Thank you, Baubo, you made my day!
I'm so sorry about your mom. I cannot even imagine what it must be like to have lost a loved one in a violent manner, and I pray for continued healing and comfort for you and your family.
I am glad to hear that you were able to manage your depression with a short course of medication. Situational depression happens to the most 'normal' of individuals, and treatment can help smooth the way while they do the emotional work of recovery. (The term 'normal' is what we in the mental health community often call "just a setting on a clothes dryer"
.) Many, if not most people with situational depression go on to live life after they've improved, and for them, that bit of help getting over the worst of things will be all they will ever need.
I can't say whether your emotionality, or overreactions as your husband seems to think, are due to an underlying mood disorder. Obviously I'm not an MD, let alone a psychiatrist, so there's not much I can offer in the way of guidance along these lines. FWIW, so many things that folks think of as "bipolar" really are not pathological at all; everyone has mood swings. They have bad days. They also have reactions and emotions and feelings, they use bad judgment, they lose their tempers, they scream and curse. All 'normal' behaviors.
Manic-depressive illness is far more complex than "just" mood swings, as distressing as they can be. It affects every single area of life, and is supremely frustrating to deal with because it's a shape-shifter that likes to play tricks on us and gets worse with time. I'm still finding new manifestations of my own illness; for one, I have discovered that its favorite game is "Let's Mess With Viva's Executive Function". I used to be very neat and organized, and knew how to behave properly in any social situation.......now I can barely organize a trip to the toilet, let alone a typical day's work, and I'm apt to pop off with a completely inappropriate remark in the middle of a conversation that I will spend the next six months regretting. Medication helps with that quite a bit, but it doesn't 'fix' the problem!
Anyway, I'm happy you are doing well and hope you continue to do so. Thank you again for the kind words. Viva