i believe it's time to call it quits...... - page 3
by virgojd 4,965 Views | 29 Comments
obviously no one is going to hire a nurse in IPN with a 5 year contract and with a criminal background. it's just not going to happen. I've only been in IPN for 6 months, but the financial toil and the degradation of being a... Read More
- 1Sep 21, '13 by MsPebbles(((virgojd))) - I just wanted to say congratulations on your sobriety and I'm so proud of you!!! I can only imagine how difficult it is, especially at a time when you feel all doors are closing in your face as you seek employment. But please don't give up!
I'm very lucky in that I tried alcohol a few times in my life and decided early on that I hated the taste, so I never drink. But that doesn't mean I haven't had my challenges in life...and I always try to remember that "this too shall pass." And it always does. Call me an optimist, but I believe that our life problems always have a way of working themselves out somehow, but only if you don't give up on yourself.
I have faith that you will find a nursing position again (just like your friend) and I look forward to reading about your good news here on AN!
- 1Sep 22, '13 by virgojdthank you mspebbles for those encouraging words. I am going to try and stick it out as long as the finances allow. it's just so hard when you don't have much support. i'm single, no kids. no one in my family really can help. I may soon be homeless. but, like you said, things have a way sometimes. The good Lord willing, maybe He will see it in His plans for me. have an awesome day!
- 2Sep 22, '13 by marcos9999Whatever the problem is we don't know what is up ahead for us. Good, bad, we just don't know. Just stay with it and be positive and you might find the unexpected knock on your door. We just never know how things will work out. They say we have to go to hell until we get to heaven.
- 0Sep 22, '13 by virgojdvery true Marcos..... I'm going to try and stick it out as long as I can. my friend who just got a job after 3 years of this same journey gave me some hope! he gave me the news last night! so happy for him!! thanks for the encouragement Marcos!Last edit by virgojd on Sep 22, '13 : Reason: added
- 3Sep 22, '13 by RNOTODAYIm so sorry your going through this. I dont have a criminal past, but i DO have a problem with pain pills. and all the stories here confirm and validate my decision to NEVER EVER seek help professionally for my addiction its simply career suicide. I dont divert, never have, i have a RX for my meds. . ill deal with it on my own..... but i digress... i really do feel for you, and I hope you can find a way through all this BS
- 0Sep 23, '13 by virgojdI agree RNOTODAY. I would have NEVER self reported if I didn't have a criminal background. I had to because they would have found out and it's better if you do it instead of getting caught. do what you have to do to get your life on track. this is hell!!
every time I get a negative response from an application I submitted, it chips away at my self confidence. I got a few this morning in my email box. I am seriously considering dropping this crap and going back to school. I can't take this much longer....
- 1Sep 23, '13 by catmom1Quote from virgojdIt brings tears to my eyes even 13 years after the fact to remember that I "confessed all" to the BON back in 2000, thinking I would get help if I were honest. How sadly ignorant I was!!!!I agree RNOTODAY. I would have NEVER self reported if I didn't have a criminal background.
I will have 9 years clean and sober this December and it is despite the BON not because of them that I have been able to reclaim my life.--a life without the benefit of the expensive and difficult nursing training that apparently means nothing if you have a "past" like mine.
- 0Sep 23, '13 by virgojdcatmom, I guess we all have our journeys.... and hindsight being 20/20, we can hopefully give insight to others regarding our trials. if anyone out there is reading this post, do not self report if you don't have to. The BON will chew you up and spit you out. They who are nurses, do not have an ounce of compassion when it comes to nurses with substance abuse issues, nor do prospective employers. once they see that you have ''issues'', you are judged without any benefit of a doubt.
so, catmom, are you saying you are no longer a practicing nurse?
- 0Sep 23, '13 by BamaRN2004Hang in there. There are people out there who are willing to give others chances. We all do wrong in life may it be big or small we all have done it. And someone tells you they haven't then they are lying to you and themselves. I have faith you will get back to doing what you love. Work the steps, focus on sobriety. work minimum wage jobs and apply every single day for thousands of jobs. Even if you don't think the job is for you apply anyways. You will get there as we all will. If we do what is right and that is clean up our lives and know our past mistakes were wrong then we will win in the end. For those who just give up and not try they will never know what could be would they. Why some of us have to have lives full of hard times and endless heartaches we will never know why. But I do bleive there is a reason why we have to suffer with addiction and have to work harder for out licenses than others. Sending healing and loving thoughts your way. Hang in there. We will all do this and we will do it together but never give up on a dream.