Burnout or just Cranky?

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In the last two weeks, I've found myself increasingly frustrated with the whining.

My coworkers are whining that they have to do their jobs (whether it be transport, techs, RNs, or providers). Students are complaining that the entire universe has it in for them (because no one else has problems). The patients are all complaining that they've had to wait 5 whole minutes for XYZ. In fact, all I have been hearing at home is whining too, Christmas is expensive (well duh!), the meals I cook aren't what they wanted, etc.

In my entire nursing career, my attitude has always been "It's ok. We'll make it work. It sucks, but we always do. Tell me what you need and I'll make it happen." People comment on it, some of them say they depend on it. However, in the last two weeks my attitude has changed to "No matter what I do, it isn't good enough to satisfy anyone."

So I'm going on vacation. I'm going to get away from my job and my family and do whatever I want for a whole week, maybe just a long weekend. Money's tight so it'll have to be something tiny. I don't care. I want a good book, a hot soaking tub, and no one to tell me that what I want to do isn't going to work for them... vacation, here I come!

"For instance when I told my husband that I was having, say, Tuesdays as MY day, he went immediately into Worst-Case-Scenario mode: the dishes would be undone, the laundry pile up, etc., etc, etc. But the world is not going to hell in a handbasket if a task is postponed or someone else has to do it for a change. Now I just have to re-convince myself that I am worth my own time and energy!"

OOOOOOOOOOh no. If I was made to feel guilty with this argument, I'd tell my honey pie, who I love dearly,to "suck it....YOU DO IT " Not literally, of course. But in a nice way :)

Specializes in Med nurse in med-surg., float, HH, and PDN.

Actually, since then, he has stepped up and does do his share and then some!

Specializes in ICU.

Self care is totally important. I was sitting in lecture this week and I really felt like I was going to lose it on someone. Other people don't realize how much their negativity affects other people. We are on Thanksgiving break for the next week and I am alone this weekend as my son is with his dad and I am doing some stuff just for me. Completely and totally for me. If that means I just sit and watch some mindless tv for 2 whole days, I'm going to do it. I might even just crack open a bottle of wine too!!! :up:

Specializes in Certified Med/Surg tele, and other stuff.

Sounds like a bit of burnout. You are too busy making sure everyone is ok but not filling your own glass. Time to take care of you.

I too was a poster child for burnout, and I enjoy my days off from work. On the flip side, I'm heavily involved in work committees trying to change processes that were designed by people who have never stepped foot on a med/surg floor. It's a weird balance, but it seems to work.

As for the whining.. OMG. I don't know how to handle that. I want to yell at them to shut up. Can't do that obviously, so I'm working on changing their mindset. I certainly changed mine, so I know it's possible.

Specializes in hospice.
If I was made to feel guilty with this argument, I'd tell my honey pie, who I love dearly,to "suck it....YOU DO IT " Not literally, of course. But in a nice way :)

If my husband were dumb enough to guilt me that way, he'd get "suck it, you do it" with no editing, sugarcoating, or apologies. Nice, schmice.

If he really did complain about dishes and laundry piling up, though, my first reponse would probably be to ask how that's different from normal. In a house with five kids in school who also do sports and music, and two parents who work full time and are taking turns going to school, and two dogs, we all have chores and they usually get done....and it still looks like we never clean up. I gave up on the June Cleaver thing a long time ago.

Specializes in PACU, presurgical testing.

Nursing is a great profession, but nursing will not take care of you. I am motivated by these posts to take at least one day between now and Christmas to do things that I need to do for me, and not just doc's appts and Christmas shopping for other people! :)

Specializes in ED, Critical Care.

When I stopped caring, the job got much easier.

I work full time in fire/ems but, it transcends across the room to nursing. i live with A holes 24 hours a day a few days a week. If I am not running a call, training or dealing FD issues I sit in my room and read or watch TV. I used to let work consume me. Now I don't care. I do what I am supposed to do. Treat pts like I am supposed to. Put out fires like I am supposed to, train like I am supposed to, etc, etc.

I leave all the complaining and ******** to everyone else. I can't fix the budget, I can't buy new trucks, I can't make dumb people stop calling 911. I make sure my guys and myself don't get hurt and go home at 0800 each morning. I don't stay over and "talk." I have very few friends from work. Most want to talk work away from work. Not me.

I work pt in nursing so for me it is a little easier. If the crap gets too thick I just don't get on the schedule or turn down call in work.

I get a chuckle out of the "I love my job" crowd.

Once you realize the job you love does not love you back. You can get on track to fixing yourself.

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