I agree, the nurse-physician relationship varies with the facility, the unit, the doctor and the nurse.
In our ICU, the doc's that we view as intelligent are the one's who bother to seek out the care nurse and ask what is going on with the patient, are there problems or concerns, etc., etc. This type is the overwhelming majority.
There are a few who do not speak to nurses, do not listen when spoken to, do not return pages, have a poor bedside manner, are unpopular with nurses, patients, other md's and families, blah, blah, blah. These fine (ha) physicians also do not seem to have as many patients, and their clinical outcomes don't seem to be as good.
These people would be jerks regardless of their profession. It is just sad that they chose medicine.