Anorexia and the RN

Energizer Bunny · Jun 28, 2004

Help from us is not going to get you where you want to be. I appreciate the fact that you came here for support. Heck I do too, BUT with an issue such as this, you need to get professional help in your area....counseling, perhaps medication, etc. Please go to your doctor Immediately!!!

KibbsRNstudent · Jun 28, 2004

The family at allnurses cares about you and wants you to be well. Life isn't just about a person's size. We care about how you feel about you inside. What has happened recently that has made you feel this way? Seeing a counselor is the first step to help you find you again. Let us know how you are doing. :kiss

Thank you. Also a side note. I feel taht certain things may trigger this to come out. I need a place to vent sometimes and I can not always do taht. My husband is a controlling person. When he gets mad he takes things away from me. he also tells me every day that I have gotten so fat and ugly since the kids were born.

Just last night he called me every fat name in the book and told me I was better off leaving him and the kids or killing myself(I think he saus taht b/c my mother used to and he knows it gets to me) Anyway, he told me last night taht he is not comign home in time for me to get to classes and taht I am not allowed to go to school anymore. I am so angry right now. I have a micro class tonight and I have a team speech to give tomorrow and my partner in the communications calss with me will flunk the speech if I do not show up. I am so depressed and angry right now. That is def. a trigger for me and He is part of the reason I can not put the only thing I can control out of my life. I pray that he does come home this afternoon. I leave early on Mon. I really contemplated running away last nigth btu I have no money as I do not have a job outside the home. I am a stay-at-home-mom and I go to school at night. (or I used to) I do not want to quit school. The last time my husband did this to me he was physically abusive and forced me to stay home. My prof. was concerned enough to call me the next day and ask if all was alright. I do not feel trapped by the anorexia btu more in control and free b/c of it.

Energizer Bunny · Jun 28, 2004

Okay, you know what you are going to hear now.....GET OUT OF THE SITUATION!!! I've been there/done that. I know all the reasons you want to stay.......but there comes a point where you have to realize you are worth more than the abuse he is heaping on you. Get some help!!! There are tons of resources to help you!!!!! Please!!!!

((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

jonnygirl27 · Jul 3, 2004

I've been anorexic for 14 years, have been in recovery for 2 and am also a nursing student--I graduate in MAY. I really don't think that nursing school, or nursing for that matter, is something you should do while you are still ill. Its a huge responsibility, one that I wouldn't want to undertake in the condition I was in while I was ill.

jonnygirl27 · Jul 3, 2004

I've been anorexic for 14 years, have been in recovery for 2 and am also a nursing student--I graduate in MAY. I really don't think that nursing school, or nursing for that matter, is something you should do while you are still ill. Its a huge responsibility, one that I wouldn't want to undertake in the condition I was in while I was ill.

Godswill · Jul 3, 2004

Are there any RN's or even student nurses out there taht are or have had Anorexia or Bulimia? Do you still have it? I do have anorexia and no one knows about it. They thought I was better but when I gained all the weight back I got depressed again and I am so tempted to do it again. It never really left me. I may be an idiot but I do not think I am ready to give it up yet. I KNOW how bad it is and how deadly but it is a psychological thing I guess. I love the control it gives me in a chaotic world and I do so desperately need to lose the weight I gained. Please talk to me. Support, advice, whatever you like. thanks.

i so can relate to u , i developed both in school, i fight this disorder everyday, it something that is just in me. I did get counseling for my disorder and i did put on some weight followed by pregnancy which balloned me up to 211 and after that preg i just knew i would go back to that old way of getting it off, but i really had to check myself, and i still check myself every day, i wake up everyday thinking of food, I decided to give low carb a a try, it worked and lost the weight a healthy way, yet it still there, that urge to purge, but u have to get help and realize that its not your fault it like a trigger that click in our head. I for one am a size 6 and everyday i get up and look at myself and say , Dang I am fat :crying2: , but u have to realize who u see in that mirror is not who u, our minds can play cruel tricks on us. Please get help and take care of u :)

Godswill · Jul 3, 2004

Are there any RN's or even student nurses out there taht are or have had Anorexia or Bulimia? Do you still have it? I do have anorexia and no one knows about it. They thought I was better but when I gained all the weight back I got depressed again and I am so tempted to do it again. It never really left me. I may be an idiot but I do not think I am ready to give it up yet. I KNOW how bad it is and how deadly but it is a psychological thing I guess. I love the control it gives me in a chaotic world and I do so desperately need to lose the weight I gained. Please talk to me. Support, advice, whatever you like. thanks.

i so can relate to u , i developed both in school, i fight this disorder everyday, it something that is just in me. I did get counseling for my disorder and i did put on some weight followed by pregnancy which balloned me up to 211 and after that preg i just knew i would go back to that old way of getting it off, but i really had to check myself, and i still check myself every day, i wake up everyday thinking of food, I decided to give low carb a a try, it worked and lost the weight a healthy way, yet it still there, that urge to purge, but u have to get help and realize that its not your fault it like a trigger that click in our head. I for one am a size 6 and everyday i get up and look at myself and say , Dang I am fat :crying2: , but u have to realize who u see in that mirror is not who u, our minds can play cruel tricks on us. Please get help and take care of u :)

Godswill · Jul 3, 2004

Just wanted to say that my parent divorce triggered that in me, it was my way of controling something. It almost killed me. please get help

Godswill · Jul 3, 2004

Just wanted to say that my parent divorce triggered that in me, it was my way of controling something. It almost killed me. please get help

KibbsRNstudent · Jul 3, 2004

Just wanted to say that my parent divorce triggered that in me, it was my way of controling something. It almost killed me. please get help

Thanks for all the advice. It really is not easy to just "get rid" of the disease. It stays with you in your mind always. I have lost 13 lbs now since last week and my husband is on my case about being way to fat again. I hate that! I also hate that I am tall as my husband says I am a 6 foot tall freak. There is a guy one of my classes taht is 6'8" and he says he likes tall gilrs and he also thinks I am pretty and not fat. He is a very sweet guy. Too bad I am married!! This guy suggested taht I go to my husband and talk to him about what bothers me. I alsomst fell over! That is something taht can not be done with my husband. He feels that a woman should take her place and shut up. I could not beleive a guy would even suggest sitting down and discussing something! WOW! I never knew guys could be nice. seriously! I though females just had no say. wow, I should have shopped around more before I got married. Oh well, I am stuck. I took a vow for better OR worse. I need to honor it.

KibbsRNstudent · Jul 3, 2004

Just wanted to say that my parent divorce triggered that in me, it was my way of controling something. It almost killed me. please get help

Thanks for all the advice. It really is not easy to just "get rid" of the disease. It stays with you in your mind always. I have lost 13 lbs now since last week and my husband is on my case about being way to fat again. I hate that! I also hate that I am tall as my husband says I am a 6 foot tall freak. There is a guy one of my classes taht is 6'8" and he says he likes tall gilrs and he also thinks I am pretty and not fat. He is a very sweet guy. Too bad I am married!! This guy suggested taht I go to my husband and talk to him about what bothers me. I alsomst fell over! That is something taht can not be done with my husband. He feels that a woman should take her place and shut up. I could not beleive a guy would even suggest sitting down and discussing something! WOW! I never knew guys could be nice. seriously! I though females just had no say. wow, I should have shopped around more before I got married. Oh well, I am stuck. I took a vow for better OR worse. I need to honor it.

Megsd, BSN, RN · Jul 4, 2004

I have lost 13 lbs now since last week and my husband is on my case about being way to fat again. I hate that!

Not that I'm any kind of expert on this sort of thing, but if you're already weight-conscious and anorexic, and your husband is telling you you're fat... he really can't be helping you cope with your situation. I admire your willingness to stick to your vows and whatnot, but your marriage could be detrimental to your health if he keeps suggesting you need to lose weight. I would not only recommend talking to a professional, but when you do, I would mention your husband's attitude toward your weight, because that really concerns me.

Meghan