I have never before encountered bullying before nursing school. But it so clearly exists, clearer than the air we breathe.
I learned how to "accommodate" the bullies, who thought that "I had a problem" with asking the professor for clarification, hence I am ESL - English as second language
This person was so bothered by it, that she approached me in the cafeteria, and told me how much she dislikes me.
I ended up successfully graduating and passing NCLEX on my first try.
Lesson learned: please report school or floor bullies. If you don't, they will go on destroying more lives.
I hope you calmly and confidently told her hell would freeze over before you would give a rat's patoot what she thinks of you.
Bullies like weak victims. It really ruins their whole plan when someone stands up to them with cool authority.
I tried to. I forgot to mention earlier, that it was a third person sitting on the same cafeteria table, when she confronted me. I tried to say that I'm sorry, but I was only merely repeating what the professor was saying, not even interrupting the flow of the class, to make sure I understood correctly. She kept going off on me, and when I stood up to her she said: "see? You are too sensitive!"
How are you going to reply to that?
I went to my professor at that term, but she didn't care, because the bully in question ended up being officially their "pet" . Said professor was eventually fired, after I graduated, because of her favours to certain students ( I had nothing to do with that).
I'm sorry if I struck nerves, I'm just trying to bring awareness. Maybe in nursing school you feel that is little you can do. And maybe most will not take it up to the Dean, as I should have. But at least take it up while you're a full fledged RN. No need to suffer bullying. You have a licence , you worked really really hard to earn it, cherish it , respect it and respect yourself.
Those with psych problems can go get help as needed. No need to try and put up with their abuse.
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
By constantly scoffing at me in class, literally almost laughing out loud when I was asking for clarifications and it culminated with her approaching me and telling me that "she has a problem with me" because I was asking too many questions.
That's not "not liking someone". I was paying the same tuition as she did , no need to bellitle me.
Also, same person harrased my friend who is AA , in clinicals. They constantly snickered and laughed behind her back. SAME people.
Please don't make excuses for them. I wouldn't have brought it up if it wasn't serious. Screw bullies
I can see how one person asking question after question and holding up the whole class could annoy someone who didn't need the clarification and was anxious to move on to something new. She was paying the same tuition as you, but wasn't able to move on from something already understood by most of the class because you held everyone up.
I don't understand the part about harassing your friend -- isn't Alcoholics Anonymous supposed to be anonymous, so how would this person know to harass her?
There are bullies in nursing -- I've met two over the past forty years. There are also nurses in mining, in teaching, in sales and in every other occupation in which there are people.
Someone disliking you or being annoyed with you isn't really bullying. It may be unpleasant, but it isn't bullying.
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I think the amount of bullying that goes on in nursing is beyond ridiculous. I stood up to nurse bullying and got fired from my job recently. I think that as the United States of America continue to adopt third world nations culture of slave mentality in the workplace it will continue, but the powers that be will come up with a clever new catch phrase bullying- problem solved.
Given your posts on another thread, I tend to take you less than seriously, Donald. After five jobs in two years, it seems that the common denominator was you.
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I tried to. I forgot to mention earlier, that it was a third person sitting on the same cafeteria table, when she confronted me. I tried to say that I'm sorry, but I was only merely repeating what the professor was saying, not even interrupting the flow of the class, to make sure I understood correctly. She kept going off on me, and when I stood up to her she said: "see? You are too sensitive!"
How are you going to reply to that?
I went to my professor at that term, but she didn't care, because the bully in question ended up being officially their "pet" . Said professor was eventually fired, after I graduated, because of her favours to certain students ( I had nothing to do with that).
I'm sorry if I struck nerves, I'm just trying to bring awareness. Maybe in nursing school you feel that is little you can do. And maybe most will not take it up to the Dean, as I should have. But at least take it up while you're a full fledged RN. No need to suffer bullying. You have a licence , you worked really really hard to earn it, cherish it , respect it and respect yourself.
Those with psych problems can go get help as needed. No need to try and put up with their abuse.
I think there is plenty of awareness about bullying these days. No need to go "trying to bring awareness." If anything, we need to tone down on all of the outcry about "bullies" because most of it isn't really about bullies at all. It's about people not getting along and rather than accept ANY of the blame for that, they complain about being the innocent victim of some mean bully.
Your whole story doesn't reek of bullies; it reeks of school girl drama. Perhaps, in your effort to bring about awareness of bullying, you should delve into the topic deeply enough to uncover the three part definition of bullying as someone upthread suggested, and perhaps discuss some appropriate ways to deal with that rare occurrence in the professional world.
Given your posts on another thread, I tend to take you less than seriously, Donald. After five jobs in two years, it seems that the common denominator was you.
Considering your* previous posts, I feel the same about you. I guessing feelings are mutual, "Donald.
Considering that Ruby quoted another poster, I think it's safe to say that wasn't directed at you.
Fair enough, but it was an honest mistake, considering my past interactions with that poster. Also, she just said in this thread that she "thought AA was Alcoholic Anonymous". Yah right, sure! That's what she "thought".
I think there is plenty of awareness about bullying these days. No need to go "trying to bring awareness." If anything, we need to tone down on all of the outcry about "bullies" because most of it isn't really about bullies at all. It's about people not getting along and rather than accept ANY of the blame for that, they complain about being the innocent victim of some mean bully.
Your whole story doesn't reek of bullies; it reeks of school girl drama. Perhaps, in your effort to bring about awareness of bullying, you should delve into the topic deeply enough to uncover the three part definition of bullying as someone upthread suggested, and perhaps discuss some appropriate ways to deal with that rare occurrence in the professional world.
Has anybody ever told you that you are massively projecting, especially on this type of topic? You constantly put other posters down, dismiss their problems, call them names, etc etc etc. Maybe you should take a good look in the mirror, Ruby Vee. I know this is just a discussion board, but these are real people you talk to.
If AllNurses will ever have an ignore function, you will be the first one to be ignored. It is you who creates personal drama, not people who come here to vent and talk about issues.
Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.
Fair enough, but it was an honest mistake, considering my past interactions with that poster. Also, she just said in this thread that she "thought AA was Alcoholic Anonymous". Yah right, sure! That's what she "thought".
I wish AN had an ignore function.
It does. You can find the ignore list in settings.
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I tried to. I forgot to mention earlier, that it was a third person sitting on the same cafeteria table, when she confronted me. I tried to say that I'm sorry, but I was only merely repeating what the professor was saying, not even interrupting the flow of the class, to make sure I understood correctly. She kept going off on me, and when I stood up to her she said: "see? You are too sensitive!"
How are you going to reply to that?
I went to my professor at that term, but she didn't care, because the bully in question ended up being officially their "pet" . Said professor was eventually fired, after I graduated, because of her favours to certain students ( I had nothing to do with that).
I'm sorry if I struck nerves, I'm just trying to bring awareness. Maybe in nursing school you feel that is little you can do. And maybe most will not take it up to the Dean, as I should have. But at least take it up while you're a full fledged RN. No need to suffer bullying. You have a licence , you worked really really hard to earn it, cherish it , respect it and respect yourself.
Those with psych problems can go get help as needed. No need to try and put up with their abuse.