Obese children...my rant - page 3

by Gently.me | 14,872 Views | 80 Comments

Ok so child comes in with laceration to the hand. 12 years old, about 5'5'' and weighs 260lbs. Big boy. The MD who was suturing was not his PCP, just there to take care of the urgent task. As she wassuturing, the child keeps... Read More


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    "It's so easy to talk about it and it is so not easy to do it."

    Okay, please note that I'm not picking on you, I'm just focusing on this sentence, which I've heard many many times.

    SO WHAT if it's not "easy." Who ever got the idea that raising kids properly would ever be "easy?" It's NOT easy to do the right thing, whether that means feeding our kids healthy food in the presence of tantrums, advertising, and ease of poor alternatives, or expecting kids to help with chores, do their homework, adhere to curfew, whatever. It's NOT easy to raise healthy, productive citizens, but no one ever promised us it would be easy. Let's not do what's EASY, let's do what is RIGHT and BEST for our kids, and I can promise you that feeding our kids CRAP and giving in to tantrums demanding junk food, sedentary lifestyles, and the power to make decisions for the family is NOT doing what is right for our kids.

    Let's not go for easy, let's go for what's best for our kids-and trust me, whether they are 2 years old or ten, they do NOT know what's best for them. That's our job, and it is NOT "easy" to figure out and enforce. If we're not up to the job, fine, admit it, and just don't have kids. Being a parent is not for the faint of heart!
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    My son is 8 and is in the 75th percentile for weight (95th for height!). His pediatrician told me he could safely gain up to 10 pounds and still be perfectly fine. I have always believed in "everything in moderation." He gets fast food treats from time to time, or dessert, but he also eats a balanced diet as well. I have never catered to him when it comes to eating; he has to try at least one bite but if he doesn't like it, he just has an empty belly. Too many parents give in to what is easy or what keeps the kids from throwing a fit.
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    I told my kids they could have junk food, only if they first gave their bodies good stuff.

    Had a fellow in last night, over 500 pounds. Couldn't scan him as he was over the weight limit for our machinery. His obese (and elderly) father, and mom (overweight, not obese) were the biggest enablers I've seen. He doesn't work, and dad described giving him massages for back pain but unable to lately. Leg falls off side of bed, mom has to lift it back up for him. When does love become abuse?
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    It's funny, my PHP and I had the conversation today about my weight and my motivation for fixing it. He pointed out that I should improve it as a good example for my 5 y/o.

    If we ate like she did, we'd be the healthiest people on our block. (we also abide by the eat it or go to bed hungry philosophy, except for Wednesday night, when she gets baked chicken nuggets and fries and The Man and I get to eat something a little more exotic that I know she won't touch).

    I just wish I could stop all of the binge-eating I do after she goes to bed. She busted me the other morning because I didn't throw away the Ben and jerry's container!

    Anyway, it is hard to control the emotional issues behind eating. But, some of us really need to just do it, regardless. Very little about parenting is easy and teaching smart eating shouldn't be any different.
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    Has anyone heard of the Fat Acceptance Movement? According to its Wikipedia article: "Some in the movement have argued that the health risks of fatness and obesity have been exaggerated or misrepresented, and used as cover for cultural and aesthetic prejudices against fat." They say that "people can be healthy at any size."

    I'm all for social justice and reducing prejudice, but to me "healthy at any size," means having normal vital signs, normal cholesterol, normal blood sugars, and a normal amount of body fat versus muscle (the BMI can be unreliable here). Body size be damned if these categories are normal, but those who are overweight/obese seem to have trouble doing this. Not a coincidence. Not exagerrated. Cold fact.
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    I have mixed feelings about the whole obesity is unhealthy thing. I DO know that there are heavy adults who can be healthy. BUT those are people who are heavy in spite of eating what is generally considered to be a healthy diet, are active, and don't engage in unhealthy behaviors such as smoking, alcohol abuse, and sedentary lifestyles. It might surprise you to know that many such individuals exist. Those people ARE the ones who will never be thin without starving themselves, and they have the blood work and other health markers to prove that their large size is genetic AND not necessarily harmful. They are NOT morbidly obese, but definitely overweight, and in SOME cases, due to muscle tissue, weigh in as obese even. Please note that Troy Aikman is categorized as obese due to his weight, even though he is 6' 4" of solid muscle.

    HOWEVER, I think that children are naturally thin unless they are engaging in extremely unhealthy behaviors. Most morbidly obese children are eating ungodly amounts of junk food, fast food, sugar, soft drinks, etc., while sitting on the couch never running, playing, or engaging in any exercise whatsoever. They are eating amazing amounts of PROCESSED foods, not whole foods and this a huge distinction. A child should not have to diet-but if they are consuming large amounts of SUGAR, refined carbohydrates, fake foods which have been overprocessed, you will see a fat child who is destined for a lifetime of health problems.
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    "I just wish I could stop all of the binge-eating I do after she goes to bed. She busted me the other morning because I didn't throw away the Ben and jerry's container!"

    If you don't buy it, you can't eat it. Believe me, even as a lifelong thin person, I understand the late night binge. I cannot keep shredded cheese and tostada chips or even triscuits in the house, or I will be eating those at midnight while watching Jersey Shore reruns (blushes heavily).

    You CANNOT eat what you don't have, so just don't buy Ben and Jerry's.
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    This topic is a huge pet peeve of mine. These children are being set up for so many emotional problems, bullying in school and long term medical problems and a good percent of the cases CAN be prevented if the parents step up to the plate.
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    Children learn obesity from their parents.
    I remember not long ago a huge baby was born (in China I think?) and one of the doctors here said that is actually rare for a child to be born obese and grow up like that.
    I've always said parents who feed their kids junk - and that this is proven - should be charged with child neglect if not abuse. I see too many obese kids - not fat, but obese - kids coming out of school when I'm going to work, and it makes me angry. Mind you, I've also seen A LOT of kids stop off at Maccas (McDonalds) for an after school snack, but who gives them the money? Probably the parents.
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    [quote=palemoon;5631437]Has anyone heard of the Fat Acceptance Movement? According to its Wikipedia article: "Some in the movement have argued that the health risks of fatness and obesity have been exaggerated or misrepresented, and used as cover for cultural and aesthetic prejudices against fat." They say that "people can be healthy at any size."

    I've read the FAC website blogs and other fat blogs. They're astoundingly unreal! One woman & her hubby were hugely overweight (by her account), they jumped into bed one night and BROKE the bed! Everyone on the blog was laughing about it and she said we are out buying a new bed today, as if this is a normal occurence. I felt like writing: honey, when ur breaking the bed & you laugh it off, you are so in denial! But it wouldn't do any good. There were other more outrageous blogs, like an obese girl reckons a guy didn't acknowledge her at uni I think 'cos she's too fat' How on earth would she know that?
    You can be fat and healthy, but being obese is a different thing. And nobody can convince me personally that a 200 or 300 kg person is healthy.
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