I've been a NICU nurse for over 20 years. The parents have been the most difficult to deal with, not the babies. so, I will try to be brief. I worked my BUTT off on a very sick baby for 8 hrs. The parents visited briefly earlier in the shift and they seemed fine. I took the baby to CT scan plus he had a lumbar puncture, which was successful. I also had another baby with him. Luckily I had help from a great co-worker. Everything seemed ok until the mom showed up at the end of shift. The baby is over 2 months old now, so I know the parents have had enough. But, they are also young and immature for their age.
So, when I was trying to give report, the mom insisted the baby's replogle tube was not working right (it was on intermittent suction). I explained I had just emptied 20ml from the tube, so I knew it was working. I also walked over and checked the connection, which was fine. She kept insisting it wasn't working no matter what I told her. I explained that tehse tubes do not always have secretions coming out constantly.
In our unit, the parents are NOT asked to step out during report. This has been difficult for us, because some parents become very disruptive...like this mom...plus the parents hear everything about the other babies. What about HIPPA?? I don't get it.
Anyway, I tried to tell her we were busy giving report and I would have the next nurse (who I introduced to her) come and look at it again and flush it if necessary. I guess the word "busy" threw her over the edge. This was not an emergency, so I felt ok trying to show that we were giving report, which was very long on this pt.
She immediately asked to see the manager. I told her I would get her in a few minutes. She raised her voice even more and demanded I get her. so, I abruptly left the room (I WAS NOT HAPPY with her behavior). So, when the manager came in and I had to hear the mom complain about me, I was so upset I had to leave the room and give report in another room! I was crying because I had just worked REALLY hard on this kid and she treated me this way for nothing! Other nurses have had issues with these people, so it isn't just me. I am so tired of our managers kissing parents' butts. I think they should leave during shift change for sure! So, I was at work an hour after the shift ended because of this. So, we decided I wouldn't take care of this kid anymore. That's fine with me. I don't even want to be in the same room with them.
I had to vent about this...I haven't been back to work yet. Has anyone ever had situations like this where you have a rude and ignorant parent or visitor that acts like this?? What do you do?