Talked out of nursing by others and myself.... - page 5

by radicalsenseofhope 9,861 Views | 82 Comments

I need some encouragement and maybe a kick in the pants.... Back in 1999, I was a 3.9 gpa pre-nursing/pre-med major and loving it. I dreamed of being a doctor or a nurse practitioner working in primary care someday. In 2000 I... Read More


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    Quote from radicalsenseofhope
    Oh yeah, forgot to mention. I'm not sure exactly where my husband's motivation behind discouraging me comes from. Part of it could be selfish reasons. It will require a ton of work for him to step up to if I decide to do this. He has discouraged me every single time the nursing bug has hit me, for over 10 years now. I've always just played into the guilt of not being a full time mom anymore if I went back to pursuing nursing. It is so easy to feel guilty about our choices as a mom, LOL.
    Some men don't like to lose control. Just a thought for you to ponder. Again, may not be your situation. But if you don't control much of anything accept where to store the canned goods in your house. That might be it. Again, that may not be you. But if it is a control thing, you're going to have to get some outside support because you may be waking a sleeping giant. If it is the issue, you can always PM me! Don't post it here. LOL.
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    So true. Two of my new words of encouragement to myself are: "No guilt! Your happiness, your dreams, and your goals are important too!" and "If you wait too long, dreams become regrets."

    Thanks for sharing your experience. I bet it was hard to be in school with a little one. :-)
    gi i rl u have no idea. but i was lucky to have support from my husband and mother. thats all u need support and u will progress.
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    I have an MA degre, homeschool my boys and don't need to work. My husband has a good job and I run the administrative side of our business. I put my career on hold when our twins where born. However I always wanted to do nursing/ medicine. At the beginning my husband didn't want me to go to school again either. However, I told him I wanted to do it and just went for it. I just finished my prereqs in December of last year and am currently waiting for admission for the spring 2013. My husband and my boys now fully support me. I am still going to homeschool and at least work PRN to start. Btw I'm 35, u r never too old. If u don't do it now you will always have the desire. My long term goal is to be a Nurse Practiioner. I less The Lord I can go to school and not worry about having to bring a second income. It gives me the opportunity to study.
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    I've been back and forth myself. Owned my own business until the economy made me close my doors. I took several months and finally decided to go back to school for my ADN, work while getting my BSN and from there........who knows? It's never too late. I had to go back and retake A&P because it'd been too long. Did that, worked hard, and am now a first semester nursing student. I'm turning 40 in January. I have a two year old daughter. And yes, it can be hard work and like a PP mentioned, my school is also pretty unorganized at times, and there's a good amount of time investment in the studying (30 hours a week or so) but in the end, it will be worth it. Don't talk yourself out of it, go for it! You're not too old!
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    Quote from Elain7
    I have an MA degre, homeschool my boys and don't need to work. My husband has a good job and I run the administrative side of our business. I put my career on hold when our twins where born. However I always wanted to do nursing/ medicine. At the beginning my husband didn't want me to go to school again either. However, I told him I wanted to do it and just went for it. I just finished my prereqs in December of last year and am currently waiting for admission for the spring 2013. My husband and my boys now fully support me. I am still going to homeschool and at least work PRN to start. Btw I'm 35, u r never too old. If u don't do it now you will always have the desire. My long term goal is to be a Nurse Practiioner. I less The Lord I can go to school and not worry about having to bring a second income. It gives me the opportunity to study.
    Thank you so much for sharing! It is so nice to know that I am not alone in my situation. Best of luck to you in the spring! Let me know how it goes. :-)
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    Quote from JavaWench
    I've been back and forth myself. Owned my own business until the economy made me close my doors. I took several months and finally decided to go back to school for my ADN, work while getting my BSN and from there........who knows? It's never too late. I had to go back and retake A&P because it'd been too long. Did that, worked hard, and am now a first semester nursing student. I'm turning 40 in January. I have a two year old daughter. And yes, it can be hard work and like a PP mentioned, my school is also pretty unorganized at times, and there's a good amount of time investment in the studying (30 hours a week or so) but in the end, it will be worth it. Don't talk yourself out of it, go for it! You're not too old!
    Thanks so much for sharing your story. I appreciate the encouragement! :-)
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    In the end, it doesn't matter what people think. It's what you want to pursue and if it's something that's been in your mind for that long, do it. Seriously, it's now or never. Many times, we sit there and day-dream our what ifs...well, how about we stop day-dreaming and go after what we want? Nursing is tough, yes but what's ever easy? Go for it! If doors don't open for you, that's another story. Let's start this one!

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    You're 37 and too old to work night shift? I am 43 and one of my colleagues is 63 and we both thrive on night shift. I just called your bull.
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    OK. People do this all the time. It's no big thing. If you want to do it, go for it.

    Honestly, it's getting so hard for me to muster enthusiasm for those that say they want to go into nursing. I generally hold my tongue anymore. I wasn't always that way.

    So much has changed, and well, I just don't feel like the system is good to newcomers or long-termers, and many in-between, in general. I know that in a number of cases, no matter what I say, the person will want to do it anyway.

    For example, there was a person not too longer that asked me about the field, and she told me she wanted to do it. For various reasons, she ended up taking > 6 years to get through a 2 year RN program. She had a hard time finding a job, but eventually found one. After a few years, if she works 24 hours a week, that's something. I'm not at all sure that this not because she cannot get more hours, and certainly by now, she could probably pick up more hours elsewhere, along with that position, which is something I recommend nurses to do anyway--have more than one nursing position. She never seemed like a ball of fire anyway, at least not like other nurses I've worked with--but then there are those that really drag or. . .whatever. . .

    Dude, I can remember from the beginning being a workhorse, not being afraid of hours or getting my hands dirty, learning, working ridiculous overtime. Of course I was literally a kid when I started, and she was/is far from that now.
    But I think she sees it. . .it's not what it's cracked up to be, and to many of us, it's NOT as it once was.


    I just don't think it what it used to be. Some things have led to improvements, but mostly those things are merely technological in nature. The whole feel--the whole enthusiasm for learning, teaching, working, and growing together as a team of advocates who knew our stuff and really cared about what we were doing, well, it's just not the same. It makes me sad.

    Yes we all have better days than others, but honestly, it's not the same. I know right now, there are a heck of lot of people in it b/c they simply need the income--otherwise, they would be gone. Right now, I think it's particularly troublesome, given the seriously deep-sinking economy. Even if that were to improve in a few years, everything is just too expensive to stay in the hospital. Be aware that is where a great deal of the reachable jobs will be--outside the hospital.

    Sorry. Don't at all want to be a Debbie Downer. It's just so different and the whole mentality of how things are run is such that I find it difficult to encourage people in going into the field. Trust me; it never used to be that way with me.
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    I'd be curious to know the stats on how many nurses leave the field and enter into a new one. Because for all the things I hear about how bad nursing is now, I don't see anyone quitting. Just an unscientific observation.


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