aggressive nurse

Blackcat99 · Mar 26, 2008

Perhaps you can all get together and tell her off together? Or you all can get together and go to the DON about her? Or just hire a hit man? I lucked out at my old job. All of the nurses were wondering what to do about an aggressive hostile nurse. One day at work,she was going to come in for an evening shift. All of the CNA's met her out at the parking lot that day and apparently threatened her with bodily harm. We watched from inside the building and we all laughed. She never made it in for her shift and we never ever saw her again. :yeah: :lol2:

squeakykitty · Mar 26, 2008

Perhaps you can all get together and tell her off together? Or you all can get together and go to the DON about her? Or just hire a hit man? I lucked out at my old job. All of the nurses were wondering what to do about an aggressive hostile nurse. One day at work,she was going to come in for an evening shift. All of the CNA's met her out at the parking lot that day and apparently threatened her with bodily harm. We watched from inside the building and we all laughed. She never made it in for her shift and we never ever saw her again.

That's one way to deal with it. She must have been that bad, if people wanted to beat her up. :smokin: :up:

Faeriewand, ASN, RN · Mar 26, 2008

Well this may not help today but it will certainly help in the future. Take assertiveness training. I hear it is a big help in dealing with these types of issues. You can talk to people without getting angry at them but you can say what needs to be said. Keeps you in control of yourself. :)

Good luck dealing with her.

racing-mom4, BSN, RN · Mar 26, 2008

Back when I was a CNA I had a nurse nazzi on my case once--like yours she picked targets and I was hers. After weeks of ridiculous write ups from her and letters to not only my mgr but the DON from me about her, I finally realized it was up to me to handle it, and if it kept going one of us was going to lose their jobs and I didnt think it would be her--after all she was a MGR and I was a lowly CNA...

So I called her into the linnen closet and had a very direct talk with her, I stood by the door and pretty much had her cornered. I made sure she totally understood, I was there to work as was she and we could go back and forth with our petty bickering for another month but it wasnt going to get us anywhere. I was kind-yet firm. I told her that I respected her as a nurse and a supervisor but I was not going to play 5th grade games while any longer.

I then told her, if you have any problems with me I please ask that you come to me first and vice versa. She got very red in the face and started stuttering and stammering--she really didnt say anything but OK.

We didnt speak that night, but the next I acted like nothing happened. I was very friendly with her and even volunteered to write the census out for her cause I had time. Later I asked how her daughter was doing at collage and had generic chit-chat with her.

Fast FWD a few years, we are friends. She was the 1st one to hug me after I passed my boards, she now works at a different hospital but we still keep in touch over the phone at least once a month.

So my advice to you is take the high road. Acknowledge to her you that you have had difficulty but want to move forward. Then kill her with kindness.

VegRN · Mar 26, 2008

Back when I was a CNA I had a nurse nazzi on my case once--like yours she picked targets and I was hers. After weeks of ridiculous write ups from her and letters to not only my mgr but the DON from me about her, I finally realized it was up to me to handle it, and if it kept going one of us was going to lose their jobs and I didnt think it would be her--after all she was a MGR and I was a lowly CNA...
So I called her into the linnen closet and had a very direct talk with her, I stood by the door and pretty much had her cornered. I made sure she totally understood, I was there to work as was she and we could go back and forth with our petty bickering for another month but it wasnt going to get us anywhere. I was kind-yet firm. I told her that I respected her as a nurse and a supervisor but I was not going to play 5th grade games while any longer.
I then told her, if you have any problems with me I please ask that you come to me first and vice versa. She got very red in the face and started stuttering and stammering--she really didnt say anything but OK.
We didnt speak that night, but the next I acted like nothing happened. I was very friendly with her and even volunteered to write the census out for her cause I had time. Later I asked how her daughter was doing at collage and had generic chit-chat with her.
Fast FWD a few years, we are friends. She was the 1st one to hug me after I passed my boards, she now works at a different hospital but we still keep in touch over the phone at least once a month.
So my advice to you is take the high road. Acknowledge to her you that you have had difficulty but want to move forward. Then kill her with kindness.

Wow, good for you! You sure did take the high road! :yeah:

crb613, BSN, RN · Mar 26, 2008

You could go to your director ask for a meeting with nasty RN & all that have a problem with her and lay it on the line......or take care of it one on one the next time she starts her antics and let her know in no uncertain term that you are done with it......OR ya'll could all take turns calling & giving her low census & then with enough no shows......... :gtch: