Talked out of nursing by others and myself.... - page 6

by radicalsenseofhope

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I need some encouragement and maybe a kick in the pants.... Back in 1999, I was a 3.9 gpa pre-nursing/pre-med major and loving it. I dreamed of being a doctor or a nurse practitioner working in primary care someday. In 2000 I... Read More


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    Quote from audacia
    In the end, it doesn't matter what people think. It's what you want to pursue and if it's something that's been in your mind for that long, do it. Seriously, it's now or never. Many times, we sit there and day-dream our what ifs...well, how about we stop day-dreaming and go after what we want? Nursing is tough, yes but what's ever easy? Go for it! If doors don't open for you, that's another story. Let's start this one!

    Thanks for your advice. You are right. It is now or never. I'm going to decide once and for all whether I'm doing this. :-)
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    Quote from Paco-RN
    You're 37 and too old to work night shift? I am 43 and one of my colleagues is 63 and we both thrive on night shift. I just called your bull.
    Some people can hack it on the night shift, others just can't. Our bodies are all so individual. I worked rotating shifts back when I was in the Air Force. I seriously struggled through nights. That was in my early 20s! Since then my ability to stay up at night has only gotten worse with age.

    I have always seen nights as a totally insurmountable obstacle that was keeping me out of nursing. My mindset is shifting though. I now view it as a challenge to overcome and persevere through in order to meet my goals.

    Thanks for providing some examples of people who are working the night shifts and thriving. :-)
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    Quote from samadams8
    OK. People do this all the time. It's no big thing. If you want to do it, go for it.

    Honestly, it's getting so hard for me to muster enthusiasm for those that say they want to go into nursing. I generally hold my tongue anymore. I wasn't always that way.

    So much has changed, and well, I just don't feel like the system is good to newcomers or long-termers, and many in-between, in general. I know that in a number of cases, no matter what I say, the person will want to do it anyway.

    For example, there was a person not too longer that asked me about the field, and she told me she wanted to do it. For various reasons, she ended up taking > 6 years to get through a 2 year RN program. She had a hard time finding a job, but eventually found one. After a few years, if she works 24 hours a week, that's something. I'm not at all sure that this not because she cannot get more hours, and certainly by now, she could probably pick up more hours elsewhere, along with that position, which is something I recommend nurses to do anyway--have more than one nursing position. She never seemed like a ball of fire anyway, at least not like other nurses I've worked with--but then there are those that really drag or. . .whatever. . .

    Dude, I can remember from the beginning being a workhorse, not being afraid of hours or getting my hands dirty, learning, working ridiculous overtime. Of course I was literally a kid when I started, and she was/is far from that now.
    But I think she sees it. . .it's not what it's cracked up to be, and to many of us, it's NOT as it once was.


    I just don't think it what it used to be. Some things have led to improvements, but mostly those things are merely technological in nature. The whole feel--the whole enthusiasm for learning, teaching, working, and growing together as a team of advocates who knew our stuff and really cared about what we were doing, well, it's just not the same. It makes me sad.

    Yes we all have better days than others, but honestly, it's not the same. I know right now, there are a heck of lot of people in it b/c they simply need the income--otherwise, they would be gone. Right now, I think it's particularly troublesome, given the seriously deep-sinking economy. Even if that were to improve in a few years, everything is just too expensive to stay in the hospital. Be aware that is where a great deal of the reachable jobs will be--outside the hospital.

    Sorry. Don't at all want to be a Debbie Downer. It's just so different and the whole mentality of how things are run is such that I find it difficult to encourage people in going into the field. Trust me; it never used to be that way with me.
    I appreciate your honesty and perspectives. Thank you so much for sharing. It is stories such as this that have seriously given me pause through the years. Much to think on.....
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    Quote from PurplePRN
    I'd be curious to know the stats on how many nurses leave the field and enter into a new one. Because for all the things I hear about how bad nursing is now, I don't see anyone quitting. Just an unscientific observation.
    Well, in this economy many probably stay because of their huge student loans or because they need the income, not because they love nursing. :-(
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    I just want to say I think you should go for it. Your kids will understand and probably be amazed and look up to their mom for doing something so challenging nd going for your dreams. It shows them they can do and be anything.

    Also my story is completely different but I think It will show you should always go for it. I am 27 and I recently just started school again, doing my prereqs for nursing, and literally a month after going back found out its suggestive I have MS. It's not definite, but I am sure of it because all the signs say MS. So I went back and forth on if I should even continue. Then I realized, with some great advice, that I don't feel sick or bad now. I may later in life but for now if I just quit school and mope and wait to feel bad I am going to let life pass me by. So I am living for me now and I will officially be applying this coming summer. I still have a few prereqs I need to finish. So again I realize it is a completely different situation but I think you should absolutely go for it.

    I also have a 2 year old and I would like to think I will achieve my goals and make a better life for us both. I also would like to think it will show him, when can understand, that you can do and be anything, even when life doesn't hand you the cards you want, and I hope he will be proud of me!!
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    Quote from PurplePRN
    I'd be curious to know the stats on how many nurses leave the field and enter into a new one. Because for all the things I hear about how bad nursing is now, I don't see anyone quitting. Just an unscientific observation.
    Well, people need the income, and they will get paid more as a nurse than they will at the local convenience store or department store. Right now, our economic climate is seriously BAD. I mean we just have to face that reality. People have to pay their bills and such.

    When the economics were not as bad or when they were not affecting nursing and the hospital environment so much, nurses moved around--job shifted a lot. Everyone knew it; but there was always another job. I think at least in part, this is a testament to how many nurses lived in hope that somehow the next work environment would be better--that implies to me, at least to some degree, that many of those nurses really wanted to stay in nursing, but we hoping for better environments in which to practice. It's not the nursing that is the problem, per se. It generally is the environments--in one way or another.

    Makes me so sad.
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    Quote from bribri03
    I just want to say I think you should go for it. Your kids will understand and probably be amazed and look up to their mom for doing something so challenging nd going for your dreams. It shows them they can do and be anything.

    Also my story is completely different but I think It will show you should always go for it. I am 27 and I recently just started school again, doing my prereqs for nursing, and literally a month after going back found out its suggestive I have MS. It's not definite, but I am sure of it because all the signs say MS. So I went back and forth on if I should even continue. Then I realized, with some great advice, that I don't feel sick or bad now. I may later in life but for now if I just quit school and mope and wait to feel bad I am going to let life pass me by. So I am living for me now and I will officially be applying this coming summer. I still have a few prereqs I need to finish. So again I realize it is a completely different situation but I think you should absolutely go for it.

    I also have a 2 year old and I would like to think I will achieve my goals and make a better life for us both. I also would like to think it will show him, when can understand, that you can do and be anything, even when life doesn't hand you the cards you want, and I hope he will be proud of me!!
    Thanks for your encouragement and thanks for sharing your inspirational story with me. I just want to shout, "You go girl!" Way to live in the here and now and take control of your life. You will be an excellent example to your patients (and us all) on how to not let the label of a disease define who you are.

    I also want to comment. A few acquaintances of mine online have seen amazing improvement in their MS by strictly following the Paleo and/or Specific Carbohydrate type diets. You might want to look into it. I reversed my diagnosis of Hashimotos Thyroiditis (another autoimmune condition) following this way of eating. Best of luck to you! I wish you a long and successful nursing career!
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    Never let someone talk you out of something! Do what you want to do. Make a reasonable effort to accomodate responsibilities, however never give up.
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    Don't think a minute more about it...........JUST DO IT !
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    Quote from radicalsenseofhope

    Thanks for your encouragement and thanks for sharing your inspirational story with me. I just want to shout, "You go girl!" Way to live in the here and now and take control of your life. You will be an excellent example to your patients (and us all) on how to not let the label of a disease define who you are.

    I also want to comment. A few acquaintances of mine online have seen amazing improvement in their MS by strictly following the Paleo and/or Specific Carbohydrate type diets. You might want to look into it. I reversed my diagnosis of Hashimotos Thyroiditis (another autoimmune condition) following this way of eating. Best of luck to you! I wish you a long and successful nursing career!
    Ok I will check that out thanks for the advice and letting me know, I'm all for looking into other ways to help. Ofcourse I am new to all of this and still just scratching the surface but thank you for the advice!!!

    Thanks for the kind words too! I feel like I am doing the best thing I can for myself, and my son! I hope I make it through nursing school and hopefully by giving myself a purpose I will thrive

    The best of luck to you as we'll, I know you can do it, just go for it!!!!
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