New RN being bullied, 7 months in, quit?

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The workplace I work in is mentally and emotionally exhausting me.

I feel miserable when I work with certain people. They talk behind my back. Negative. Judge your practice and not helping. They watch you suffer and laugh about it. I have other great coworkers who help me out and support me but they are not in my rotation. People I work with are miserable people and kill my spirit. We also have a doctor who bullies new nurses and nurses who are slow. there is no teamwork. patient load is way too high. 8 during the day and 20 during the night with help of aids.

I love my job, I love 90% of the coworkers. But management sucks, I get bullied by lab techs too who yells at me and tells other nurses I am not competent.

I am a good nurse. I work hard, patients love my care and I follow the correct nursing standards. I am still learning I am positive. People tell me I do good but there are those certain people that just bully me for no reason. Maybe because I don't have strong personality. I am into my 7 months. I want to leave this place. I moved from my home to work here. I don't deserve the crap that I am getting from my coworkers. I get no respect.

But I am scared I will be jobless and my career as a nurse will end if I leave before getting another job. I am applying, it has been about 2 weeks since I have been actively applying but I am receiving no response. I want to succeed as a nurse and later as a good manager.

Any advice will be greatly appreciated. And yes I asked my manager for help, nothing was done. Bullying by those certain people (3-4 in total) began since day 1. I am not the only victim but nothing has been done (a few new grads left due to bullying) I miss my family and friends what should I do

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Moved to Nurse Colleague/Patient Relations forums

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

Sounds like a duel issue. You miss home and hate where you work.

Any way you can apply for another job closer to home and get out of that place and be happier?

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Sounds like a duel issue. You miss home and hate where you work.

Any way you can apply for another job closer to home and get out of that place and be happier?

Yes I have been applying here and there, and actually working on other state licenses where my friends are. Hoping to get a job by April or at least an interview! But I shouldn't quit before I get another offer right?

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

Right!

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Specializes in Infusion Nursing, Home Health Infusion.

You need some tools on how to deal with these jerks

kickbully - where your fight begins

Please read this especially the part on how to handle the bullies

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Specializes in ICU.

I think you need to develop some new hobbies outside of work until you can find another job. It's not going to help you deal with the bullies directly, but I have found being happy at home to be a great emotional buffer when I have to deal with adverse working conditions. When you're lonely and miserable at home, being bullied at work is ten million times worse than being bullied at work when you have an awesome life waiting for you when you clock out.

Try meetup.com for meeting new people where you're living now.

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Specializes in Psychiatric Nursing.

Kick bully post above is great. I think finding your anger and staying in emotional control will get you through. Also reading about bullying may give you some perspective . it is just the way some people are but you don't have to take it. I think you have to feel you are worth fighting for and tell them to back off at the same time. Best wishes.

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been there, best thing is to find a new job and start over. 7 months is early enough to restart. It takes too much energy to fight this kind of (insert vulgar word here) . it will just be too draining in the long run to put up with.

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Specializes in ER.

Yes. Nurses do bully. It is usually reflective of the culture of the work place and an underlying stress. Or it was how they were trained. There was an RN at one ER I work at who complained about how she was trained a few years ago. I wanted one time to be like, "you're exactly like those RNs!" People don't exactly realize how they act because they don't acknowledge it.

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Thanks for the honesty.

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You are bullied because you do not stand up for yourself. That's why. Sorry to put it that way but there is no way you are going to be the manager you want to be if you do not learn how to be more assertive. I am currently a nurse aide and I am transitioning to RN role after I pass NCLEX. It doesn't matter where you go, when you start a new job you will have people that are going to try you. What I mean is that they will treat you any kind of way and see how much they can get away with. Once they see you are going to let them, they take advantage of you and bully you. You have to know how to professionally respond and go ABOVE the managers head if you have to. Nobody should have to deal with this in the workplace ! Even as a nurse aide I confronted a charge nurse for hanging up on me while I was talking.I was asking her about a patient being NPO but I guess it was not her patient, so she didn't feel the need to stay on the phone with me. I walked up to her! She said "Sorry I was xyz(insert bs)." She had a serious attitude. But you better believe after that everything was please and thank you from her. I hope as you go on with your career, you are able to set your mindset before you walk into a new job. Im not saying be an a**hole every time someone pisses you off. You will have to let plenty of things pass. Brush your shoulders off as they say. I am saying do not let coworkers blatantly disrespect you by calling you incompetent. You will make it !!! Don't let people walk all over you. Peace and Love !

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