More Confessions Of A Nurse Who Compulsively Eats - page 3
by TheCommuter 7,238 Views | 39 Comments Senior Moderator
Itís the beginning of another new year, so Iím going to discuss the topic of overeating. Since masses of people across America are making new years resolutions that revolve around weight control, I feel this is an opportune time... Read More
- 8Jan 9, '13 by Hygiene Queen GuideI think that some folks are missing the point.
Those who compulsively over-eat (especially nurses!) are well of aware of how they should be eating and exercising.
The problem isn't knowing better, it's the compulsion itself.
They can have a full stomach and still cram it in... because the fullness isn't what compels them to stop eating.
It is a psychological issue... an addiction, a compulsion, an obsession.
Not bringing junk food into the house is useless.
The car will be on empty, they will have $8 in change, it will be midnight and when the unholy urge to binge rears its ugly head, they will putz into the 7 Eleven on fumes and find the dang chips, pop and chocolate and mindlessly plunk that change out on the counter!
Focusing on healthy eating and execise habits certainly doesn't hurt, but it is not going to work very well without getting to heart of the problem... which is psychological, most likely depression and anxiety.Last edit by Hygiene Queen on Jan 9, '13
- 0Jan 9, '13 by CDEWannaBeYou're right on Hygiene Queen. For those of us who struggle with compulsive overeating, it's as compelling and screwed up as any other addition.
Don't be too hard on yourself Commuter. Getting recovery from any kind of addiction is rarely straight forward. But I have known people who have succeeded. Hope to be one of them someday.
A book that has helped me is "Binge No More" by Joyce Nash Binge No More: Your Guide to Overcoming Disordered Eating with Other: Joyce D. Nash: 9781572241749: Amazon.com: Books
And if you're a Christian, the book "Love to Eat, Hate to Eat" by Elyse Fitzpatrick is awesome. It addresses overeating as an emotional, behavioral and spiritual issue. Love to Eat, Hate to Eat: Breaking the Bondage of Destructive Eating Habits: Elyse Fitzpatrick: 9780736914383: Amazon.com: Books
- 3Jan 9, '13 by multi10Commuter, I admire your courage and honesty. You help other people with your posts.
You pinpointed your return to your former eating habits to May of last year. Did something trigger this? (It's a rhetorical question.) It sounds like you were on a track that was working for you and got derailed by some person or some thing. I know I'm treading on thin ice here because I'm not a therapist.
My Dad was perfectly happy gaining weight over the years, until his doctor told him, "You have to lose weight." He resisted. His doctor, a family friend, then told my mom, "He has to lose weight." I was a kid. Our meal-times at home changed. My dad was dragged, kicking and screaming, into the world of diets. It was not his idea in the first place.
I respect everything you've said in this "More Confessions" article. Dogs aren't for everyone, and fad diets aren't the answer, although one may work for a particular person. I only suggest that it may be possible that you're being hard on yourself. Unlike other addictions/compulsions, you can't quit eating altogether.
If you're happy eating what you eat, try not to let others, or the American TV/movie culture, make you feel bad. I suspect that you are alot healthier and more fit than you give yourself credit for.
I went to a wedding in Fiji and the men there (and they are amazing) love voluptous women. The women there are so beautiful and bountiful and full of love. No self-consciousness whatsoever. And no shame. I know, I know, we're not in Fiji. But the obsession with the perfect weight in this culture sets us up for never being perfect enough. We should be kinder to ourselves.
- 1Jan 9, '13 by enchantmentdisI quit smoking around the holidays; and when our census went up, AND when things were at their worst--stress at home, stress at work; and with very little sleep due to money woes . It was a very brutal take to quit an awful habit. It worked, cold turkey, but i did not gain weight. Being a nurse, it was easy to figure out how not to gain weight during the holidays: remember that you actually cannot eat everything you see. Becoming a better housekeeper will assist in weight loss attempts. Be the one who cooks the fabulous meal;, for staying on your feet will help tremendously. Live with lazy-arse peeps who want to sit, read, and be on facebook. I also sit, read, and am on facebook, just not all day everyday. Eat more protein, more fibre, more low sugar veggies. Limit salt viciously. It actually worked. I still can have cookies, cheesecake, etc....just not EVERY day. Instead of coffee with loads of creamer and sugar, it is coffee with a spoonful of each. When at work in my car all day, racing to see patients, it is a half sandwich for lunch, almonds for snacks, lots of water, cheese sticks for snacks, carrots for snacks, any snacks that are made with whole grains, full fat yogurt--coconut greek kind. If i eat in a restaurant, the remainder i have for lunch the next day in my car. I have avoided fast food joints for months now and have saved tons of cash. It will take an eternity to lose 70 pounds. That is alright. I am alive, no longer smoke, my thyroid levels have improved, i won't have to take anti-cholesterols or anti-hypertensives, and i am fitting again in clothes that i saved in boxes in the closet. Wheeee! Someone jubilantly proclaimed that i would gain weight, eat more, and be unhappy if i quit smoking. That person is now crying. They did not know that some individuals do best under a hostile environment.Last edit by enchantmentdis on Jan 9, '13 : Reason: because
- 1Jan 9, '13 by TheCommuter Senior ModeratorQuote from multi10I usually weigh myself once a month, at the beginning of the month. I lose weight very slowly ever since becoming hypothyroid more than seven years ago, so it makes not much sense to weigh myself more frequently than once monthly.You pinpointed your return to your former eating habits to May of last year. Did something trigger this? (It's a rhetorical question.) It sounds like you were on a track that was working for you and got derailed by some person or some thing. I know I'm treading on thin ice here because I'm not a therapist.
Anyhow, I became disgusted and frustrated at myself at the beginning of May when I weighed myself and had lost no weight since the last weigh-in 30 days previously. I had been consistently eating 1500 calories per day and engaging in strenuous exercise five days per week. I was upset that I did not even lose half a pound per week. Nothing. Nada. Zilch.
I dealt with my frustration by slipping back into my old eating habits. It was supposed to be temporary, perhaps a week or so, but it snowballed and I was never able to get back on track.
- 2Jan 9, '13 by multi10Commuter, I understand. Back in May, it's possible that you didn't lose pounds on the scale because you gained muscle by exercising so much. Muscle weighs more than fat. One way to tell if you're getting fit is the way your clothes fit.
Maybe your body needed a rest from the strenuous exercise 5 days a week. You're already back on track.
- 1Jan 9, '13 by anotheronewhat helps me is to just not buy fhe food. i buy the minimum at the grocery store. if i have chips and cake at home i will eat them. so i try to never buy anything like that or extra. i also try to exercise alot but since working as a nurse i am often too tired to do as much as before. i have found myself thinking of eating something when i am not hungry and feel like an addict . i can have tons of alcohol in my house and never drink a sip in months. i just dont want it. with most junk foods, i am not like that so i just dont buy it . also part of me feels embarassed to be seen buying it since i am not super super slim. ( i also know that is not completely normal either lol) . the time period where i was , i went to bed hungry, and was hungry many times through out the day and did hours of exercise. i dont know how some people can be that thin and not do the same. have a hard time believing it
- 1Jan 10, '13 by multi10I've visited an Eastern European country eight times over the past few years, typically spending 3 weeks each time. While there, we ate and drank to our heart's content. Upon returning to America we always noticed that we'd lost weight.
There are no preservatives in the food there.
- 3Jan 10, '13 by joanna73 GuideTo those who are providing tips for not overeating....we know it. I exercise, eat healthy, try distraction, and avoid bringing junk foods into the house. However, although I know it's unhealthy, and I am well aware that I should not binge, I will do so anyway. The emotional component remains regardless, and is deeply rooted for most over-eaters. There have been times when I have eaten a whole pizza and two whole cakes in one sitting. Terrible, yes. But I've done it anyway. When I want to binge, I go out and get whatever I want, then eat it all. Unless you've been through this, you won't understand why people binge.
- 5Jan 10, '13 by rubatoQuote from joanna73Great article Commuter. I am so there with you. I am a food addict. I have a relationship with food that is all consuming. I, like joanna73, am an exercise bulimic. I have been a binge/purge bulimic in the past, but then I found that I could eat everything under the sun when training for marathons and ultra marathons. It was a fabulous new discovery (not so much).I am also a compulsive eater, presently my eating is more controlled since I have little access to the foods I love. I have what is called "exercise bulimia" for years now. Instead of vomiting, I have been known to eat huge amounts of food, then work it off for 3-4 hours. Still a disorder, and just as unhealthy. My weight tends to fluctuate between 10-15 pounds above where it should be. Not a big deal, right? Wrong. The emotional components and distorted thinking still remain. Many of us are secret eaters, who you would never guess. Commuter, I hope you find the answers you're searching for.
My obsession is more about control. I'm a fabulous dieter. I am so obsessed with food that I love planning out what I'm going to eat all day right down to the calories and protein grams. When I was on Weight Watchers, I just turned my obsession for food from: how much can I eat, to how can I eat the most food for the least amount of points. I'm an ex personal trainer, so I know what foods we need to fuel our bodies. I know all about clean eating, protein, natural foods, blah, blah, blah....
When I'm not dieting, you should see me at an all you can eat buffet. My hubby weighs 250. I weigh 130. He's always joking about how I can out eat him. I can eat at least 4 or 5 plates of food and I leave feeling so sick I swear I'll never do it again. Then, I do.
All the advice in the world can't change the addiction. Believe me, it would be nice to just wake up and say "Today, I won't think about food", but we will. We will either think about what we want to eat, what we're going to eat, what we're not going to eat, or how can we get what we want to eat without someone seeing how much we're going to eat.
I want to have a normal relationship with food. I want to just eat when I'm hungry, stop when I'm full and pick something that's somewhat healthy, but still tastes good. I can't keep running these marathons!