Is dating or flirting with an another nurse or patient is acceptable? - page 2

Not in the nursing program yet, from experience when i was volunteering at a hospital dudes was flirting with me and a patient even took me on a date, so in the nursing field is flirting or even... Read More

  1. by   BrandonLPN
    To the OP (and I mean this as sincere advice, not a snide putdown) you're going to have to be a lot more mature if you want to make it through nursing school. I can see the clinical instructor eating you for breakfast. Dating a patient never should even enter your brain. Total abuse of the nurse/patient relationship. And drop the text speak/incorrect grammar. Fairly or unfairly you're going to find yourself labeled for that.
  2. by   Elladora
    We have a policy where I work we can't even speak to a patient for six months after they leave our care, let alone date them (I work in psych). The sad part, the reason for the policy is that a worker DID try to date a client. Bad, bad, bad!

    Dating a patient is a HUGE no-no. That you would even think to ask about it worries me.

    As far as dating a co-worker, all depends on your facility. We can't date someone that supervises us. If you're on the same level on the organizational chart then you can.
    Last edit by Elladora on Aug 8, '12 : Reason: clarification
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  4. by   nurse671
    Girl I got that a lot even doctors asked me out but please DO NOT be tempted. A big no no if you really care about your career
  5. by   Kasandra
    You cannot be serious.

    You never, ever date a patient. You are a nursing professional. You must carry yourself as one at all times.

    I would have to say the same about dating a fellow nurse. If they are above you in the chain of command, that is a big NO. If they are not, and things do not work out, you have to continue to see and work with this person.

    I have to say this because no one else is: You aren't wanting to be a nurse (or work in that environment) as a way of meeting people, are you? If so, you are pursuing nursing for a very wrong reason. Nursing is not at all like the television shows where nurses and doctors are having sex with eachother in supply closets, everyone hooking up with everyone. This makes for fine television but is not reality in any way.
  6. by   mikeicurn
    Quote from Beautifulvirgo
    Not in the nursing program yet, from experience when i was volunteering at a hospital dudes was flirting with me and a patient even took me on a date, so in the nursing field is flirting or even dating is acceptable with an another nurse or even a patient:kiss? if so, what is the limits to keep a nurse name clean? can nurses have a social life with other co workers outside of the work place.please tell me your experience if you had one? or whatever your thoughts on it.
    Don't get your honey where you make your money.
  7. by   CrunchRN
    Nope. Dating patients is ethically wrong and dating co-workers is heading down the path to a million issues so avoid both.
  8. by   Ashke
    To address another part of the OP's question, I would imagine that nurses do hang out socially so as to reinforce positive working relationships. Nursing is a stressful job, and it is nice to do fun activities with co-workers so that you don't always associate them with stress and negativity. However, these are typically on the platonic, professional level (i.e. no getting inebriated and waking up with your panties on your head in the entertainment district).

    I have two siblings who both met their significant others on the job (not nursing). Fast forward many years and they are still together, married with children and are very happy. However, neither of them stayed at their jobs very long and I think for at least one of them, the relationship was a factor in their (forced) leaving. Neither of them regret it, but then they also didn't invest years and money into those jobs either. It would really suck to throw away years of accrued experience over a fling that may or may not pan out.

    I feel the need to reiterate that the above applies to the context of co-workers getting together; patient relations outside the context of a professional relationship is a sure-fire way to get kicked out of the entire health care field. You put in way too much of yourself to let that happen.
  9. by   FlyingScot
    Quote from Beautifulvirgo
    ? if so, what is the limits to keep a nurse name clean?
    This is the part that concerns me the most. Do you really want to know how far you can push it and not get in trouble? It makes me worry that you will do the same in your nursing career and that will make you a very dangerous person...until you get caught.
  10. by   Rosenhammer
    Quote from RNsRWe
    Umm, "Beautiful Virgo"? I'll take this from a different direction: once you get started in the nursing program, if you find you have time or energy to even THINK about this silliness again, you're not studying enough....
    Couldn't have said this better myself. And for my two cents, shouldn't the staff, in whatever capacity, be concerned with the patients? Just my opinion.
  11. by   CrunchRN
    Gray's anatomy?

    Ok, I never saw it, but it is probably the template for todays students expectations................................
  12. by   Meriwhen
    Dating a patient certainly isn't illegal...however it is not always the most ethical decision--in fact, more often that not it is a poor one. Also, depending on the policies at your facility, you could end up losing your job.

    Dating coworkers...again, not illegal. Again, you could lose your job depending on where you work. As for the ethics...that's more of a grey area since there's more factors that could play into it. And it could make for a very interesting--or awkward--nursing environment.

    Yes, there are the "happily ever after" stories--including several from members at the forum--where nurse and patient/coworker overcame all odds to have a successful relationship. But I'll be willing to wager that these are the exceptions and not the norm...and I'll also bet it involved at least one party having to find a new facility to work/go to.
  13. by   CHESCCRP
    To add to all the good advice from above, don't sleep with doctors, either. Your fellow nurses will totally lose respect for you, and you won't be taken seriously as a professional. This was not my experience, but it was the case with a nurse in my workplace. She came to be known as the nurse who wanted to be a "Dr. Mrs.," even though sleeping around wasn't going to get her there.