Anesthesia question

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

I hate to ask something so dumb, but here it goes, and truly asking for a non medical friend. Her hubby, who's been caught cheating in the past and she forgave, recently had same day surgery. He made some questionable comments about a female coworker that she suspected he was trying to hit on/pick up, possibly more. She asked me how much stock should she put into those comments-some were pretty damning-from what she told me. I told her to I'd ask those with more experience with this, as I haven't dealt with that in years. He of course says it's all just nothing. Any thoughts?

[kp2016]

That drama is so messy I wouldn't be drawn into commenting at all if I were you. I have years of PACU experience and feel like I'm doing you a favor by answering "no comment".

[Davey Do]

YEARS ago, when I had a colonoscopy, a woman with who I had had a brief affair with some years before worked in the GI lab. We became platoic friends and ended up working in the same medical center. I specifically requested that she not assist in the procedure due to the fact that I'd be under the influences of Versed and feared a loss of inhibition saying something truthful, e.g. about our past love affair.

Another nurse assisted, in fact she and I had gone through the LPN together back in '83. I remember no part of the procedure and asked her if I had said anything inappropriate. She said that I asked the doctor questions and "you were a perfect gentleman".

I later spoke with the nurse who I requested not be present and explained my reasoning. She said she had no problem with my request, stating, "I just thought you didn't want me to see your butt!"

My little story probably doesn't directly answer your enquiry, Hoosier, but it does give some points of reference.

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

kp2016 said:

That drama is so messy I wouldn't be drawn into commenting at all if I were you. I have years of PACU experience and feel like I'm doing you a favor by answering "no comment".

I did tell her I wouldn't be drawn into the drama, but I'd find out how much stock to put into the comments, as she's been through the wringer with him. I told her directly that I didn't want to know what all he said, better off that way, as I see him pretty regularly out and about

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

Davey Do said:

YEARS ago, when I had a colonoscopy, a woman with who I had had a brief affair with some years before worked in the GI lab. We became platoic friends and ended up working in the same medical center. I specifically requested that she not assist in the procedure due to the fact that I'd be under the influences of Versed and feared a loss of inhibition saying something truthful, e.g. about our past love affair.

Another nurse assisted, in fact she and I had gone through the LPN together back in '83. I remember no part of the procedure and asked her if I had said anything inappropriate. She said that I asked the doctor questions and "you were a perfect gentleman".

I later spoke with the nurse who I requested not be present and explained my reasoning. She said she had no problem with my request, stating, "I just thought you didn't want me to see your butt!"

My little story probably doesn't directly answer your enquiry, Hoosier, but it does give some points of reference.

You took the high road, that's the good thing. I feel bad for my friend. I suspect that everything that shes worried about is true. I don't envy her in the least 

[Davey Do]

Hoosier_RN said:

 I'd find out how much stock to put into the comments

Anyone who has behaved in any way before has a higher propensity to behave in a certain manner than one who has not behaved in that way. Now, when one endeavors to change a manner of behavior, it doesn't mean they lose all trappings of that behavior.

For example, when my wife Belinda and I began having a serious, intimate relationship 18 years ago, I was quite open with my past affairs, both for my need to have an open, honest relationship, but also to let her know what she was getting into. I can say with some pride that I have not done anything with any women which Belinda would find inappropriate.

HOWEVER, it doesn't mean that I haven't entertained consideration of being infidel yet have remained in a state of fidelity for two reasons: One, is my devotion to Belinda and investing in the relationship, and two, is that it just ain't worth it.

Hoosier_RN said:

You took the high road

Thank you, Hoosier. I endeavor to practice adhering to high principles in all my affairs.

[JBMmom, MSN, NP]

Are you saying he made these comments after having anesthesia or just unprovoked comments? I wouldn't put much stock in what anyone says when they've been under the influence of some pretty strong medications, although I guess it could be an indication of personality if that's what comes out. Sorry for what your friend has dealt with, I'm sure that's tough. 

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

JBMmom said:

Are you saying he made these comments after having anesthesia or just unprovoked comments? I wouldn't put much stock in what anyone says when they've been under the influence of some pretty strong medications, although I guess it could be an indication of personality if that's what comes out. Sorry for what your friend has dealt with, I'm sure that's tough. 

She said he made the comments when he came out of recovery to the departure room. She said that he was calling out for the girl he got caught having an affair with, to the point the recovery room nurse asked who that female was, then reconfirmed wife's status, then looked embarrassed and left. I cut my friend off before she could go further. She said there was much more. I feel really bad for her, but told her if she continues to put up with that nonsense, it's on her

[londonflo]

Hoosier_RN said:

he said that he was calling out for the girl he got caught having an affair with,

Wouldn't this be similar to the - 'drunk dialing' or 'drunk texting' that occurs when someone is quite inebriated? What about having a dream about 'an ex' when you are happy in your relationship?

Hoosier_RN said:

to the point the recovery room nurse asked who that female was, then reconfirmed wife's status,

Why was the recovery room nurse getting involved in someone's mumblings?

[subee, MSN, CRNA]

I clearly remember the day when we transitioned (all at once) to Propofol from Pentathol.  After doing a few cases for just a single day, I called up my husband and told him to buy stock in this company because the patients were waking up horny and I knew this would become a street drug.  Alas, he was working very long days and never did it.  I coulda owned by own private island by now:(

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

londonflo said:

Wouldn't this be similar to the - 'drunk dialing' or 'drunk texting' that occurs when someone is quite inebriated? What about having a dream about 'an ex' when you are happy in your relationship?

Why was the recovery room nurse getting involved in someone's mumblings?

I have no idea about either, but perhaps she was trying to sort out identities d/t HIPAA in your 2nd question. It's what I drew from it, as he told the recovery nurse that the girl he was wanting was his hot girlfriend,  and stated that friend was nobody special. Recovery room nurse looked at chart and must have decided that this was no bueno!

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

Want to add that I went and asked friend if comments made after calling out for other woman was unprovoked or what was the situation. She said she started asking him pointed questions to get some clarity. She also said she recorded him for proof ?  I told her that she probably knows deep down what the deal is, asking others for confirmation or debunking won't help