs & am very empathetic.
This however, makes me feel like I should draw a line. Sitting & talking to my ANM saying negative things about me after I leave work is inappropriate (he's kind of useless & just tries to say nothing). And not to be rude, but this girl literally does the bare minimum & no extra work. I have done major efficiency & workflow improvement projects. It's not a competition but she has no grounds to say I do no work. It doesn't make sense. I can brush it off, but when she starts referring to me stating I am a bully/lateral violence... That's unacceptable. It's my professional reputation & it's also really annoying. I get it, she feels left out. I don't know what else I can do for her. But I am not bullying this person. I see her getting more upset lately & I think I need to talk to my ANM about her odd fixation on my friendship w/ Bretta & resultant inappropriate behavior & offer a mediation or ask what he suggests I do. I don't think she knows that I am aware of all the things she's saying - she's hoping my image is tainted behind my back.
Am I overreacting or is this an appropriate response?