Too smart for my own good... :-/ - page 3

Hey to the members of "allnurses", this is my first topic/post. I come to this forum as a place to vent, confide, and connect with other nurses, so hopefuly I have come to the right place. Cutting... Read More

  1. by   HouTx
    Quote from llg
    It's a people -- an aspect of emotional intelligence -- to navigate the politics of being the new member of a team. You need to show them that you (a) are not a "know it all" and (b) that you will listen to their advice (based on years of experience that you don't have) and (c) that you can fit in and be a member of the team.

    Men's groups have similar processes, don't they? Don't you have to "go along with the guys" to fit into a sports team ... or a milatary unit ... fraternity ... etc.? Aren't there rituals of "male bonding?"

    What you are experiencing now is a similar situation. You need to "fit in" first ... and then once they get to know you and feel comfortable with you, you will be able to exhibit more individuality. Don't make a big deal of it and just focus on blending in and showing a little respect for their experience. It will soon pass if you handle it well.
    ^^^^ THIS!!^^^^^

    Srsly, there are all types of "intelligence". Focusing on minutia and "I'm smarter than you" actions reveal a lack of EQ - which will come back and bit your in the hiney when you least expect it. Or, when you desperately need someone on your team to give you some back-up or cover for a bathroom break.
  2. by   OCNRN63
    Quote from AndrewSRN
    just an example. I was looking up why gtt was used as the abbreviation for drops, and others around me were telling me. "Why do you care". "Who cares". "You think too much". "gtt means drops, that's it, move on." I just don't get it. I think I just live in a society that is scared of intellect and in fact looks down upon it. I mean just look our school system. What is popular and cool is the contrary.

    I am just frustrated I guess.
    Why make a big deal out of it? If someone asks you why you would look up the derivation of gtt just say "Because I want to know" or something like that and let it drop.

    Why does it frustrate you that others in your department seem (by your estimation) to be less intellectually curious? Maybe they're thinking "Why waste your time on (this) when you could be spending time looking up information on (that)?"

    I wonder if your co-workers are picking up on your vibe of feeling like you have to "dumb yourself down" when dealing with others. (Your words.)
    Last edit by OCNRN63 on Feb 14, '13
  3. by   jadelpn
    I see this a tad different. If you are looking up stuff that has intellectual appeal, but not critical to the situation at hand, then I would say that you need to focus a bit. WHY it is called something, and HOW you do it are 2 different things. I would concentrate on the hows and not the whys. The whys can be looked up on your own time, IF it is not critical to the situation at hand. Critical thinking develops when your become seasoned in what you need to do, when you need to do it, and how it is going to be done. Efficiently and quickly for the patient's safety. If a nurse is showing you how to set up an IV, and your mind is on "I wonder why it is called gtts" or even something like "I wonder who designed these IV caths" then you are not focusing on the task at hand. Now, there are nurses who really think well when they know all of the backround information. Helps them to process. But in an ER, busy or not, it is perhaps not the place to process information that way. Perhaps you need to re-learn and orientation is the best time to do that. I think it is awesome that you are an intellectual. However, you need to focus on clinical competencies and task at hand. Not sure any of this makes sense, but I think the bottom line is that when you are learning (or being show stuff you may already know) to dismiss in search of why something is called what it is may help you in trivia night, but will not help you when you need to get a drip up and going successfully.