I'm seeing a lot of unprofessional posting here related to venting about patients - page 3

by Garethaus 16,750 Views | 154 Comments

Hi, I'm just a newbie here but I have to comment on what I'm seeing here. Specifically nurses sharing their stories of their interactions with difficult patients. Surely it is unprofessional to be sharing patient details?... Read More


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    shakin my head...

    I get so tired of STUDENTS coming onto the site, and telling those of us who have been in the trenches for years how/what we need to do and say...it's the same mentality with new grads coming onto the floors and deciding that "they" know better than the experienced nurses who have been doing this for years.

    OP-work a few years, keep your nose to the grindstone, and try not to be so 'more rightous' than other nurses. I promise you, someday you WILL understand where we come from!
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    Quote from RyanCarolinaBoy
    shakin my head...

    I get so tired of STUDENTS coming onto the site, and telling those of us who have been in the trenches for years how/what we need to do and say...it's the same mentality with new grads coming onto the floors and deciding that "they" know better than the experienced nurses who have been doing this for years.

    OP-work a few years, keep your nose to the grindstone, and try not to be so 'more rightous' than other nurses. I promise you, someday you WILL understand where we come from!
    Yep it's amazing how self righteous students can be!! They also seem to be the first to tell you to find a new job when you vent!!
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    ooooooo girl! you are in for a world of sass in these replies!
    i thought the same when i first came on here when i got admitted to nursing school.
    now after school clinicals, working as a tech during school and starting my first position as an rn, i can see why a lot of the "venting/mean" posts come about.
    i tell my husband (hippa approved ) some of what goes on at work and he thinks im exaggerating or should just tell the patients to eff off if they are speaking like that or to "help them foster some independence and ignore the call bell for the 10th time in an hour" etc. welllllll i may want to do that, but i cant. i get help, advice and strength here.
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    Seriously? We all have patients we love and adore. Patients who remind us why we do what we do. (Not a nurse yet, but I am a CNA and get the brunt of some of the abuse and also a lot of love). Our loved ones have no idea what its like. AN is a great place to come and vent and talk about the stuff that no one else would understand.

    Work a 12 hour shift, have a patient tell you you're no good at your job, demand that you do things for him/her that they are perfectly capable of doing themselves, have a patient slap you across the face because they don't know any better. Break your back and bend over backwards leaving you completely exhausted and no good for the rest of today and maybe tomorrow and then tell me you don't feel the need to go somewhere and let off some steam anonymously.

    While I appreciate the fact that you're a student (so am I ) and you have this idea of professionalism, I promise you everyone here loves most of their patients, but sometimes we just need to vent and talk about the things that happen to us. We are all human, the patients are human and sometimes are totally out of line. We can't tell them that. Our spouses probably don't understand, so we come to AN and vent a little. Not a big deal..... relax.
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    Probably a troll... but what is more appropriate outlet? calling the pt and his/her family out on it in their room? complaining to coworkers ? dont like it, dont participate. most of these vents are a dime a dozen and after a few short years i have seen many pts like the ones described even the highly detailed stories are a dime a dozen
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    I can sort of understand where everyone is coming from. I am also a mature nursing student that knows nothing when it comes to working in a hospital setting. ( I am still learning and will be for awhile) We did clinical experience last year in rest homes so I can sort of understand how some people can be hard to deal with. We get taught that yes nurses are going to vent and need somewhere to vent and our lectures understand that but we have to be careful on how we do that. In New Zealand we get taught that there can be a two degree separation and you never know who might know your patient that you may know in your personal life. (there are true stories here that people have talked about a patient not knowing that the person they are talking knows the family etc. Those nurses and students have got themselves in hot water). I think that there will be times where we need to vent who ever we are, we just need to have a place where we can vent and people can empathize with us.
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    As usual nurses held to an unreachable standard.

    This is supposed to be a place where you can vent.

    You cannot do it on FB or you will be in a world of hurt. You can't tell your family because they do not understand. You shouldn't do it at work because eventually that will be turned against you.

    Nurses are people too and they deal with a lot pretty unimaginable stuff and they deserve to have some place they can vent about ti in my opinion.
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    Quote from Garethaus
    ...Surely it is unprofessional to be sharing patient details?...
    It depends upon the extent of (i.e., amount of detail in) the details. Nothing that indicates the identity of the patient, directly or indirectly, should ever be shared outside those involved with the care of that patient.

    ...and don't call me Shirley.
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    Quote from DeLanaHarvickWannabe
    Why don't you PM Brian and share your concerns with him? He makes the rules, and he has his reasons for those rules. If nothing else, he may give you tips on how to create your own message board so you can be pickier about what is posted.

    But, in the end, until one of the mods tells me I've posted something inappropriate (and yes, it's happened!), I'm not going to change what I've posted.

    And...I find it unprofessional to judge us without walking a mile in our mocassins.

    Ah, Mrs. Harvick, where have you been? How is Kevin?
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    Guys, I completely agree with the frustration, but let's try to remember that at one point WE were also the rose-colored glass wearing student nurses who thought we could change the world. It won't take them long to get disillusioned with all of it, and realize the reality of nursing.


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