I just finished reading the thread about dating a former patient. 11+ pages of strong opinion regarding the ethics of starting a relationship with someone you are caring for. I am not trying to restart whether or not people believe that particular poster was wrong or right in his decision, but instead in discussing the reasoning people use in deciding if it was ethical or not.
So for anyone interested in joining this discussion - do you believe that it is ethical to start a relationship with someone you cared for as a nurse?
Why?
From reading the prior thread many posters brought up vulnerabilty - that the power balance led to inequality between patient and nurse and hence it was morally wrong to exploit that inequality. If you do believe this, do you feel that all relationships that begin with one partner in a vulnerable state should not be pursued? Or any relationship that is unequal can not work?
Are all nurse patient relationship inherently unequal? Why? Does the patient not have the right to accept or refuse any treatment, to determine for themselves how their care will proceed, to even "fire" their nurse and demand another one? If the patient is A&O and at least semi-independent in ADL's where exactly is the inequality?
Many posters seemed to indicate that the ethics changed with time (many mentions of 6 months to 1 year). What exactly has changed in 6 months that didn't in 1 week? (and honestly, how many relationships survive 1 year of no contact?)
So have at it! Can the nurse patient relationship survive? Should it? Or are there perhaps other reasons we should strive to sever that possibility?
Thanks
Pat
PS: For those who think I might have an ulterior motive, I am happily married with my wife reading over my shoulder. She has let me know, in no uncertain terms, that violating that relationship will lead to a significant change from me being a nurse - to being the patient!:no: