in an abusive marriage,in nursing school/child 2.5yrs, and due again in june help!!

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:confused: i am starting my 3rd semester of 4 in about 2 weeks. I am pregnant, due in june,thank God not during the semester. I also have a 2.5 year old. a big issue i have is i am in an abusive marriage. i feel like i want to leave, but im off work now, and my unemployment runs out in end of march. i hate him, it affects my stress level, and my energy level. he is economically abusive too, never helps out etc. i really put myself in a mess. school is very demanding this semester, school 4 full days a week. has anyone had this experience?? i feel like if a can just hang on till graduation, i can be free with a new career.help!!!
Originally posted by anne w

Yeah, your"opinion" upset me . would you say this stuff to a patient who was confiding in you?? if so, i would feel bad for them!! i never said i would get an abortion, and who gets abortions at 5 months pregnant anyways??(even if i could).you must not have any children.or do you? you should look into your books a little more and find out how to talk to people about tough subjects, because to tell someone to kill their baby is not good advice.

I just wanted to point out that I wasn't the one who suggested an abortion.

A couple of other people mentioned abortion, but I didn't, and I wasn't suggesting that.

Just FYI.

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Originally posted by heatherbless

AS FAR AS THESE CONDESCENDING POSTS FROM LIZZ: SHE IS JUST LIKE THAT...I WOULD NOT LET HER TREAT MY DEAD DOG, MUCH LESS ANYTHING ELSE.

Well, I would imagine that even the best nurse would have trouble treating a dead dog. ;)

Some people understood what I was saying. If you disagree that's fine.

But you seem to be following me around on every thread, attacking even mundane statements with multiple posts. It's a bit weird.

If you're willing, maybe we could take this PM? Maybe that would be a better way for you to vent whatever problem it is that you have with me.

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"Internet scam"?? the poster telling us this story to solicate something!?!?...... I do not recall the poster asking for any donations of monies, food or clothes from any of us.....So that doesn't even make sense..... If people are so worried about that then don't read the thread and don't post if you think it is fake...

To the poster: Keep your head up! I think it is great that you are trying to do what is best for you and your children!!:) Best of luck to you!!

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FYI some posters seek out disputes because they love to be in a state of turmoil--I have seen this with LIZZ on other threads...Guess we are all familiar with the person who is never satisfied or happy unless they are disputing something. I would like to think that the majority of people, nurses especially, generally look for the positive side of things and embrace compassion to mankind. Kind of like the old saying is the glass half full or half empty? No one can every know another's situation unless they are faced on the very same road and wearing the same shoes....to the original posters my thoughts are with you and may god's grace guide you in the direction of his plan for you.

Kim

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wow, a lot of ppl here should be ashamed of the way they jumped on lizz. A lot of you put words in her mouth, called her an uncaring person and said she would make a crappy nurse...were in hell do you ppl get off saying that? what makes you ppl better? Lizz is entitled to her opinion. A lot of you took away from the OP's message by making lizz your wipping boy.

I don't get it? Do ppl think they are more compasionate by making lizz look like an idiot?

Lizz...you handled these comments better than I would have..koodos to you for that.

To the OP...get out now, put school on hold, think of your kids. It's hard but find the courage deep inside and you will do fine.

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honestly, if I knew I wanted to get out of an abusive marriage I would run my butt down to the nearest Planned Parenhood or Family Planning and get myself on BC so I wouldn't get preg again. Then I would talk to my school, they will help you through this so I can regain my position when I get my life in order. I would go to the police, hospital, what ever and get myself out of there!

I heard the same news stories as Lizz...these are true. I also had a friend in college who was accused of rape. I hated him when I heard this, I wouldn't talk to him I was disgusted. He was arrested, in jail for 3 weeks and then taken to trial. All of our friends wanted to see him fry for this. Well guess, the girl broke down on the stand and said she made the story up and was worried that she was going to go to "hell" for having sex before marriage. He was let go but ppl never trusted him and he was never the same.

So yes, some of us tend to not believe everything we hear. That dosn't make us any less compasionate than anyone else. We think it through before we start smothering ppl with affection and love because we know that things sometimes aren't always as they seem.

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I hope your not implying that you know me well enough to say I believe everything that I hear!?!?!?

The poster lying or not lying about this situations effects you how? So why do you care? Giving someone the benefit of the doubt its not the same as reading this, knowing her husband and hating him and thinking he Should be hanged! I would hope most people would be smarter than that!

I can understand taking things you do not know for a fact, with a grain of salt that is definatley understandable!!

For me, other than feeling sorry for her, reading her post didn't cost me anything. So whether it is the truth or she just wanted attention, or to cause some turmoil in her life, I don't feel "taken" or feel like I lost anything for being caring towards her.;)

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Originally posted by RN2BUKY

I hope your not implying that you know me well enough to say I believe everything that I hear!?!?!?

The poster lying or not lying about this situations effects you how? So why do you care? Giving someone the benefit of the doubt its not the same as reading this, knowing her husband and hating him and thinking he Should be hanged! I would hope most people would be smarter than that!

I can understand taking things you do not know for a fact, with a grain of salt that is definatley understandable!!

For me, other than feeling sorry for her, reading her post didn't cost me anything. So whether it is the truth or she just wanted attention, or to cause some turmoil in her life, I don't feel "taken" or feel like I lost anything for being caring towards her.;)

it's not that at all...it's the fact that everyone ganged up on lizz for stating her opinion just like you stated yours. Ppl can choose to give symp if they want to and they can ask a question like she did.

I don't know Where you got that I said I think you believe everything you hear...this was more about that ppl who said lizz was uncaring because she asked a question.

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ppl, please don't be so jummpy about my post...I wasn't implying that everyone here believes eveything they read or hear. I never said I knew anyone well enough...and with that...what makes some of you think you know lizz well enough to not want her as a nurse or to assume that she's an uncaring person?

Relax...

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I'm cool I wasn't saying things with a b$tchy tone!

I sure don't think name calling and personal attacks are cool either. Everyone has a right to their opinion, that is one of the great things about living in this country.

as far as people beating Lizz over the head with comments..I don't know them or her so I would never comment on Lizz's or anyone else's ability to be a nurse or whether or not they are a good person, regardless if I agree or disagree with what they say.

I think threads like these get more intense b/c abuse, be it verbal or physical, is so common. So lots of people have exsperienced it or have someone they love that has, so most people have opinions about the subject.

Plus, for me personally, I have a 11 month old daghter and a wonderful caring husband who is supportive about school and everything. So maybe I just feel even more sorry for someone who has the opposite of that..just a thought.

Sorry Op wasn't trying to hijack your thread!

Be nice to your fellow nurses!!

:)

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Originally posted by kimlpn

FYI some posters seek out disputes because they love to be in a state of turmoil--I have seen this with LIZZ on other threads...Guess we are all familiar with the person who is never satisfied or happy unless they are disputing something.

This is rather odd. If I recall correctly, you and I have agreed on some major points in the past Kim. In our last discussion, you even thanked me for posting some info you were interested in. So I'm not sure why you have a problem now.

State of turmoil? The only real "turmoil" in my life is school and that probably wouldn't be so bad if I coasted a bit and didn't work so hard to get good grades. I care a hellava lot more about school than message boards. Sure, it can be entertaining at times and a nice diversion when I need to take a break, but school is my top priority and what I concentrate on, not this. Quite frankly, what you are suggesting is silly.

Yes I do tend to take a contrarian view on some issues. I was an investigative reporter for many years, and I've seen a lot of stuff, so I guess I'm skeptical by nature. I guess I'm not "politically correct" enough for some people on this board. People seem to forget that I also post a lot of mundane stuff, but nobody focuses that. ;)

As far as the remarks about internet scams, in many cases the scammers didn't ask for money. If they asked for money that would be too obvious. They basically posted sympathy stories on the net and people who felt sorry for them sent money. I'm not saying this is happening here, but I did find it a bit odd that this thread was started by someone who had never posted here before.

As far as the remarks about what kind of nurse I will be, I can say this: If people's lives are on the line and mistakes are made, I can guarantee that I will be the first person to raise holy hell about it. I won't be afraid to make enemies because, as I've stated before, I really don't care about winning any popularity contests, here or elsewhere. I do care about competent medical practice, which is why school is my top priority.

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Hello to the brave original poster.

I found a wonderfully supportive site that is full of information for people in your situation: http://www.drirene.com/ This site, the book recommendations on it and the people on it helped me to change my life ...much for the better.

There are many people on this (the doc irene) site who are full of wisdom, intelligence, kindness, compassion and vision...my best wishes and hopes are with you and your children. :kiss

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