Time to open the can of worms...I am sure it has been opened several times...but maybe I am not seeing this topic addressed enough. Am I crazy or is the world of nursing crazy and I am just in the mix?
Why did no one tell me in nursing school? Why did I not listen to my mother who is a RN. But now my complaints are met with a common phrase "Welcome to nursing." W*T*H. This is it? The field of nursing nursing seems like a patchy grassland with some good here...nice and green...some barren dry areas...and many muddy waters (aka hospital nursing).
What are we going to do? Blame society, our polity, or the economy? Why am I so hallow on the floor?...when did I turn into a robot...who must finish her tasks and keep it moving. Little time for emotions or connections...even if a patient and family are tearful in the room because of a new life changing diagnosis. I see and hear their tears but my mind is focused on the meds I need to pass, my manager who is breathing down my neck, or whatever can of worms I must deal with in my other patient's rooms. The only reason I give a warm pat on the shoulder is because it seemed appropriate for the situation. The patient seemed to need it...and it works and the patient is reassured and more calm...but inside I feel nothing as I think of the other tasks at hand.
When I get home from work...I often reflect on my patients and how emotionally disconnected I was even when their lives were being turned upside down. I feel sympathy for them at home...disgust towards myself for my coldness on the floor...and loathing that I have to go back to that place. On the floor I have no time for sympathy. My goals are to keep my patients stable and safe and complete my tasks....so many tasks.
I knew nursing was going to be hard but I did not realize how much I would become cold. I give great customer service and give warm smiles to my patients and their families...but mostly inside I feel nothing for them. I just do my job and keep it moving. The fact I am this way brings self loathing. When did my smiles turn into a robotic tool to do my job rather than have genuine connection with an other being?
When the nursing school admissions council asked me 'why do you want to become a nurse?' My genuine answer was I want to help people and feel good about what I do. I do help people...but feeling good about helping my patients...that feeling has very much faded. I feel like a robot that must complete my tasks and keep it moving. I am even annoyed when they want to connect with me, in my mind "I have tasks to complete...I don't have time for this conversation, I don't want to get to know you better, I have tasks to complete.' And those are the nice ones. The unsavory patients, docs, and managers that leave a sour taste in my mouth, makes it all the more easier to be cold.
Weird...if I had known I would end up this way as a nurse inside...maybe I would have taken a different path.
The reason I say abuse culture...is because I have come to find in nursing that there is A LOT nurses will put up with at the expense of themselves. Stress, anxiety, depression, prescription medication, weight gain, insomnia, etc. Some realize it, some don't, and some just don't care. Any hospital nurse will lave a laundry list of the BS we have to put up with...but it is like there is a resolve that this is just nursing...it is what it is. Hospital nurses all know what's up.
This culture is so strong, that what is unreasonable in other professions...is not unreasonable in nursing. It is accepted. If a new nurse can't get with the program then she is told hospital nursing is not for you. Instead, maybe hospital nursing is not for nurses. How about that?
I hardly find people say this...nurses complain about how bad it is, how we are stretched so thin, how we don't get our breaks, how we never have a chance to eat or urinate, poor staffing, understaffing, the list goes on and on but people don't say...
Hey maybe it's not that this nurse is not fit to be a hospital nurse...forget about the 3-4 years she/he spent specifically training for nursing and proving herself/himself...but if she/he can't take crazy patient loads, poor staffing, etc...she is not a good fit? Why not the other way around?
I know it is not likely to change...these nursing conditions...but to accept it does not sit well with me. (by accept I mean: the vibe of hospital nursing is not for all nurses...no...it is...but not under the current conditions). I know there are unions and all that but very little is being done especially considering our numbers. Maybe it is not the new nurse who is struggling in the hospital...maybe it is the hospital that is dropping the ball. Maybe it is the culture of the hospital to abuse nurses and maybe it is nursing culture to accept it.
This abuse culture is so rampant you have nurses like me who are losing their souls at the expense of being good at my job. i can do my job and keep my patients safe but there is something so wrong. I am a med surg nurse. I am sure it may be waaaaaaaaaaaay better on other floors.
How far does it go that the abused don't even realize they are being abused? The ones who don't make it in the hospital are pushed to other fields of nursing. Fine...but I dare say it is not because the the nurse is not competent or can't manage patient care in the hospital conditions. Rather not every nurse can handle the hospital conditions that make it not condusive for success. Then people wonder 20% of nurses in their first year drop out of the profession completely. That is pretty high considering the time and money invested.