Is dating or flirting with an another nurse or patient is acceptable? - page 3
by Beautifulvirgo | 10,281 Views | 37 Comments
Not in the nursing program yet, from experience when i was volunteering at a hospital dudes was flirting with me and a patient even took me on a date, so in the nursing field is flirting or even dating is acceptable with an... Read More
- 0Aug 8, '12 by AshkeTo address another part of the OP's question, I would imagine that nurses do hang out socially so as to reinforce positive working relationships. Nursing is a stressful job, and it is nice to do fun activities with co-workers so that you don't always associate them with stress and negativity. However, these are typically on the platonic, professional level (i.e. no getting inebriated and waking up with your panties on your head in the entertainment district).
I have two siblings who both met their significant others on the job (not nursing). Fast forward many years and they are still together, married with children and are very happy. However, neither of them stayed at their jobs very long and I think for at least one of them, the relationship was a factor in their (forced) leaving. Neither of them regret it, but then they also didn't invest years and money into those jobs either. It would really suck to throw away years of accrued experience over a fling that may or may not pan out.
I feel the need to reiterate that the above applies to the context of co-workers getting together; patient relations outside the context of a professional relationship is a sure-fire way to get kicked out of the entire health care field. You put in way too much of yourself to let that happen.
- 5Aug 8, '12 by FlyingScotQuote from BeautifulvirgoThis is the part that concerns me the most. Do you really want to know how far you can push it and not get in trouble? It makes me worry that you will do the same in your nursing career and that will make you a very dangerous person...until you get caught.? if so, what is the limits to keep a nurse name clean?
- 0Aug 8, '12 by RosenhammerQuote from RNsRWeCouldn't have said this better myself. And for my two cents, shouldn't the staff, in whatever capacity, be concerned with the patients? Just my opinion.Umm, "Beautiful Virgo"? I'll take this from a different direction: once you get started in the nursing program, if you find you have time or energy to even THINK about this silliness again, you're not studying enough....
- 0Aug 8, '12 by Meriwhen, BSN, RN Senior ModeratorDating a patient certainly isn't illegal...however it is not always the most ethical decision--in fact, more often that not it is a poor one. Also, depending on the policies at your facility, you could end up losing your job.
Dating coworkers...again, not illegal. Again, you could lose your job depending on where you work. As for the ethics...that's more of a grey area since there's more factors that could play into it. And it could make for a very interesting--or awkward--nursing environment.
Yes, there are the "happily ever after" stories--including several from members at the forum--where nurse and patient/coworker overcame all odds to have a successful relationship. But I'll be willing to wager that these are the exceptions and not the norm...and I'll also bet it involved at least one party having to find a new facility to work/go to.
- 2Aug 8, '12 by CHESCCRPTo add to all the good advice from above, don't sleep with doctors, either. Your fellow nurses will totally lose respect for you, and you won't be taken seriously as a professional. This was not my experience, but it was the case with a nurse in my workplace. She came to be known as the nurse who wanted to be a "Dr. Mrs.," even though sleeping around wasn't going to get her there.
- 6Aug 8, '12 by Altra GuideQuote from BeautifulvirgoBold emphasis is mine.Not in the nursing program yet, from experience when i was volunteering at a hospital dudes was flirting with me and a patient even took me on a date, so in the nursing field is flirting or even dating is acceptable with an another nurse or even a patient:kiss? if so, what is the limits to keep a nurse name clean? can nurses have a social life with other co workers outside of the work place.please tell me your experience if you had one? or whatever your thoughts on it.
So you've already crossed this important boundary, and are just now asking if it's acceptable?
Think long and hard about your personal definition of professionalism, and whether or not a career field requiring detachment, professional deportment, and verbal skills including language easily understood by all is right for you at this time.
- 0Aug 8, '12 by ProudStudentNever, never, never and I repeat...NEVER date a patient. That is totally unprofessional, completely unethical and more than likely against any policy in any facility you may ever work for. As far as dating a coworker?? Ever heard the saying "Don't dip your pen in the company ink?" The key word is "don't".