Baby due after one month after srna program begins

lady_stic · Jan 20, 2015

It will be hard as heck but almost anything is feasible if you want it bad enough. I don't have any children or a husband and I can't fathom how anyone can go through this program with young children. If I didn't see it, I wouldn't believe it. There are several people in my program that have very young children like you will, and they're doing great. Their family dynamics though are sometimes a different story. Many people people get divorces while in school. It's very taxing on families without children involved, so I can only imagine how difficult it is on a marriage with children. I don't mean to be negative as I'm just stating what I see and what my classmates have told me. Like I said, you can definitely do it, but it will be the most difficult and trying years of your life....as it has been for me:) I pray that you have a wonderful and supportive family. If that's the case, all will be well and it will definitely be worth it.

chemokine · Jan 21, 2015

This must be a very stressful situation but I think it is feasible if you are really committed. The first good thing is that your mom is willing and available to help out. This is a godsend really that you have that kind of support. The next thing is that you would have the baby right in the beginning of the program presumably before any clinicals start. This might make it easier but it really depends on your program and how much they are willing to work with you.

You are going to need to discuss this with your program director sooner or later and sooner is probably better to be honest. I think there is a good chance they can work with you on this. You would not be the first one to give birth during CRNA school.

subee, MSN, CRNA · Jan 21, 2015

Starting a program now would be a disservice to your now 3 children. Chalk this up to can't have everything - IMHO. Unless your mother does EVERYTHING for you, you will have NO time for 3 kids. Back in the early 80's when I was in school, people with kids weren't even accepted unless they had full/time 24/7 childcare. The only student I knew that had kids was one who had a stay-at-home husband after saving money for years.

lady_stic · Jan 21, 2015

I agree with @subee. You asked if you were setting yourself up for failure and though you may successfully complete the program, you may very well "fail" in other areas in your life because it's just not possible to do it all. I'm really sorry that you're in this position. You just have to figure out what's important to you and what you're willing to sacrifice.

schnookimz · Jan 21, 2015

When I started nursing school there was a girl in my class who was due right after school began. I asked her if she was worried about missing time with the baby. She told me, " no way. He won't remember any of this, but when he is 3 and interactive and forming memories then I will finally have the money and time to be there with him."

It's something to think about. I agree with her. Your baby will still be getting good care and will have a special lifelong bond with grandma. Go to school. There will never be a "perfect" time.

lady_stic · Jan 21, 2015

I love this response. That's certainly a different perspective that I didn't think about.

When I started nursing school there was a girl in my class who was due right after school began. I asked her if she was worried about missing time with the baby. She told me, " no way. He won't remember any of this, but when he is 3 and interactive and forming memories then I will finally have the money and time to be there with him."
It's something to think about. I agree with her. Your baby will still be getting good care and will have a special lifelong bond with grandma. Go to school. There will never be a "perfect" time.

jamisaurus · Jan 22, 2015

you may very well "fail" in other areas in your life because it's just not possible to do it all.

Unfortunate but true. It might not matter "because the baby won't remember anything", but YOU will remember that you missed his/her first words, first steps, putting him/her to sleep every night. I just couldn't handle that.

Red Kryptonite · Jan 22, 2015

The first three years are the most formative of a child's life, and I know all five of mine were very interactive and definitely knew who I was, to the exclusion of others, well before three years. What a horrifying attitude. Why are parents, particularly mothers in the modern age, so willing to believe they don't matter to the unique souls they create?!

schnookimz · Jan 23, 2015

I don't think anyone is arguing that mom matters. But what matters most is that the child gets great care and that's not really the issue at hand here because there is a ready and willing familial caregiver.

sarahneeyah · Jan 25, 2015

Hi there, I was going to just read all the comments and move on to the next thread, but I had to says something. You are not the first and you will not be the last woman to be in this position. My best friend got pregnant 2 months into the program and she was devastated. She made plans with her school regarding giving birth and taking time off, etc. Will it be extra hard? He'll yes. Can you still do it? He'll yes. You are bless to have the support of your mom. You are going to school for those 3 beautiful children you are blessed with, you will do this if you want it. Also, in 2012, I gave birth to my second child at Loma Linda University Medical Center. The SRNA in the room was 5 months pregnant. I asked her about the stress of the program on the pregnancy and baby. She said that she took things one day at a time and she had great family support. You have the support. GO FOR IT. Medical students do it all the time. As women we are pretty strong when we need to be. I had one of the worse pregnancy and I was too weak to work, so I was on leave for the last 6 months of the pregnancy. But, both of my pregnancies were like this. You already have two children and hopefully you will have a uneventful pregnancy. You said that you will not breast feed, so you and the baby will be fine. Don't miss out, go to school and complete this race. Best wishes.

sarahneeyah · Jan 25, 2015

As far as missing out on the first couple of years of your child's life. Unless you are going to school out of state, you will see your child. I work five days a week and I do miss out on some things but I am doing this for my children. You will be in school 4 to 5 days a week. On the weekend, I am sure you will be studying, but you will not study for the whole 48 hours at home. Have a family day every week to bond and catch up with your children. Example, take Saturday mornings off and be with your family. On Sunday, get back into school mood. You can do it. If not now, when?