how to act!!!!

LOL - I feel your pain. I'm not an enthusiast of group work. I much prefer working on my own & assuming a leadership role is natural for me. I had a hard time learning "followership" - funny, no one ever stresses how important this is. It meant that I needed to learn how "stifle" and hold my comments/critiques when someone else has the floor. I had to learn to keep an open mind.

One wonderful piece of advice I received was to eliminate the word "but" from my conversation.... replace it with "and". So, instead of listening to the 'leader' and saying "that might work, but. . . " I would need to say "that might work, and . . ". Makes a huge difference. Instead of discounting or shutting down what someone else said, I was enlarging on it. She also cautioned me never to begin a sentence with a negative word or phrase - always start with something positive. I had to learn that there was never just ONE right way (my way) to accomplish something... and other ideas always deserve to be considered. That was Hard.

Thankfully, there is an ideal setting for nurses like us.... it's called Intensive Care. The work is pretty much solo - you'll call for help if you need it. Assertive - check; Confident - check; Not afraid to direct others - check. . . see what I mean?

Think about locating your shift key for caps, and remember to leave your txtspk at the door. :)

As to your initial question, this comes off as a classic humblebrag. You might find it easier to be a follower if you give your team members a chance to learn how to lead without comparing them to your awesomeness, even if you keep it to yourself. :) You might even find that they have learned some things you might decide to emulate. Keep an open mind about all this.

I am a person that is a natural leader in life. I have held many positions in management in our life. But your post does not show me what an actual leader is. Your text speak shows me you are immature and as a leader, sometimes you can learn different views from other people leading. Take a step back and see what other people can teach you and use that to help you in the future.

I'm also in a leadership role as the president of my class and have always been a natural leader. I guess I am just not as eager as you are to jump into every leadership opportunity that presents itself. If you never allow others to take the reins you can never improve upon yourself. You will just approach every assignment/task with the same strategy you've always implemented when it might call for different tactics or leadership style.

I hope your group sees you as being really passionate about being a leader and not just being overbearing and controlling.

I think humility is also a good quality to have as a leader. No one really wants to hear how great you are. Sorry if that sounds mean, but I don't know many people who appreciate someone who toots their own horn. A good leader is someone who is a good follower in my opinion. It seems like you have a lot to learn, but I really do hope that you will learn how to be a better leader.