Very angry with fellow nurse.

[tokmom, BSN, RN]

I guess I just need to vent because what I really want to do is kick this nurse into the next century.

There are three of us that job share the charge position. This particular nurse works one day a week, while another nurse and I share the remaining 6 days.

This nurse is very negative and never has anything positive to say about working in our hospital. I asked her why she just doesn't quit! She says it's 'not that bad'. Well, geez, then SHUT UP!

Anyway, she has decided to go to night shift so she doesn't have to work as hard (those are her words). In the meantime, she is royally sabotaging our position as charge. She was telling a CNA and another nurse that have been insubordinate at times that we aren't truly charge nurses and we have no power. This was overheard by a CNA and was told to me.

I really don't get why she is doing this to us? Both of us have traded days for her and everything else. She has even text me at home and asked me questions and I have graciously taking the time to help her with problems on my day off.

Now I'll have to deal with a RN and CNA who love to push back any time they can. Both have been reported to managment in the past.

This same nurse tells me I need to relax and I'm too intense. Gee, sorry, but if there are tasks to be done then I'm going to make sure they get done. If I see someone sitting and surfing the web, you can bet I'm going to delegate some tasks. She just lets them do whatever, and she will even surf the web. She has come across as the nice charge nurse while the other charge and myself are the ones being told we need to relax. Yeah, tell your boss why the crash cart was never checked, or rooms readied for admits.

The boss is going to talk to her on Monday. All I can say is she can't get on nights soon enough. I'll still have 4 hrs of working with her, but it's better than 12! Maybe she will start being nice to me when she realizes her assignments are in my hands.

Thanks for the ear.

[rkitty198, BSN, RN]

I have a hard time giving advice on this without knowing what your charge nurse duties are. Our charge nurses take patients.

[tokmom, BSN, RN]

We do all the admits, discharges and work with discharge planning arranging hospice, palliative care, and other services. We delegate tasks, do assigments, bed control and put out fires with family and assist staff. Also relieve for breaks if we can find the time. My name badge says CHARGE right on it, so there is no disputing my position.

Maybe I should ask her what her definition of power is. I don't have powers per se, but I do have definite responsibilities that I need to address. Just like she did 1 day a week.

[WIN007]

I guess I just need to vent because what I really want to do is kick this nurse into the next century.

There are three of us that job share the charge position. This particular nurse works one day a week, while another nurse and I share the remaining 6 days.

This nurse is very negative and never has anything positive to say about working in our hospital. I asked her why she just doesn't quit! She says it's 'not that bad'. Well, geez, then SHUT UP!

Anyway, she has decided to go to night shift so she doesn't have to work as hard (those are her words). In the meantime, she is royally sabotaging our position as charge. She was telling a CNA and another nurse that have been insubordinate at times that we aren't truly charge nurses and we have no power. This was overheard by a CNA and was told to me.

I really don't get why she is doing this to us? Both of us have traded days for her and everything else. She has even text me at home and asked me questions and I have graciously taking the time to help her with problems on my day off.

Now I'll have to deal with a RN and CNA who love to push back any time they can. Both have been reported to managment in the past.

This same nurse tells me I need to relax and I'm too intense. Gee, sorry, but if there are tasks to be done then I'm going to make sure they get done. If I see someone sitting and surfing the web, you can bet I'm going to delegate some tasks. She just lets them do whatever, and she will even surf the web. She has come across as the nice charge nurse while the other charge and myself are the ones being told we need to relax. Yeah, tell your boss why the crash cart was never checked, or rooms readied for admits.

The boss is going to talk to her on Monday. All I can say is she can't get on nights soon enough. I'll still have 4 hrs of working with her, but it's better than 12! Maybe she will start being nice to me when she realizes her assignments are in my hands.

Thanks for the ear.

Don't jeapordize yourself by using assignments as retaliation. Instead make it a habit to write her up every time she makes one of these statements about you or any other charge.

Same for insubordinate CNA's. You should NOT have to put up with any of this. if your manager doesn't address it quickly and effectively move up the chain or transfer.

And if she thinks nightshift is easier I got news for her.

[tokmom, BSN, RN]

No, I would never retaliate with assignments, but I would like too, lol. Write ups it will be. The sad thing is, she has good clinical skills and would be an excellent nurse if her personality wasn't so negative all the time.

My boss does terminate, so no need to climb the ladder. As a primary breadwinner you would think she would protect her job! Same with her buddies.

[rkitty198, BSN, RN]

It sounds like your duties are that which gives you a lot of floor responsibility. Sadly, while you have a lot of responsibility you don't have the control needed to run things smoothly. I say control for a lack of better terminology. I like what the other response is, to document and write up. However it seems as though this may not get you the action needed.

I would for sure stop allowing this woman to enter into the special time you have off with your family and ignore her pleas via text. You are letting that happen, which may give you some deeper resentments as well.

She is staff splitting, so try viewing her as someone who does this to get attention. Staff splitting undermines your authority and hers actually. She thinks the staff may like her more when they are actually taking advantage of her.

Is there a way to have a meeting about it? With someone who is a neutral party? Unions are great for stuff like that.

What about an exact list of duties split between the three of you, for which she is held accountable. If she is to do the crash cart and dosent, she is the one responsible.

I am surprised she is still in a position of charge, it is a position of leadership and she dosent sound like a good one.

I hope management knows how miserable she is making things.

[WIN007]

No, I would never retaliate with assignments, but I would like too, lol. Write ups it will be. The sad thing is, she has good clinical skills and would be an excellent nurse if her personality wasn't so negative all the time.

My boss does terminate, so no need to climb the ladder. As a primary breadwinner you would think she would protect her job! Same with her buddies.

I don't blame you. Let me rephrase what I said a bit.. don't jeapordize yourself by patently retaliating with assignments in a matter where it is obvious. :-) There's so much of that, the good clinical nurse with the poisonous personality it seems. I don't know why they do it. Maybe they don't realize what it's LIKE out there now.

[ShayRN]

There is at least one person like that at every place I have ever worked. Anymore, I just shrug my shoulders and do my job. They aren't worth the time you are giving them.

[Orange Tree]

Don't pay too much attention to what's "overheard" and repeated back. If the "talker" wanted you to have that information, they'd tell you directly. I trust very few people who use their knowledge to create or encourage discord. They have their own agendas.

[tokmom, BSN, RN]

Thanks everyone. I had a feeling this nurse was trash talking, because when I came around the corner, she and the one CNA scattered. I asked the one CNA who was charting, what was said. I think from now on, I won't ask. It will just make me angry.

As for control, I feel like I have it. Everyone else respects my decisions...always.

It just boggles my mind on why she had turned tail on the position she has two more weeks to work in. I would like to talk on neutral ground with neutral people, I'm currenly working on doing just this after last week.

Staff splitting.....I like that terminology. It's fitting, and it takes the emotion out of it for me.

Monday she gets her peer evals handed to her. I have heard they address her attitude. Maybe this will change her ways. One can hope.

Oh...the texts, never bothered me, but I'm not answering any more of them. She can figure out her own problems. I refuse to take that time if she is telling the select few to not pay attention to what we have to say behind our backs. Her personality is very passive aggressive, I'm finding out.

[Kooky Korky, BSN, RN]

Don't jeapordize yourself by using assignments as retaliation. Instead, make it a habit to write her up every time she makes one of these statements about you or any other charge.

Same for insubordinate CNA's. You should NOT have to put up with any of this. if your manager doesn't address it quickly and effectively move up the chain or transfer.

And if she thinks night shift is easier I got news for her.

Don't waste time writing her up. Just perhaps feel out management to see what they think of her bdfore you bother with writing. And do remember - she can just change the assignments.

She sounds like a major wicked witch, a user, an unhappy, bitter individual - very dangerous.

Definitely stop helping her. She shouldn't be bothering you anyway, she should be texting or calling the Manager who has 24/7 responsibility and who needs to know that this one doesn't know as much as she should in order to be a good Charge.

You might want to let it be known to Management that she thinks Nights is easier. It's true that she won't be discharge planning, but there will still be admits, transfers, plenty of work.

Just wondering - when she lets the aides surf or otherwise slack off, who does the work? Don't get mad, I just have to ask because I am having a similar problem, but do you think you are too intense? Is she right to let them do what she lets them do and are you expecting too much? I'm asking, not telling. I sincerely want to know how 2 nurses can survive when they handle things so differently.

[Kooky Korky, BSN, RN]

No, I would never retaliate with assignments, but I would like too, lol. Write ups it will be. The sad thing is, she has good clinical skills and would be an excellent nurse if her personality wasn't so negative all the time.

My boss does terminate, so no need to climb the ladder. As a primary breadwinner, you would think she would protect her job! Same with her buddies.

She might be in tight with the bosses. you never know.