How to deal with the old/experienced nurses?! - page 10
Hello! I m a new RN on A med-surge floor and most of my co-workers are old nurses that have been on that floor for years! They don't seem to like me and i have NO idea why! I am a quiet person. I mean i like to socialize but I... Read More
- 1Dec 31, '12 by sirI, MSN, APRN, NP AdminO.k., stop with the personal attacks and divisive behavior. This thread has been reported a number of times and now Admins have to step in.
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- 2Dec 31, '12 by anotheroneQuote from Anna-sI am a relatively new nurse and pretty young ( mid 20s) when I started there were A LOT mean, rude experienced nurses. Most of them were in their 20s or 30s. The old ones in age are actually less experienced or nicer on my unit. So it wan't an age issue. But that aside , the way I handle people varies. I feel them out. If they whine and yell about a bag of 300 mls left that is running at 75 an hour or me not being able to give a walkie talkie some daily po med that wasn't up from pharamcy etc. I will look for their errors and point them out. In a sarcastic tone, I might even say, " Sorry you will have to give a pill." You have to feel out the people to do this to, though. Make sure they aren't friends with the manager, etc. After a few times of pointing out their errors, it might work. The other thing is I have seen some new ( older more than younger) nurses become VERY defensive when their errors are pointed out. The same ones will cry when people just let them keep doing things wrong without pointing it out. I welcomed criticism and asked for it.Hello!
I m a new RN on A med-surge floor and most of my co-workers are old nurses that have been on that floor for years! They don't seem to like me and i have NO idea why! I am a quiet person. I mean i like to socialize but I am not that loud person ( because I still feel a stranger to the floor). Anyways some of them ignore me if I ask a question, others yell at me for the smallest mistakes ( one yelled at me cause I didn't change the NS bag that was good for another 3hours and even tho I put a new bag in the room, she wanted it change) i am nice to them! I try to talk and use humour but most of them just give me the look and roll their eye!
How should I treat them or deal with them?
Next, i talk to some of my coworkers, others I ignore. I will help them with work but I do not talk to them about anything not work related. That should be expected , I am not there to socialize and it shouldn't be taken personally. I prefer actually that most people not come up to talk to me. I don't get upset if they ask questions about work , pt care etc, but I don't want to talk about anything personal. Like my hobbies, their kids, etc. The other thing is, if you have questions and I am busy , i might not be super cheerful. What I did and do in new situations is just sit back and observe. I do not talk to anyone . I go in, do my job, maybe say hello to the friendly ones or the ones who talk to me. but I do not try to come in and act like we are all new best friends. It is a job. If they refuse to help, really refuse, not just too busy to help with your work, maybe go to the manager but otherwise, just go in and do your job and ignore them. Utilize the pharmacist, page the doctor, look up the policy, or ask charge for help before going to co workers, that is what I did in the beginning .
- 5Dec 31, '12 by OCNRN63Quote from ColoradoRockyThe bottom line is you are still a new grad. You may have more emotional maturity than some other new nurses, but it doesn't mean experienced staff still don't have to make sure you know what you are doing. I have seen more than one person who thought military experience substituted what was being taught in orientation and beyond.Curious how the more seasoned RNs accept someone near their age that just finished ADN and is working way through a BSN. Male, "well over 39", married for over 2 decades, father of adult children we raised, and as soldier I have led men (and women too at times) in some difficult circumstances including giving orders that could cost us our lives. Degrees in philosophy (Logic concentration, minor in Math earned prior to service) and business (Organizational Leadership - earned while in service), Magna cum laude. I also recently got some non-military team leadership recently, running a technology test lab and team. My main medical experience (not as a patient) was as a volunteer CNA at the VA (skilled nursing facility, primarily elder vets and family), so I'm familiar with feeding, toileting, emesis basins, and the messier but personal side of patient care - for every time I cam home smelling like c-dff poo, there was also a feeling of accomplishment that I had gotten to help my patients. Yeah I had to drop my scrubs in the garage, and I was tired, but I felt better coming home like that than I ever did coming home from the business I was working in. I still remember the names and stories of several of my "regulars" who I talked to while providing care.
I know how to give orders, and also know how to take them - expect intelligence and initiative be taken from my orders and the intent behind them (i.e. thinking responses and actions, not robotic obedience), and I expect to give the same when given orders (especially given the intent behind them). Orders I don't like, I still "salute and execute", although I may argue for "why" so that I have proper context to provide proper actions. I dont have much of a tolerance of BS thrown at someone just because they are the FNG - a little hazing at first is OK, but it shouldnt get in the way of integrating them into the team. There's the right way, the wrong way, and how we do it here - the latter is most important to teach.
I'm pretty much the joker in the deck for you guys. How would you deal with a buzz cut older male like me coming onto the unit as a brand new RN (ADN) with more education and practical application on team formation, management and leadership than can be taught in any university course? Resources are managed, people must be lead; Follow Me (US Army, Fort Benning).Last edit by OCNRN63 on Dec 31, '12
- 6Dec 31, '12 by woohI've got rude coworkers, some young, some old, some experienced, some inexperienced. I've seen quite a few people though that can't take the least bit of negative feedback without feeling that it's an attack. And I've seen more than one person who take a lack of falling all over oneself to be welcoming as being rude. And really, I see way too many people who are more worried about how they're being treated than how they are treating those around them.
There's two sides to every relationship. When someone complains about their relationship with their coworkers, we're only getting the one side. Some of us are going to give the benefit of the doubt to the one complaining. Some of us are going to give the benefit of the doubt to the one being complained about. Nobody knows for sure which side is "innocent," and there's a huge possibility that perhaps both sides are innocent, there's just a misunderstanding.
I do have to think, when someone is having a problem with more than one person, that the common denominator is the someone.
And considering nobody here can change the behavior of others, pontificating about the other coworkers does nothing. Only person's behavior that OP can change is her own.
- 1Dec 31, '12 by anotheroneQuote from PRICHARILLAisMISSEDIn my experience in work and other life situations. I scope out the people and usually am right about what will work with them. i have used the kill them with kindness with OBVIOUS sarcasm that may be hard to prove. They usually know it is completely fake. Also if someone is bff with management, management or high up then I do what I think is best. Kissing up to them , so be it. My pride is worth less than what I get paid to work/hr. lolThere is no way in **** that I can agree with this. I'm not an RN yet, but nonetheless there are certain truths that transcend professions. Why be kind to someone that goes out of their way to make you miserable? I hate when someone (who is not your boss, just a more experienced person at your job at that) has some ridiculous perceived authority over me. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for listening to what more experienced ppl have to say if they want to "Teach the new guy," but there is no way I'll allow them to disrespect me just because they think they can.
I don't believe in that "Paying your dues **** either." I go to work to do my job-whatever that job may be-PERIOD! Not to feed some coworkers ego by being their whipping boy. Most of them are bitter because they've been doing the same thing for x amt of years because A) they are not competent enough to be promoted or B) they don't have the drive to make the necessary sacrifices to educate themselves into a better position.
OP, if you try to "Kill them with kindness" then, no offense but I hope they run all over you. Again no offense is intended and I hope you fix this, but don't be WEAK, ok?Last edit by Esme12 on Jan 1, '13 : Reason: edited quote
- 4Dec 31, '12 by BrandonLPNYes, if someone (anyone) is having problems with most of their coworkers it's far more likely the problem is with that person, not everyone else. Even if said person *does* just work with a bunch of meanies (doubtful), they should still consider adjusting their behavior to fit in with the majority. That's really just a part of being an adult and having a job where you work with other people.