Quote from Agnus
So, your approach to this is to attack? There is a difference between aggression and assertiveness. You did not stand up to him you shot yourself in the foot.
You are feeing very self rightous and it is going to bite you.
I'm not sure which post your are referring to, but if it's the first one, I disagree.
We don't know what was said so it's impossible to tell whether the the approach was assertive or aggressive.
Second, standing up to a bully and filing a grievance can be extremely assertive as they both draw a boundary line against unacceptable behavior. So often, bullies keep others cowed because
no one will stand up to them, and those enduring the abuse become trapped in a conspiracy of fear and passivity.
Third, it's a bit presumptuous to tell another person how they are feeling. Stating an opinion about actions is one thing. Telling someone else what they
are feeling is quite different.
What would you suggest someone in this position do? Continue to put up with rude and condescending behavior just because the other person is a doc? Slowly, but surely, the old school thinking that docs are above the rest of us and don't have to follow the rules of civility is being challenged and changed. More and more medical facilities are realizing that allowing docs to act like enraged children throwing tantrums runs counter to not only healthy values but also common sense.
Don't mean to come down on you personally. I only want to ask what you would do in a similar situation.