Is there always that one nurse.....?

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    Specializes in Postpartum, L&D, Mother-Baby.

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elizadream

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Maybe that will help very one else here to be able to say the same to that "one *or 2, or more* they have to deal with! You finally just get to where enough is ENOUGH! You can only take people's **** for so long before something is going to explode!!!

Right on, girl! I like what you said, I'll keep that in my database :)

Specializes in Trauma, ER, ICU, CCU, PACU, GI, Cardiology, OR.

first of all, this brings back memories when i use to be a staff nurse and yes like everyone else has previously posted i encountered a similar situation with a particular nurse which i'll call "miss perfect" every time someone would receive report from miss perfect she would start "honey child, mr. so & so had a nice evening although he didn't care to eat his apple sauce, and by the way you didn't tell me yesterday that mr. so & so refused his bath, and i don't want to sound like i'm picky but the iv tubing should be change more often you know even though there wasn't anything wrong with it this things need to be taken care off, anyway what was i telling you oh! yeah but when his auntie came in the room she made him eat his applesauce, you know she use to be nurse herself, anyways, i think he had a bm mmm oh! yeah, he used his call light btw, you need to tell the cna's to leave the call light on his rt. side he likes it that way anyway i was busy with the pt. in room 325 when the cna told me that she was going to lunch and bla, bla ,bla, bla," needless to say, everyone in the room would roll their eyes while she gave her report since she had a aloud voice to begin with and with every sentence she would take a deep loud breath and continue as i almost fell asleep :zzzzz. in one occasion, she was sitting and i was standing as she gave her lengthy report and nick-picked at every thing she could find, i just walked away for a second to get a kleenex and she continued, as i return she said "aaaan that needs to be done because he likes his pillow cases fresh" i said "oh! certainly" that's when everyone lol since she never noticed that i been gone. lastly, when i became the nm back then she was one of the nurses i had several private counseling sessions with, she improve some, then shortly thereafter i left the nm position and another nurse that was hired recently began dishing her a taste of her own medicine. in conclusion, i would say that is true "what goes around comes around".

your not the only one.I have had the experience to see the RN I work with busting her butt to get all her admissions completed but the one that came at change of shift was started, not completed and you think some nurses feel that is a disaster!I always was taught nursing is a 24/7job!

Sherry, LPN

UrsSer

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hi everyone!

i´ve been experiencing this since i started in nursing but my worst experiences related to this subject were last year during my specialty in pediatrics.

last week i read this article: https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/nurses-low-self-751537.html

it helped me to understood "that one nurse" and to create strategies to deal with his/her.

nurses, i want to know if it's just me? am i going crazy or does anyone else notice this: do you notice that there is always that one nurse that you can't give a good enough report to during change of ****? always that one nurse who nit picks and the things you weren't able to compete during your shift, even though you know you had a crazy shift and must have burned a thousand calories ripping and running like crazy to do all that you could for your patients? always that one nurse who does not care about all the things you did do, but if you didn't do something so minute as to turn off the light in the patient's bathroom before you left or didn't change the date on the dry erase board, they talk to you about it like you killed their puppy?! am i the only one experiencing this??!!!

P_RN, ADN, RN

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Specializes in ORTHOPAEDICS-CERTIFIED SINCE 89.

Concisely, the answer would be yes. My albatross would be the nit-picker who was perturbed because I didn't know what precious teddies were that she had on her wedding cake and every 3rd sentence was about her wedding plans. Then when finally I told her I would just review her notes, she handed me MY notes I had given her the evening before. Go figger.

NurseDirtyBird

425 Posts

There was one particular nurse who made me feel the same way. She'd ask all sorts of stupid questions during report, and eventually I'd just tell her, "Look in the chart if you want to know that, here's what happened TODAY." Since I was per diem I worked before and after her. She would NEVER EVER restock the cart or take out her garbage. So when I worked before her, niether did I. I also would not replace the prog note in the chart, haha.

To the OP, yes, there is always at least one everywhere you go. You can cope by acting like an adult and letting it roll off like water off a duck's back, or you can go the childish route like me and others here, which I find more fun.

bbuerke

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Specializes in Oncology.

Yes, I think we've all been there, along with the nurses who sigh, roll their eyes, cross their arms, and don't make eye contact - essentially showing that they don't care one wit about what you have to say.

While I agree that nitpicking is a way for someone to exert power/control over another, I firmly believe it comes from anxiety. There are nurses out there who are total witches when getting report, and then when they leave for the day they're all happy and proud of the work they've done, and it shows. It's almost as if they're secretly terrified of what the day may hold, and once it's over without all hell breaking loose, they can breathe a sigh of relief. While this does not excuse the rude/ignorant behavior during report, I do feel a sense of empathy for these nurses - they lack adequate coping mechanisms, and are probably slipping swiftly towards burnout. My technique for dealing with them is to kill them with kindness, and make sure I have my **** together for report. If there is too much rudeness I will speak up and say something. Not easy, but so far it's actually improved my professional relationship with the individual, and we were able to move forward with a better understanding for one another.

Specializes in Medical Oncology, Alzheimer/dementia.

These posts are hilarious. Working 7 years night shift in a LTC facility, there's alot of details I really don't need to know to get through the shift. Most of it pertains to being the middle man between PMs and AMs, honestly. But I listen to it and pass it along.

I will get a report, forgetting to tell me that a resident is in the hospital, or that a resident is supposed to be NPO after midnight. Or that a resident has to go out to an appointment, and I need to order a room tray for him and that my CNA needs to get him up and dressed and be in the lobby at 0700. Stuff like that I need to know.

I cannot stand the nurses who inject more of their personal opinions about the familes, or want to complain about the CNA who forgot to take down their trash from 1st shift, so they're leaving it for them to take out in the morning. Which would mean if they want to leave it for them, my shift would also have to neglect it...leaving the trash sitting there for 3 entire shifts?? Ummm, no. Or telling me about the patient who is being discharged to home next week. I will work again before next week so you don't need to tell me about it now. Uggghh.. When they start up with that, I just say give me report by exception.

Specializes in Medical Oncology, Alzheimer/dementia.

There are nurses out there who are total witches when getting report, and then when they leave for the day they're all happy and proud of the work they've done, and it shows. It's almost as if they're secretly terrified of what the day may hold, and once it's over without all hell breaking loose, they can breathe a sigh of relief.

This is absolutely brilliant and spot-on!!

Ruby Vee, BSN

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
she would never ever restock the cart or take out her garbage. so when i worked before her, niether did i. i also would not replace the prog note in the chart, haha.

to the op, yes, there is always at least one everywhere you go. you can cope by acting like an adult and letting it roll off like water off a duck's back, or you can go the childish route like me and others here, which i find more fun.

so you're just as bad?

years ago, i worked with a nurse who had a propensity for giving laxatives, suppositories and enemas about five minutes before shift change, giving his report in as hurried a fashion as he could muster, and then exiting hastily calling over his shoulder "i can't miss my bus!" i tried talking to him about it. i asked the assistant manager to talk to him about it. even the patients talked to him about it. but he persisted.

and then one morning, i saw an opportunity to get my revenge. the assignment sheet had him listed to follow me, the patient was ordered a boatload of laxatives. at five minutes before shift change, i gave the meds. and then was horrified when the nurse who showed up to take report was the assistant manager, someone for whom i had a great deal of respect. there was nothing for it but to stay and help her clean up the mess.

better to act like an adult and a professional than to act as childish as the person who annoys you. because when she complains to the manager that you never restock or take out the trash, she'll be correct. and won't you look like a fool standing there and trying to say "she started it!"?

NurseDirtyBird

425 Posts

I make no excuses, my behavior was unprofessional. And yes, had your scenario popped up, I would have looked like an idiot. When the professional route wasn't effective, I should have just let it go. But I didn't. In all fairness, this was a long time ago, and I have since matured.

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