Saying I'm Sorry - page 4

by SarahLeeRN

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I am writing because I wanted to tell you that I am sorry. I know that you didnít ask for that. You just went in for a routine procedure that was supposed to change your life. It did change your life-just not in the way that... Read More


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    Quote from GrnTea
    If one accessed this post from the list of Likes/Replied Tos on the right, there is no indication where the link leads other than the title of the piece. I know I never notice until I read a piece and then go to click on the top links to the rest of the forum, and that's when I discover I've wandered into...whatever.

    Perhaps the destination forum (or its abbreviation) could be appended to those links?
    Why? Is this post so offensive that we need to warn people that it contains spirituality? Is it going to harm atheists who stumble upon it? You are free to disagree and move on, just as the OP is free to post HER experience and thoughts. Ridiculous.
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    I'm not an athiest, funny how you all assumed that though. I guess one must be an athiest if one doesn't believe in Christ.

    I just object to "all strength comes from Christ."
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    Thanks GrnTea, I did end up here by mistake, through that link on the side. I didn't even know there was a spirituality board.
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    Quote from BeagleBabe
    I'm not an atheist, funny how you all assumed that though. I guess one must be an atheist if one doesn't believe in Christ.

    I just object to "all strength comes from Christ."
    It's a personal story......the OP has a personal belief......I read no further into the story than that.
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    I always forget to check out "where I am" if I click on something highlighted in the right column. This thread is a good reminder to check it out before I ever post. As an agnostic, I, too, am a bit weary of reading affirmations of personal strength, intuition, chutzpah, or whatever, being accredited to another source. I believe we should give ourselves more credit, as most people could use a boost of self-esteem. God gives us all a brain and a heart to rub together to create the Fire within.

    I also agree w the other sentiment, that we nurses are overworked to the limit as it is, and we need to learn to forgive ourselves and not be so hard on ourselves when we cannot produce miraculous results.
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    Hello Allnurses Readers,
    I just want to thank you all for such interesting article discussion. I have been sort of standing back and watching- and I realized that I do need to clarify a few things.
    When I wrote this I really wasn't even totally sure what I was trying to say. Without giving many more details, I can tell you what I think I was thinking.
    I do know that I was not intending to "Admonish the already overworked nurse for not being More caring...ect." I really do appreciate that viewpoint posted however, because, honestly, I myself was wondering if that is what I was trying to say! On further reflection, though, this is what I have concluded:
    That day I had been working 15 hours. I was angry. I was tired. That was way too long of a day. There was not enough staff. This person had problems as a result of medical error. His solution took alot of time. The direct nurse in charge of him was inexperienced. I did not have enough time to help her help him, deal with new admits and orders etc. that night, and I was exhausted. In retrospect, I don't believe that I was apologizing to him for what I could not do-I did realize that I couldn't do it all-but more indepth than that, I was apologizing to him for the absolute absurd deck of cards so to speak that healthcare AS A WHOLE had given him. Cover your ears and look both ways, but I am here to tell you-that night and other times his call light was on for quite awhile because the already overworked and stressed staff would-are you ready-ignore it-unless they absolutly had to because of how much time it took when you were the one discovering the problem. And answering his light was just the tip of the iceberg to all of the time involved in this poor man's care. And truly, every person involved with his care I think gave as much as they could give! I know I did! There was just still times when all that we could do was just not enough.
    And so, I think that in that moment what I was doing was apologizing to him for the SYSTEM, for the whole rotten big picture package that he had landed himself into. In that moment my despair at the whole debacle matched his-and all I could do was just keep going and try again to fix it even though it seemed so absurdly messed up.
    The spirituality factor has already been addressed and I thank everyone for their input-as well as the Admin.
    Also as a side note, I think that maybe a sign of a 'good' piece of writing, whether it be mine or anyone else's is discussion. And I really do appreciate all of the varied insight that everyone has given here. It has certainly helped me in my understanding of my own situation. Thanks!
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    Maybe think of us collectively as your editors with a red pen!



    (I'm still curious about the actual injury and dressing issue - if you'd care to share that by pm, without violating privacy, feel free).
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    I saw a man with a similar situation as a student. A trash bag was included in the supplies for a dressing change and a medical error was the cause. Sad.

    Thanks for the great story.
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    Sounds like the dude needed any Ostomy Nurse!
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    Quote from SarahLeeRN
    Hello Allnurses Readers,
    I just want to thank you all for such interesting article discussion. I have been sort of standing back and watching- and I realized that I do need to clarify a few things.
    When I wrote this I really wasn't even totally sure what I was trying to say. Without giving many more details, I can tell you what I think I was thinking.
    I do know that I was not intending to "Admonish the already overworked nurse for not being More caring...ect." I really do appreciate that viewpoint posted however, because, honestly, I myself was wondering if that is what I was trying to say! On further reflection, though, this is what I have concluded:
    That day I had been working 15 hours. I was angry. I was tired. That was way too long of a day. There was not enough staff. This person had problems as a result of medical error. His solution took alot of time. The direct nurse in charge of him was inexperienced. I did not have enough time to help her help him, deal with new admits and orders etc. that night, and I was exhausted. In retrospect, I don't believe that I was apologizing to him for what I could not do-I did realize that I couldn't do it all-but more indepth than that, I was apologizing to him for the absolute absurd deck of cards so to speak that healthcare AS A WHOLE had given him. Cover your ears and look both ways, but I am here to tell you-that night and other times his call light was on for quite awhile because the already overworked and stressed staff would-are you ready-ignore it-unless they absolutly had to because of how much time it took when you were the one discovering the problem. And answering his light was just the tip of the iceberg to all of the time involved in this poor man's care. And truly, every person involved with his care I think gave as much as they could give! I know I did! There was just still times when all that we could do was just not enough.
    And so, I think that in that moment what I was doing was apologizing to him for the SYSTEM, for the whole rotten big picture package that he had landed himself into. In that moment my despair at the whole debacle matched his-and all I could do was just keep going and try again to fix it even though it seemed so absurdly messed up.
    The spirituality factor has already been addressed and I thank everyone for their input-as well as the Admin.
    Also as a side note, I think that maybe a sign of a 'good' piece of writing, whether it be mine or anyone else's is discussion. And I really do appreciate all of the varied insight that everyone has given here. It has certainly helped me in my understanding of my own situation. Thanks!
    Spoken like a true nurse....and then we go back tomorrow and do it again!
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