Talked out of nursing by others and myself.... - page 5

I need some encouragement and maybe a kick in the pants.... Back in 1999, I was a 3.9 gpa pre-nursing/pre-med major and loving it. I dreamed of being a doctor or a nurse practitioner working in... Read More

  1. Visit  radicalsenseofhope profile page
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    Quote from samadams8
    OK. People do this all the time. It's no big thing. If you want to do it, go for it.

    Honestly, it's getting so hard for me to muster enthusiasm for those that say they want to go into nursing. I generally hold my tongue anymore. I wasn't always that way.

    So much has changed, and well, I just don't feel like the system is good to newcomers or long-termers, and many in-between, in general. I know that in a number of cases, no matter what I say, the person will want to do it anyway.

    For example, there was a person not too longer that asked me about the field, and she told me she wanted to do it. For various reasons, she ended up taking > 6 years to get through a 2 year RN program. She had a hard time finding a job, but eventually found one. After a few years, if she works 24 hours a week, that's something. I'm not at all sure that this not because she cannot get more hours, and certainly by now, she could probably pick up more hours elsewhere, along with that position, which is something I recommend nurses to do anyway--have more than one nursing position. She never seemed like a ball of fire anyway, at least not like other nurses I've worked with--but then there are those that really drag or. . .whatever. . .

    Dude, I can remember from the beginning being a workhorse, not being afraid of hours or getting my hands dirty, learning, working ridiculous overtime. Of course I was literally a kid when I started, and she was/is far from that now.
    But I think she sees it. . .it's not what it's cracked up to be, and to many of us, it's NOT as it once was.


    I just don't think it what it used to be. Some things have led to improvements, but mostly those things are merely technological in nature. The whole feel--the whole enthusiasm for learning, teaching, working, and growing together as a team of advocates who knew our stuff and really cared about what we were doing, well, it's just not the same. It makes me sad.

    Yes we all have better days than others, but honestly, it's not the same. I know right now, there are a heck of lot of people in it b/c they simply need the income--otherwise, they would be gone. Right now, I think it's particularly troublesome, given the seriously deep-sinking economy. Even if that were to improve in a few years, everything is just too expensive to stay in the hospital. Be aware that is where a great deal of the reachable jobs will be--outside the hospital.

    Sorry. Don't at all want to be a Debbie Downer. It's just so different and the whole mentality of how things are run is such that I find it difficult to encourage people in going into the field. Trust me; it never used to be that way with me.
    I appreciate your honesty and perspectives. Thank you so much for sharing. It is stories such as this that have seriously given me pause through the years. Much to think on.....
  2. Visit  radicalsenseofhope profile page
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    Quote from PurplePRN
    I'd be curious to know the stats on how many nurses leave the field and enter into a new one. Because for all the things I hear about how bad nursing is now, I don't see anyone quitting. Just an unscientific observation.
    Well, in this economy many probably stay because of their huge student loans or because they need the income, not because they love nursing. :-(
  3. Visit  bribri03 profile page
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    I just want to say I think you should go for it. Your kids will understand and probably be amazed and look up to their mom for doing something so challenging nd going for your dreams. It shows them they can do and be anything.

    Also my story is completely different but I think It will show you should always go for it. I am 27 and I recently just started school again, doing my prereqs for nursing, and literally a month after going back found out its suggestive I have MS. It's not definite, but I am sure of it because all the signs say MS. So I went back and forth on if I should even continue. Then I realized, with some great advice, that I don't feel sick or bad now. I may later in life but for now if I just quit school and mope and wait to feel bad I am going to let life pass me by. So I am living for me now and I will officially be applying this coming summer. I still have a few prereqs I need to finish. So again I realize it is a completely different situation but I think you should absolutely go for it.

    I also have a 2 year old and I would like to think I will achieve my goals and make a better life for us both. I also would like to think it will show him, when can understand, that you can do and be anything, even when life doesn't hand you the cards you want, and I hope he will be proud of me!!
  4. Visit  samadams8 profile page
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    Quote from PurplePRN
    I'd be curious to know the stats on how many nurses leave the field and enter into a new one. Because for all the things I hear about how bad nursing is now, I don't see anyone quitting. Just an unscientific observation.
    Well, people need the income, and they will get paid more as a nurse than they will at the local convenience store or department store. Right now, our economic climate is seriously BAD. I mean we just have to face that reality. People have to pay their bills and such.

    When the economics were not as bad or when they were not affecting nursing and the hospital environment so much, nurses moved around--job shifted a lot. Everyone knew it; but there was always another job. I think at least in part, this is a testament to how many nurses lived in hope that somehow the next work environment would be better--that implies to me, at least to some degree, that many of those nurses really wanted to stay in nursing, but we hoping for better environments in which to practice. It's not the nursing that is the problem, per se. It generally is the environments--in one way or another.

    Makes me so sad.
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  5. Visit  radicalsenseofhope profile page
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    Quote from bribri03
    I just want to say I think you should go for it. Your kids will understand and probably be amazed and look up to their mom for doing something so challenging nd going for your dreams. It shows them they can do and be anything.

    Also my story is completely different but I think It will show you should always go for it. I am 27 and I recently just started school again, doing my prereqs for nursing, and literally a month after going back found out its suggestive I have MS. It's not definite, but I am sure of it because all the signs say MS. So I went back and forth on if I should even continue. Then I realized, with some great advice, that I don't feel sick or bad now. I may later in life but for now if I just quit school and mope and wait to feel bad I am going to let life pass me by. So I am living for me now and I will officially be applying this coming summer. I still have a few prereqs I need to finish. So again I realize it is a completely different situation but I think you should absolutely go for it.

    I also have a 2 year old and I would like to think I will achieve my goals and make a better life for us both. I also would like to think it will show him, when can understand, that you can do and be anything, even when life doesn't hand you the cards you want, and I hope he will be proud of me!!
    Thanks for your encouragement and thanks for sharing your inspirational story with me. I just want to shout, "You go girl!" Way to live in the here and now and take control of your life. You will be an excellent example to your patients (and us all) on how to not let the label of a disease define who you are.

    I also want to comment. A few acquaintances of mine online have seen amazing improvement in their MS by strictly following the Paleo and/or Specific Carbohydrate type diets. You might want to look into it. I reversed my diagnosis of Hashimotos Thyroiditis (another autoimmune condition) following this way of eating. Best of luck to you! I wish you a long and successful nursing career!
  6. Visit  ArieElizabeth profile page
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    Never let someone talk you out of something! Do what you want to do. Make a reasonable effort to accomodate responsibilities, however never give up.
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  7. Visit  barbyann profile page
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    Don't think a minute more about it...........JUST DO IT !
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    Quote from radicalsenseofhope

    Thanks for your encouragement and thanks for sharing your inspirational story with me. I just want to shout, "You go girl!" Way to live in the here and now and take control of your life. You will be an excellent example to your patients (and us all) on how to not let the label of a disease define who you are.

    I also want to comment. A few acquaintances of mine online have seen amazing improvement in their MS by strictly following the Paleo and/or Specific Carbohydrate type diets. You might want to look into it. I reversed my diagnosis of Hashimotos Thyroiditis (another autoimmune condition) following this way of eating. Best of luck to you! I wish you a long and successful nursing career!
    Ok I will check that out thanks for the advice and letting me know, I'm all for looking into other ways to help. Ofcourse I am new to all of this and still just scratching the surface but thank you for the advice!!!

    Thanks for the kind words too! I feel like I am doing the best thing I can for myself, and my son! I hope I make it through nursing school and hopefully by giving myself a purpose I will thrive

    The best of luck to you as we'll, I know you can do it, just go for it!!!!
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  9. Visit  Carefreeliving profile page
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    Who gives a damn what others have to say in relation to your dream? Do it. You don't need all of us here to tell you what to do either; you already know what you need to do. I'm only saying this to push you in a good way. I mean this well.

    "You are far too smart to to be the only thing standing in your way."
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    Quote from Carefreeliving
    Who gives a damn what others have to say in relation to your dream? Do it. You don't need all of us here to tell you what to do either; you already know what you need to do. I'm only saying this to push you in a good way. I mean this well.

    "You are far too smart to to be the only thing standing in your way."

    I might just have to add that last line to my motivational wall. Thanks! This thread has been a great kick in the pants for me. Just what I was looking for. :-)
  11. Visit  nurseladybug12 profile page
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    To OP,
    I think you should go for it. I went to an ADN program, the average age of students was 33. Most of my classmates had children, husbands, fulltime jobs, and they all had trouble juggling their family and household responsibilities with school. I think that it could be a great opportunity for you to set an example for your children-that hard work pays off, and to make them proud of you. And it's also a good opportunity to show them that they will have to work hard to earn what they want because things are not just handed to people. I do not see any down side to furthering your education so that you can better support them, and I am sure one day they will be going to college and that is expensive so it's a great time to get a head start on saving for that too. Also, many of my classmates have had to get extra support from their family while they were in school as far as picking up the slack on chores. I grew up doing chores from a very young age, and when I went to college it was pathetic how many people I had to teach to use the washer and dryer in the dorms. I also have talked with classmates whose husbands never supported them through school and that had put a huge strain on their relationships. They told me that their husbands had always put the children and housework on them and that now they could find a good job to support themselves and they felt liberated and empowered. Whatever you choose to do, I hope it makes you happy and I wish you the best of luck.
  12. Visit  seanynjboy profile page
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    YOU ARE IN NO WAY TOO OLD FOR IT!!!

    I am in an RN program right now (class size = 36). We have 1 woman in her 50s, and AT LEAST 5 in their 40s, and approx 10-15 in their 30s.

    It sounds cliche, but if you set your mind to it, you can achieve it!!
  13. Visit  Jessy_RN profile page
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    Quote from radicalsenseofhope
    I need some encouragement and maybe a kick in the pants....

    Back in 1999, I was a 3.9 gpa pre-nursing/pre-med major and loving it. I dreamed of being a doctor or a nurse practitioner working in primary care someday. In 2000 I left to become a stay at home mom. As early as 2003 the urge to go back was creeping back in. Over the years I've talked myself out of/and been talked out of nursing with so many reasons.... among them, fear that the sacrifice of nursing school wouldn't be worth it; fear I would not have enough spoons (energy) to make it as a new nurse on the floor; fear I would not get a job in the post 2008 economy and the glut of new grads.

    I was dead set on going back in 2011 when I once again was talked out of it by people telling me that I was too old to work night shifts and there was no way I was getting hired in this economy without starting on nights. I told myself that I just couldn't do it. I've tried every avenue I could think of to circumvent nursing and still do what I want to do. But the reality is that nothing can replace the medical/clinical training of nursing (short of medical school); no career will allow me to do the things I could as a Nurse and a Nurse Practitioner. I need to view that time as a new nurse on the floor, maybe working nights, like an internship/residency that will give me the background I need to reach my goals. I need to stop letting fear dictate my decisions. I need to find ways to overcome the challenges, like the difficulty of working nights at my age (I'm 37 now). I need to stop doubting myself.

    Stop doubting your self. If your heart is in it, go for it. 37 is rather young!! You already did the stay at home, your kids are a little older and perhaps its mommy time to go back and fulfill her dream?


    I've recently started talking to my husband about finally going back for my ADN/BSN (and ultimately FNP) and he is somewhat supportive but still trying to talk me out of it. He doesn't think the sacrifice will be worth it in terms of time away from him and the family (our kids are 10 and 12 years old and we homeschool). He tells me that he is happy to support me financially and I don't need to work. But I want to work? Is that crazy?

    Please don't take this the wrong way, you asked for advice, so here it goes: I believe every adult should be able to have something to fall back on. Having a wonderful husband that can take care of you is a blessing. Remember, marriages do sometimes fall apart, people die, interests change, life throws lemons at you to bat. I am sure you get my point.

    Friends who are nurses are telling me that a nursing career just isn't worth it with the grim realities of working as a nurse on the floor these days. Other friends who are nurses are telling me to go for it. It is hard work, but rewarding.

    Stop worrying what friends, relatives or the rest of the world tells you. You are 37, not 15 and worried about peer pressure

    If you really want this, do it. How much longer are you gonna put this off? Or have you come to an ultimate decision to just not do it. The answer lies within you and only you. My opinion and the rest of the world's does not matter afterall.

    Will I finally do it? I'm not getting any younger. If I'm ever going to do it, now is as good a time as any. Nurse Practitioner or Bust? I could use some support and encouragement, share your stories with me, etc. My husband just doesn't understand my drive to do this. I know when the going gets tough, I will need support. There will be days when I doubt what I'm doing. I need a support network to remind me of my goals and why I'm doing this. Also, I would like to offer support to others who may be in similar situations. We can do this.

    "Don't worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don't even try." -Jack

    Canfield

    Much luck in your final decision!
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