Would you marry a Doctor? - page 11
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Im new to this site and have been looking around. I was pretty shocked to read so many nurses saying they would never with a capital N, marry a DR? Are you kidding me? I would love nothing more to fall in love with and marry an... Read More
- 2Jan 5, '11 by pedicurnQuote from fleuraforDoctors are not 'powerful and rich' LOLIm new to this site and have been looking around. I was pretty shocked to read so many nurses saying they would never with a capital N, marry a DR? Are you kidding me? I would love nothing more to fall in love with and marry an intelligent, powerful, rich man who I have something in common with (healthcare). In fact, that would be like a dream come true for me. I dont get it???
They are highly educated professionals who usually have a comfortable upper-middle class lifestyle.
Donald Trump , Bill Gates and Larry Ellison are rich and powerful ... and others like them
- 2Jan 6, '11 by roses1130jAs a somewhat new nurse, 2 years in, I had the passing thoughts...Oooo a Dr., but at this point in the game I realize, they are not "powerful" or "rich" (well richer then I am but after 12+ yrs of schooling and residency, and 100000+ in college expenses)...and not always "intelligent". They are working class just like nurses, dedicating themselves to the profession of service to people. If anything marry a "Dr" because you have fallen in love with his or her personality and kindness, not his or her initials or bank account. And where does the deifinition of "powerful" come into play. A dr. can write prescriptions and make diagnoses, but I disagree with defining their job description as "powerful". We as nurses need to stick together and stand assertive and educated, alongside of our co-workers, and keep advancing our profession.
- 2Jan 6, '11 by muesliIntelligent... let's hope they have some common sense intelligence, or how about emotional intelligence...
Powerful... maybe if they have 30 years experience and are on the board of directors at the hospital. Otherwise they will get crapped on like everyone else. And of course, they are only as powerful as the staff that carries out their directives.
Rich... LOL in 20 years when you pay off your medical school loans!!!
- 2Jan 6, '11 by MissChloeQuote from chicagostudentnurseYes, I will be sure to report back on that."I'm heading to nursing school and my almost-fiance is heading to med school. So yes, I would." Quoted by MsChloe
Well report back to us 1yr into nursing school on the status of you and your almost-fiance.
In an effort to not sound TOTALLY condescending, I really hope your career goals will keep both parties interested beyond the stress and strife. But back in nursing school, I believe there were 15 or so married women and 3 married men in my class. 7 of the 15 separated and 3 actually got a divorce, during nursing school. Now, only one was married to an EMT, everyone else's spouses had regular careers. The 3 married men??? One dropped out the nursing program because his spouse couldn't handle the stress and he was afraid to lose his wife, although he desperately wanted to be a nurse. The other two, who were married to RN's already, both were cheating on their spouses with the single women in our class. Apparently, the "reason" given when asked on the cheating was that although their wives were nurses, it seems they had forgotten what it was like to be a student. After, "using" their spouses to carry them through school, they also divorced. All the single, but dating people were either no longer dating the same individual or not dating period. So, dating or being married to someone in the same field doesn't necessarily hold a relationship together, as opposed to dating ppl in opposing careers. No one should become a nurse to hopefully gain a rich doctor for a husband. Nor strategically work in a hospital to mingle either. Meet a man and date him for his character and how much he respects you, whether he's a doctor or the guy in environmental. POINT BLANK!
I answered the question, which was, "Would you marry a doctor." Since I am planning, heaven forbid anything horrible happens, to marry a man who will be a doctor, I answered that yes, I would. Just because the people in your class were cheaters or unable to mantain a relationship does not mean that I can't handle it.
- 0Jan 6, '11 by enchantmentdisIf you are the type of person who needs a doctor to marry to feel superior then marry one. Also marry a doctor if you like to be lonely, like being second fiddle to his patients, like to be interupted during meals, movies, etc...In the eyes of everyone the doctor will be more important and more intelligent than you are. Not all doctors are powerful, either. Some are out of control alcoholic, jerks who like to squash those beneath them. And they are always tempted by young, pretty nurses who are naive, but can drag a doctor away from his wife. Even if he doesn't have an affair he is constantly scoping out the females he works with. Just a few compliments from a nurse could land your doctor- husband in bed with a manipulative female. Enjoy the ride.
- 1Jan 6, '11 by Cuezee2I've dated a few docs, one anesthesiologist I met at the Apple store while we were waiting for our computers to be fixed (we only dated for a few months) and one neuroradiologist I met at the bar of my favorite restaurant (we ended up dating for about 1 1/2 years). I also happen to know a few doctors as friends...and wow, the guys love working that, "I'm a doctor" angle!!
The guys I dated were nice and respectful, and, not being in nursing school at the time, I found it flattering that these guys were interested in me. However, as nice as they were, there was still this air of superiority I didn't like. Maybe it was in my head, but I always felt like they thought they were a little better than me.
Now that I'm almost done with nursing school, I don't think I'd date a doc again. I might date a nurse, but I'd love to marry a teacher or a computer guy or someone who doesn't know about the medical field. I don't want my whole life to be medicine related. When I leave the hospital for the night, I don't want to talk about medicine anymore, I'm done. I also don't want someone who is always as tired as I am! I mean, if I fell in love with someone and they happened to be a doctor then maybe, but I wouldn't date them based on that. And I don't think I'd ever date someone who worked at the same hospital I did! But if you see yourself being happy dating or marrying a doctor, then go for it! You'll never know until you try it! Good luck!
- 3Jan 6, '11 by sophie_bob_kidsQuote from fleuraforYou have to be careful what you say on here. They'll skin you alive! I work with plenty of great doctors, and while I've never dated any, it's not to say I wouldn't if I wasn't already dating the most wonderful, sexy, loving man in the world!! <3 No amount of money can compare to that!OP here, I have to say, reading some of these replies has given me a laugh at just how catty and presuming some of you are! Easy killers, #1 Alot of you look like fools presuming that I went to Nursing school specifically to marry a Dr. Um, where in the world do you see that written in my post? I would never put myself through the he** and debt of Nursing school in the sheer hopes that I 'might' marry a Dr! Are you kidding me!? I do happen, however, to be in Nursing school and with some luck and God, am likely to become a Nurse, SO in that case, I will be exposed to lots of Drs. and I would love it if I ended up marrying one! So what!, what is the big deal ladies!? I do fully admit that one of the attributes/requirements of any man I date is that he has the potential to be an excellent provider, however, that doesnt make one a 'gold-digger' at all. Im quite capable of financially supporting myself and I happen to believe that all women should be able to, I just happen to not want to. I much rather focus my time and attention on my children. Thats just me. I have no interest in being a career woman other than financial. To each his own. So to the presumtious posters with the gold-digger, 'she went to school to marry a Dr' comments, youre the ones who sound naive-not everything is so black and white.