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Hi all.  Thanks in advance for reading.

Without getting into too much detail, I work nocs and I believe the days charge nurse is targeting me.  I do not have ANY issues with other staff RNs or charges.

The assistant manager told me to “be careful” around her.  We are friends outside of work.

She has filed a couple of incident reports against me.  Some of which are completely fabricated.

I have been a telemetry nurse for 7 years and this is a first.  I am a newer employee at this hospital and she has been there for 20+ years.  Do I seek human resources or the union for assistance?  I approached the director for advice and she told me to “talk to her.”  I feel that isn’t appropriate because she is already documenting against me.  I am planning to transfer to the ICU in a year.  Should I just leave it alone?

Thanks again? 

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TriciaJ has 37 years experience as a RN and works as a Retired.

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There is a recent thread on this site about giving people enough rope to hang themselves.  That might be your best bet in this case.  Fabricated is easy.  It means she has nothing and the onus is on her to show that she has something.  I laugh at fabricated.

I would approach your manager after every incident report and request "feedback".  That would show a proactive approach to learning from your errors.  It will also make the day charge start looking bad if she's writing a lot of nonsense.  Do not discuss with her or your "friend" what to do about the problem person.  Just deal with each situation as it comes up - calmly, factually and non-defensively.

 Do not "talk to" the perpetrator.  That never works with underhanded people.  HR is usually worse than useless.  Don't poke sticks in that cage.  I would talk to the union, just to give them a heads up.  (Unless the charge nurse is very active in the union; then she will have more credibility with them.)  Do keep a notebook at home.  Record every interaction you have with this person and with anyone else as a result of her actions.

Meanwhile, let her keep writing her stupid incident reports.  She is creating a paper trail with her name on it.  This is her rope.  When Risk Management and whoever else starts smelling a vendetta then she will be on the hot seat.  You can check your contract if there's any language about "hostile work environment" and decide if you want to use your notebook and pursue anything at any point.

 

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Ruby Vee has 40 years experience as a BSN.

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Tricia gave you some good advice.  The only thing I would add to it is to tell you to be careful with this assistant manager who is a friend outside of work.  Your friend may be very different than my (former) friend, but I was friends with a colleague who accepted the assistant manager position, and from the day she started that job, she was treacherous.  Continue the friendship, but don't talk about work-related stuff other than the very basic and trivial.  Don't give her any information she can use against you.  

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TriciaJ has 37 years experience as a RN and works as a Retired.

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Good point about not trusting "friends" once they have been promoted above you.  I learned that the hard way with someone I would not have in a million years thought capable of treachery.

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KrysyRN has 28 years experience.

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I'm going to give you some different advice. I think you SHOULD go to HR to let them know what's been happening. If she's fabricating - LYING - about you, she needs to be reported and fired. Slander and libel (defamation) should never be tolerated. I would stop speaking to her unless absolutely necessary, and even then, with a witness present. 

 

 

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