Observation of the day

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Specializes in Emergency Room.

I learn something new at work every day. Sometimes it's medical, sometimes it's about people, but not a day goes by that I don't learn something.

My observation of the day is: almost across the board, the sickest patients are the nicest and most patient, whereas the least sick are usually the most rude and demanding.

What's yours?

Specializes in Hospice, Case Mgt., RN Consultant, ICU.

Sounds like you had some demanding patients. I know what you mean, but logically this is probably an example of a 'glittering generality' and should be avoided. Better not to put people in boxes!

Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.
I learn something new at work every day. Sometimes it's medical, sometimes it's about people, but not a day goes by that I don't learn something.

My observation of the day is: almost across the board, the sickest patients are the nicest and most patient, whereas the least sick are usually the most rude and demanding.

What's yours?

Oh yes, I agree. I have one patient that is dreadfully sick and yet she is always smiling and rarely rings.

I must say, I have to agree with you R!XTER. It's the patients who have patient airways, nil problems breathing and are ambulant who are the most demanding. Yet the really sick ones are the ones who reluctantly use the call bell because "you're so busy" and you always have to check if they need something.

Specializes in Labor and Delivery, Postpartum, NICU.

I work in L&D and my patient aren't normally 'sick' (unless you consider pregnancy and illness). Most of the time, the louder and more demanding they are, the closer they are to delivery and the more they need my help.

I do however get many, many moms who come in being loud and groaning and aren't actually in labor lol!

Specializes in retired LTC.
My observation of the day is: almost across the board, the sickest patients are the nicest and most patient, whereas the least sick are usually the most rude and demanding.

What's yours?

I think this too but I wonder further... were the nice pts always that way like BEFORE their illness, or did they become that way AFTER? Like did the illness rearrange their lives' priorities?

On the reverse, were the rude/mean pts that way before illness? Or were they just not able to 'make lemonade out of the lemons' that life now gave them?

I really DO wonder.

I never got around to reading that old book "When bad things happen to good people'. Maybe now's the time...

I attribute the anger phase of Grief & Grieving to fit in here somewhere.

Specializes in psych/dementia.

I have noticed this in the ER for sure. There was actually a patient who said her toothache was more important than a person having a heart attack.

Specializes in Emergency Room.
I think this too but I wonder further... were the nice pts always that way like BEFORE their illness or did they become that way AFTER? Like did the illness rearrange their lives' priorities? On the reverse, were the rude/mean pts that way before illness? .[/quote']

Yes! I wonder about this all the time!! Also it makes me so sad when I see patients who are so sick and so sweet at the same time. It just breaks my heart. So sometimes I wonder if God made this person sick because they can handle it with grace. Like if the guy next door screaming at us because he's waiting too long to have his toothache looked at was this sick he wouldn't be able to handle it you know?

Specializes in Float Pool-Med-Surg, Telemetry, IMCU.

There often appears to be a direct correlation between number of allergies listed and level of pain-in-the-butt-ness. (I am making a huge sweeping generalization, please take this in the lighthearted manner it was written in). :-)

Specializes in Float Pool-Med-Surg, Telemetry, IMCU.

(I'm mainly talking about people who list ridiculous things like "oxygen" or "Vitamin C" in their allergy lists...)

I have noticed that, when pain is involved, drama is inversely proportional to age.

Examples (true):

17 year old lap appy - "I can't BELIEVE I have to sit up by myself!!!! I just had an operation!!! I need PAIN MEDICINE!! If you touch me, I'll SCREAM!!!"

98 year old who fell, broke her hip, who refused morphine and would only take Tylenol, and is waiting to be put in traction - "Oh, I'm fine, honey. Go see your other patients, I'm sure they need you more."

I've been a nurse, and lately, a patient after my femur fracture gone wrong. I made a point of saying 'Thank you' whenever I was helped or medicated or whatever. It goes a heckuva long way. It's a tough job under the best of situations, so why not recognize it as such? I meant my 'thank you's sincerely.

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