Am I CRAZY to stay in school?

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My husband and I just found out that my father-in-law has terminal lung cancer. He runs a home for mentally ill adults in the Miami area, and has begun signing legal ownership of the company to my husband as of last week.

This busness takes in BIG money, more than I ever imagined making. And my husband is asking me why I'm still concerned with school. Once this happens we never have to work again, but I guess I've gotten so used to the thought of becoming a nurse I just can't let go of it now. I've only been in school for one term, but I loved it, and I put a lot of work into my grades.

My husband doesn't nessisarily object to my staying in school, but his attitude has changed about it now. It's more like "whatever" than encouraging, and he just seems to think that I'm a bit stupid for even wanting to continue my schooling.

Am I crazy to stay in school?

Thanks,

Chancie

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It's not crazy to pursue a goal. Having extra resources shouldn't stop you from reaching your goal, it should support you in doing it. Maybe for your husband, school was something you had to do so that the two of you could live more comfortably....now that you have the means to live more comfortably it doesn't make sense to him.

Maybe if you spoke about how happy you'll be going to school to accomplish your goal, without worrying about finances.....he might understand?

Good luck!

Peace,

Cathie

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Specializes in FNP, Peds, Epilepsy, Mgt., Occ. Ed.

Do it because you want to, not because you have to!

The other thing to consider is that you really never know what the future holds. I hope you're right and neither of you ever has to work again but it won't hurt at all to have a degree and a license.

I think, though, from what you've said that you'd regret not going on.

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I don't mean to sound harsh, but as you stated, this is profit your husband will inherit. I understand that because your married it will be profit for the both of you, but I am a believer of a womans ability to provide for herself, if God forbid something should happen, it is always a comfort to know that you can live comfortably on your own assets.

But, this is just MY opinion.

Good Luck!!

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I totally agree with, and feel the exact same way with what Triple A said. Do this for YOU, because you have a goal you want to accomplish. Also, you never know what can happen later. Don't let your husband talk you out of continuing school, just because you don't "need" to anymore. Don't give up on your dreams!

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It's wonderful that you don't have to worry about money anymore. Now you can pursue you eduction to the highest level if you want to and not have to worry about work/ school conflicts.

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I am 31 years old and already have a bachelors degree in another field from a prestigious university. I began at age 26, the age your profile says you are, searching for a career that I would want to do for the rest of my life and did not figure it out until three years later. I thought long and hard about this and have said that even if I won the lottery and became a millionaire I would still continue with my goal to become a RN.

My point is this: If becoming a nurse is something you really want to do, then do it! Not for the money, but because you want to do it. You only have one life to live and you might as well live it! Also, as another poster said, you should always have a way to make your own money because you just never know what will happen. Life has been known to throw us plenty of curve balls.

Who knows, perhaps you will be able to use your future skills in some way in the business that your husband will take over. I hope you stick with it!

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It might prove worthwhile to have an RN with an ownership interest in the business.

To me, the decision would depend on how I felt about going to school. Personally, I love it. It's what I'd do as a hobby if I didn't have to work.

Unless you are going to receive an ownership interest as well, I'd still recommend developing your own set of marketable skills.

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No... you are not crazy! I've been a stay-home mom for the past several years and my husband is able to support the family comfortably. But now that my baby is ready to start preschool next year, I am ready to pursue some goals of my own. Not because I have to... but because I want to! I could choose to not work for the rest of my life (assuming our situation continues as it is), but I just feel this is something I want to do just because I want to. It sounds as if you feel that way, too...

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I think you'd be crazy not to stay in school if this is what you truly want. Life is too short to give up on your dreams. Since it looks like money will not be a major concern, if you get further into it and find you no longer want to become a nurse, then so be it. You could decide to pursue something else without too much worry. Ultimately, it needs to be your decision. Please don't let others make the decision for you, because you have to live with the consequences.

Good luck whatever you decide. :)

Tiffany

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No you're not crazy!

We are very comfortable financially, we don't need the money and I am completely dedicated and passionate about nursing.

I think you need something for *you*. Follow your heart, do what you love.

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