What to do? - page 2

I'm not sure what to do. I'm currently a pre-nursing student and have a year of pre-reqs. left before applying to clinicals. The reason that I am becoming a nurse is because my husband wants me to. Now please don't get me... Read More

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    I am sorry but a kind and loving husband would not threaten to divorce you if you pursued your dream. Please do not go to nursing school just to please him. You will be miserable. Your husband sounds extremely controlling. You need to sit down with him and have a long talk about your future.
    Peninah7, Jae76, Halcyonn, and 1 other like this.

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    Quote from lw34
    I actually started out as a Criminal Justice major and wanted to be a probation officer but after my arm was broke in a training accident my husband wanted me to find something safe and strongly encouraged me to switch majors to nursing. The pre-reqs are completely different and I only had one semester left before graduating with a BS in Criminal Justice and a minor in Psychology. He's made it very clear though that if I went back to C.J. it would mean a divorce. He said he dosen't ever want to get that phone call again.
    Do you want to be a probation officer? Do you want to do something else with criminal justice?

    There is no way that my husband would ever tell me what to do or not to do with my life. Even though I was an RN when we met, we have had the hypothetical "what if I ever want a career change" and he would be fine with it. Really it is not his place to stop me if I decide to leave nursing (not that I am thinking about it).
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    Don't become a nurse because your husband says so. Nursing is still not the safest career & you must really want to do it, otherwise it is not worth the hassle. I live in Maryland & know quite a few people with criminal justice degrees. Only two are parole officers. The rest got involved working in the government (federal & state). I also know a couple people who are court commissioners (also called magistrates & justice of the peace). There are a lot of options out there. I would recommend finishing your last semester of school & get that bachelor's! It'll open doors.
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    Thank you all so much for your help. I think I'll go back to C.J. and pursue my dream.
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    Hi! We're in 2013 and you don't have to listen to what your husband wants you to do!
    You can be anything... if you want to be a probation officer, do it.
    If you want to make balloon animals for a living, go for it.
    Your life is yours, no matter how kid and caring your husband is persuing a career you don't want because he wants you to will just make you hate him for it later.
    Peninah7 likes this.
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    Quote from PennyS
    I am sorry but a kind and loving husband would not threaten to divorce you if you pursued your dream. Please do not go to nursing school just to please him. You will be miserable. Your husband sounds extremely controlling. You need to sit down with him and have a long talk about your future.
    Couldn't have said it better. He is controlling. And I would do what makes you happy bc it sounds like no matter what he will threaten divorce for any thing u do in life he isn't happy woth. with.
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    Satisfy YOUR dreams, do what your heart desires, you deserve it!! And whoever doesn't agree or approve of what makes YOU HAPPY and COMFORTABLE maybe doesn't deserve you. I'm defiantley on the outside looking in, but maybe HE should pursue a nursing career and make himself happy.
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    This is really weird.
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    My husband is a police officer and responded to an ADW at an ER, why? Because a patient pulled a knife and nearly stabbed a nurse. She was safe, but the cops going in to get him got slashed a bit. It's not entirely a safe job.
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    Quote from lw34
    Thank you all so much for your help. I think I'll go back to C.J. and pursue my dream.
    Good for you!!!


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