i HATE my job. Does anyone else feel the same? - page 3
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I absolutley despise my job. I work as a nurse in a intermediate/telemetry type floor. We are in the process of moving to a new hospital, so we were a telemetry unit and we are splitting into telemetry/intermediate care. We will... Read More
- 0Feb 13, '13 by proud nurseI hated my job so much at the nursing home. I stayed there way beyond time for me to go, I should've left years earlier. I won't even go into the many reasons why, but just so you know that you're not alone. I'm not gonna sugar coat it, I couldn't stand my co-workers, the residents, or management. I hated it with a passion.Last edit by proud nurse on Feb 13, '13 : Reason: added something
- 0Feb 13, '13 by carlyfryThank you for this! You took the words write out of my mouth. I, one time, had a patient call me to pull the blanket up over his shoulders! I wanted to scream!
My coworker and I are applying to a per diem case manager RN job and hopefully that leads to something better!
Quote from Jenni811I absolutley despise my job. I work as a nurse in a intermediate/telemetry type floor. We are in the process of moving to a new hospital, so we were a telemetry unit and we are splitting into telemetry/intermediate care. We will be split evenetually but right now kind of combined...its weird.
Anyway, i HATE HATE HATE HATE my job. I i get so worked up on the way to work, up to the point i start getting massive headaches and offset my vertigo issues. I've always struggled with unexplained vertigo that comes with stress/anxiety. i can't stand patients and families who are so demanding and disrespectful.
I do my absolute best to put on my "fake smile" to please them. i'm a person of very short temper so it takes every ounce of energy in me not to slap some of them in the face. I got in trouble one time because a patient's daughter was giving me a really hard time and everything she said that came from her mouth started with "Well i'm a nurse and...." it ould have been totally irrelevant to what she had to say. For example: "Well i'm a nurse and i had an egg salad sandwich for lunch."
"Well, i'm a nurse and i have a kitten named Dutchess" (that was actually a real one).
She was SO disrespectul, rolled her eyes everytime i talked, very short answers. Finally i had it...i looked at her and said "I don't care if you are a nurse. I'm her nurse now and i will make the decisions on what i think is best for my patient."
Yup...i got in trouble for that one. But i explained everything to my manager and she, deep inside, i knew agreed she was being ridiculous. And i told her i just couldn't take it anymore. It went on for THREE DAYS, in 12 hour shifts and i was on day 4 with her. I snapped...yup.
Anyway, my point with that story is it wasn't this one time...it is ALL the freaking time. Patient's are so demanding. What on earth makes you think i want to "wipe your butt" when you can do it at home just fine? Ok...you have two broken arms, i will help you. But if you are here for i don't know...Chest pain observation and you can feed yourself the 50 trays of food you just ordered and open the soda bottle your family snuck you in, why would you not be able to wipe your own butt?? What makes people feel the need to be so darn needy like this?? Don't put on your call light for me to pour you a glass of water from the water pitcher sitting next to your hand. You are perfectly capable of doing it yourself (Im talking about people who CAN do it.) You are not a 65 year old baby, you are an adult who has wiped your own butt and poured your own water for i don't know, 63 years now??
Im sorry i have to vent. Makes me feel better. Does anyone else feel this way about nursing? I feel so stuck in it and i want to get out. What else can i do with my degree that i would enjoy??
Once my fiance and i are married we want to start a family right away. he has agreed for me to quit my job at that point to be stay at home. I'm afraid i will enjoy not being a nurse so much i may never go back. What other career choices do people ENJOY as a nurse? I have my BSN.
- 2Feb 13, '13 by ClementiaOP, I really hear you. I've worked on an ortho unit for seven years, and I too hate my job with a passion. Those demanding, critical, manipulative, whiny, needy patients can absolutely drive you up the wall. It makes me angry that people feel free to treat another person so disrespectfully just because she/he is a nurse and happens to be there.
It makes me sick when someone tells me that it's my job to be compassionate all the time. Some people just suck the life out of you, and the best you can do is strained politeness. Forget about compassion and going the extra mile...those patients are lucky to get a forced smile. It really bothers me that, even though 85% of my patients are at least decent, the 15% of horrible ones have made me distrust all of them.
I'm pregnant with my first child, and my husband says I can stay home full time when the baby is born. I'm counting the months till I can hang up my stethoscope for good.
OP, I truly don't think the problem is you -- it's the people you work with, who do not care how they treat others. Hating to be abused and taken for granted does not make you a bad person. I hope you can find a niche, perhaps in another field, where you can be happy.
- 4Thanks everyone for making me feel like im still a good perso for feeling this way. I like cry after work sometimes thinking im mean and don't have a heart. Nursing took away my compassion for people.
Yea, i like the idea of going somewhere where i see patients briefly and then be done with it and never see or work with them again. Something like Cath lab, OR or PACU. I might start looking, im getting beyond my breaking point. Only thing keeping me sane right now is i have an orientee with me and anytime i get a crazy i have my orientee deal with it because im not "always going to be there to save her." (thats my excuse and i'm sticking to it). I like when i have students too i'll say things like "Have you ever wiped a butt of someone who is 600lbs and cant turn themselves? Well now is your chance. Gown up my dear because we are going in!"
I love my hours though...i work 12 hour shifts (day/night rotation) and 3 days per week. So i'll have to keep my eyes open for things like that. I love working with children (not L&D though) so maybe like a pediatrics type setting. The parents scare me. I know when im a parent i am going to be one to fear as well, so i don't blame them. Also i LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE working with our open heart surgery patients. I would give my leg for that position. They have a nurse that works in the clinic with all the open heart surgery patients when they go home after surgery. Also goes to their appointments (kind of like a temporary care coordinator in open heart surgery). The nurse doing it now is still young, so no chance of croaking on the job or retiring anytime soon. Although she does have a massive limp and deal with alot of leg pain of some sort. so MAYBE something will happen there...
- 0Feb 13, '13 by flexisealI feel the exact same way as you do with my current travel job position. I am constantly floated to a tele unit like this and I feel sick before going into work most days. I've cried a few times and I am counting down the days until it's over.
I miss working ICU. I miss working in a hospital where people aren't so demanding and entitled.
No way would I work tele by choice.
- 0Feb 13, '13 by goalienrseI too feel the same way. My last job was so bad, I had to quit bc of my manager, it was terrible. I never experianced the terrible treatment I got there ever in my life, from coworkers, patients, and my supervisor.
Now I'm reduced to hoping for a job at a rehab with a nurse to patient ratio of up to 27. Yay!
I don't suggest nursing to a dog.
- 0Quote from goalienrseFunny!! one nurse to 27 seems like an awful lot. I've never done rehab/nursing home setting so i don't know what it is like. Our hospital is one nurse to four patients unless you have an intermediate care patient, then it is usually 2-3 dependig on the circumstances and patient acuity.
I don't suggest nursing to a dog.