Am dreading second year.......

  1. I am dreading going back to school next week.....not so much because the things I will be learning will be far harder than first year but because I am an older student and found last year that my classmates were the nastiest, uncooperative, jealous, most competitive group of snipes I have ever had to meet. (Although I have met nasty women where I have worked before).

    Group work last year was agonizing. I slaved my arse off with group projects and had to deal with lazy, immature partners.

    Cliques formed.....I was left out of everything.

    The instructor proved to be the most disorganized, immature, giggly, unprepared bonehead that I have ever had to deal with. The stress in the classroom was insane!!. Students were always jockeying for position and there was much fighting and arguing.

    Alliances formed and thats when the kids grew nasty.

    Gawd I so dread going back......I wonder too if my health will hold up under all the crap.

    Thank gawd for allnurses because no one here judges me on my age, my knowledge and my work ethic. No one here teases or taunts me as I try to get thru paralyzing oral presentations ( and me with anxiety and panic attacks).....and I can always find comfort from all of you when I was snubbed by my fellow classmates the entire year for who knows what reason.

    I could definately use some kind words and a hug as I get ready for slaughter again in my very small class (14 students) and very young instructor. Cuz, as strong as I think I am, I cried so many tears last year and was so extremely frustrated with the disorganized chaos, gossip, childish behaviour etc etc.....that I wanted to QUIT QUIT QUIT!!!

    Tell me I can make it thru, to ignore the crap in class, to revel being ostracized and left out of everything and to enjoy my own quiet time. Tell me that I will never have to see half these snipes ever again once school is out LOL...and reassure me that I can do this!!!.

    Thanks,
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  3. by   suzy253
    Quote from Dratz
    Tell me I can make it thru, to ignore the crap in class, to revel being ostracized and left out of everything and to enjoy my own quiet time. Tell me that I will never have to see half these snipes ever again once school is out LOL...and reassure me that I can do this!!!.

    Thanks,
    You can do this Dratz! You're paying for your education and sounds like you will succeed! I never had any time, patience, whatever, for the little cliques, gossip, giggling, etc. in class. I went to school, did what I had to do and that was it. Bugger everyone else if they're going to act like ********. :wink2: You're above this kind of behavior and it shows. Plus you will always have us here at Allnurses to vent to!
    Best wishes. Hang in there.
  4. by   Dratz
    You're right Suzy!! Thanks for the kind words and support
  5. by   Tweety
    You go into the classroom with your head held high and don't give anyone power over how you feel about yourself or your goals. Don't let the petty judgements of others rent any space whatsoever in your head. Take it one day at a time knowing it's only one day out of your life and you can do this!
  6. by   Daytonite
    Hang in there! Things can happen over a summer break that change people's lives--especially for the young ones. Lovers come and go in and out of their lives, they make life changing decisions like a flash without regard to the consequences, the drama never ends. I'll bet a few things will have changed for some of them. A few might even have had a change of character as well (well, you can hope!) There's a possibility you might even have a new instructor, isn't that what you told me in a previous post? If so, maybe it will be someone who will see the crap and stop it.

    I was in a BSN program with 2 of my other co-workers. They were a year ahead of me. There were a lot of problems with the program because it was relatively new and there was one professor (yes, professor with a PhD) who was stupid as all get out) who was unfair, inconsistent and would forget what she would say from one student to the next about assignments, and was just nasty to talk with. In any case, we didn't work the same shifts, but when we did see each other, we would just keep telling each other, "only xxx more months", which eventually became, weeks and then days. You have to think that way. It's only one more year out of your life which is, statistics tell us, going to be way longer. When school is done, that's it. You'll never have to deal with those people again--at least if you even run into them it won't be on the same level.

    So, hang in there. Make your goals short. Think about making it to the first holiday. Then, Christmas. And so on. One foot in front of the other and trudge on. If you can get through this, you will certainly be worthy of having the title of "Nurse". Things can only get better, right? Think of skills you've had to learn on your own, and I'm not just talking about the nursing skills. You've learned how to be your own best student! That autonomy and ability to find your own answers is going to pay off in huge dividends for you as you go into your professional nursing career, I promise! You will be so far ahead of the youngsters in your class in that respect. They will still be wondering what hit them as they struggle with their first real nursing jobs.

    Edited per TOS
    Last edit by VickyRN on Sep 8, '06
  7. by   Dratz
    Thanks Daytonite....you have been a blessing for me in your unwavering support and help with all my questions. I know I can count on you and the others on this board to see me through.

    Thanks again!!
  8. by   Halinja
    I know EXACTLY what you mean. I too am an older student, and am facing going back to school for that final year. There is a person on our faculty that your description fits to a 't' (you aren't in california, are you?)

    The halls of our nursing building seem to be permeated with hostility. The clinicals are GREAT. The clinical instructors and nurses on the floors have been wonderfully supportive. But walking through those nursing building doors...makes my stomach roll.

    BUT! You can do it. I know I can. Being older, I have a better understanding of what I can endure...and I can endure a lot to get where I'm going. I'm sure you can too. And then, suddenly, school will be over and you and I can shake the dust from our feet and move on into 'real' life.

    Good Luck!!!!!
  9. by   t2bn
    I too am an older 2nd year nursing student. The summer vacation went all too fast for me. Last semester was a nightmare with my clinical instructor but this semester I feel will be better. I feel for you not having older students in your class. I am fortunate in that aspect because there are several over 40. I'm having a little difficulty navigating this site. I haven't figured out how to make an original post instead of replying. I'm starting OB and have meds to look up and can't find the dosages for postpartum anyone have any suggestions? Guess I'll attempt an original post with the question. Hopefully I can figure it out!! Hang in there fellow student!! Only 8-9 months left and we're there!!
  10. by   allthingsbright
    man, i am so with you...

    i am just trying to keep myself together and ignore the morons-LOL
  11. by   LoriAlabamaRN
    I had a really hard time in my RN program as well... there were people there who already knew eachother and "cliques" abounded. I didn't fit in, and I will always remember my burning cheeks as I tried to find someone to let me join their group for the final semester presentation. Just focus on the fact that you are there for YOU, not for your classmates. Make it through school and don't look back.
  12. by   RNLisa
    Quote from Dratz
    I am dreading going back to school next week.....not so much because the things I will be learning will be far harder than first year but because I am an older student and found last year that my classmates were the nastiest, uncooperative, jealous, most competitive group of snipes I have ever had to meet. (Although I have met nasty women where I have worked before).

    Group work last year was agonizing. I slaved my arse off with group projects and had to deal with lazy, immature partners.

    Cliques formed.....I was left out of everything.

    The instructor proved to be the most disorganized, immature, giggly, unprepared bonehead that I have ever had to deal with. The stress in the classroom was insane!!. Students were always jockeying for position and there was much fighting and arguing.

    Alliances formed and thats when the kids grew nasty.

    Gawd I so dread going back......I wonder too if my health will hold up under all the crap.

    Thank gawd for allnurses because no one here judges me on my age, my knowledge and my work ethic. No one here teases or taunts me as I try to get thru paralyzing oral presentations ( and me with anxiety and panic attacks).....and I can always find comfort from all of you when I was snubbed by my fellow classmates the entire year for who knows what reason.

    I could definately use some kind words and a hug as I get ready for slaughter again in my very small class (14 students) and very young instructor. Cuz, as strong as I think I am, I cried so many tears last year and was so extremely frustrated with the disorganized chaos, gossip, childish behaviour etc etc.....that I wanted to QUIT QUIT QUIT!!!

    Tell me I can make it thru, to ignore the crap in class, to revel being ostracized and left out of everything and to enjoy my own quiet time. Tell me that I will never have to see half these snipes ever again once school is out LOL...and reassure me that I can do this!!!.

    Thanks,
    I am beginning to wonder if you went to my school!!! I felt the same way about my class. By the time I graduated, I was so ready to hurt someone in my class. BUT, I did it. I, too, was an older student (36 when graduated). I did find a small group of girls that were mature and moral and we stuck by each other and gave each other encouragement. That's difficult to find sometimes. It's hard to trust people. We had alot of "cut throat" individuals in our class, alot of "show offs" and "I got a better grade than you did" kind of people. I vowed I would NEVER allow myself to be a patient of these people, nor work with them. So far, so good.

    Keep your chin up, ignore them, try and get as much out of class that you can and remember you are NOT in this for THEM, you are in this for YOU and your family. It is hard, but remember why you are doing this in the first place and try to block out the negative stuff.

    As far as your instructor, WOW, that sounds like my first year one. She tried to tell jokes and they were NOT funny, she was a ditz. BUT, our second year instructor was amazing and very knowledgable. AND fortunately, she liked me and my group of friends and she agreed how petty our class was and how competitive they were. She used to stand up in lecture and YELL "Shut up" to the class because there was so much talking going on in the back. I learned alot from her and am grateful.

    I wish you the VERY best of luck!
  13. by   Dratz
    Ha!!...RNLisa....that is way too funny that your instructor would stand up and yell Shut up!!!! Now I would have loved to see that lol...and so she should if her class is being rude...Ya well, my instructor used to show up for important classes in tears and then launch into a 15 minute diatribe against her hubby whom she had just had an arguement. You wanna waste my time bawling about your personal life on my dime???? (I used to think.....c'mere......let me give you sumpin to cry about......

    Sure sounds like I am not alone in having a class like this eh? LOL...You guys cheered me up so much and made me giggle too. Thanks again everyone for your insight. Today I am actually looking forward to going back just so I can giggle to myself and enjoy my learning:icon_hug: :icon_hug: :icon_hug:
  14. by   Roy Fokker
    Quote from Tweety
    You go into the classroom with your head held high and don't give anyone power over how you feel about yourself or your goals. Don't let the petty judgements of others rent any space whatsoever in your head. Take it one day at a time knowing it's only one day out of your life and you can do this!
    :yeahthat:


    Remember, THIS -------> :mortarboard: <---- is what you're aiming for!

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