making fun of patients - page 5

i am currently doing an externship on l&d and maternity and often hear the nurses making fun of the patients. such as " omg shes 23 and on her 4th" or " wow shes too young to have children, she... Read More

  1. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Thank you, Lili well-said. I see this all-too-much. THIS is the situation that GRIPES us, not the PERSON but the SITUATION....so do you see where we come NOW?????
  2. by   mother/babyRN
    Well, this has been an interesting detour into something I am not sure of...Welfare...Hmmm....OB nurses see quite a bit of abuse in this area, and, there are people who do love and want the idea of being in the system because that is all they know, as they were brought up that way...No, I don't feel I should support people who can go out and work...I had to do it. I paid my own way, was a single mom and forfeited eating anything but macaroni for 6 months in order to feed and clothe my son and pay the heating bills. I am not sorry about that and have no regrets, but , as it seems now, SCUD missle funding is apparently going to be needed sometime soon....
    And, psych nurse, your comments did sound pretty juvenille to me, or at the very least, raw...I could decend into that sort of thing and mention a few and hopefully, inaccurate stereotypical views of psych nurses/physicians, but where would that lead us and what good would it do?
    OB nursing is an entirely different genre than many other areas. You have the opportunity, I am certain, to deal with psychosocial/economincal and psychological issues that no doubt drain you...I applaud you, but so do we.....Try to remember that...Just as there are a select few who can function well and appropriately in YOUR field, there are just as many or few who find that OB nursing, while situations result in happy outcomes, are great. But, when situations arise that are horrible, sad and scary, and that happens in the blink of an eye sometimes, please don't try and judge what we do without expecting us to at least want to respond in kind....Take care everyone, and Happy New Year!
  3. by   Dayray
    I see allot of teen and medicaide mom's too. I try to see the positive in them. Even the drug mom's. Somtimes its hard to see the good in them but I would rather error on the side of the patient (if I choose to see their good sides what could it hurt?) I don't see how a negative attitude toward any patient benifits anyone. You will never change or help a person by focusing on their shortcomings. You will however help some (even if it be just a few) by showing them compassion and understanding even when they don't deserve it.

    One of my favorite scriptures is the one where Jesus meets the women at the well == He choose to see the good in her before he addressed her shortcomings. He choose to see her as a person who had never known any life other then the one she was living and focused on the good in her inorder to direct her toward change.

    Remeber none of us are worthy of mercy or forgivness .. yet we still hope for it and it's becuse of mercy that we are alive today. Just think of where you would be today if you were judged by your weeknesses or mistakes rather then by your quality and worth as a human being.
  4. by   mark_LD_RN
    hey day ray glad to see you posting again!

    I also try to see the good in every patient, i do not make fun of them .but occasionally I need a good venting session!
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Dayray, we are not saying to use judgement against patients or to compromise care. Your post while well-put does not change how I practice or what I feel. I am quite a few pegs short of Christ, I suppose. But I DO render kind, professional care despite a person's background, beliefs or any demographic facts. That is the truth. Welcome back, by the way! I, too am glad to see you.
  6. by   Dayray
    Ack... did'nt mean for it to come out that way .....sorry for those I offended =)
  7. by   shay
    Dayray, honey, I don't think you could offend anyone even if you TRIED. We know what you're saying.
  8. by   SmilingBluEyes
    * is not offended, but felt compelled to clarify what I do.
  9. by   BBnurse34
    Despite what many of you say about doing very well as young mothers, would you want your daughter to become pregnant at a young age? Just because young women with fortitude are able to handle teen pregnancy doesn't make it a good thing.
    Also, I have seen plenty of older multip's babies that I pitty.
  10. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Ahhh... good question BBnurse34.

    Of course, I think no one WANTS or would encourage their daughter to have a child young. I would hope things would be different. Nobody said it was a good thing, so I hope that isn't what you think you've read here. Quite the opposite.

    And it's not about the pity. Yes, dysfunctional parents come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages. This thread is about teenage parents.

    Heather
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Originally posted by OBNURSEHEATHER
    Ahhh... good question BBnurse34.

    Of course, I think no one WANTS or would encourage their daughter to have a child young. I would hope things would be different. Nobody said it was a good thing, so I hope that isn't what you think you've read here. Quite the opposite.

    And it's not about the pity. Yes, dysfunctional parents come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages. This thread is about teenage parents.

    Heather
    Agree, Heather. Age alone is not a factor to me; at least not nearly as much as FUNCTIONALITY.....there are women MY age who are much more dysfunctional and will never get it together as well as many teen moms I have come to know.
  12. by   mark_LD_RN
    DAYRAY glad to see you are posting again I do not think you offended any one.


    I am not to sure families don't encourage it sometimes. I have had young mothers in here 14 ,15 yrs old, and families are as happy as can be and talking about her next one! for goodnees sakes she is 14 in labor and all they can think about is her next baby. kinda makes me wonder. what about you?
  13. by   mother/babyRN
    They are people first whatever their circumstances or ages.. We all do the best we can...But yes Mark, it does bother me when families are talking about the next baby when the one that just arrived often doesn't have a chance in the world to develop his or her potential. I know it sounds as though we are all jaded, but we have been through it so often. Nurses are people too, and defensive mechanisms don't escape you just because nursing is your chosen profession....

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