After reading "Behavior that Just Shouldn't Fly" by a fellow poster on allnurses, I decided I do not want to become the nurse that quits because of bullying in the workplace.
Would you consider having a sixth person tell you over several month's time that "You always get the 'crap' patients. Someone must not like you very much" or "You always have the hard patients" or "You always get the difficult ones" as a form of bullying? I've had a pharmacist, a CNA, three nurses and a psych doctor all tell me this. I'm beginning to see a pattern in my assignments.
While charge nurses are supposed to be assigning according to acuity, I recently had 3 patients on 02, those three patients also on tele, (my team totaled 4 patients) all 4 of those patients were fall risks, 1 of those was a bariatric patient with special needs, another patient was flip-flopping between hospice and aggressive treatment based on family's indecisiveness and were constantly cornering me for 30-40 minutes about what to do (I have compassion for them - I was just very stretched). This "hospice" patient was confused, combative as well and known for strangling. My other patient was post-op and a constant whiner and was very mentally draining... This is just one example of many. On top of this assignment, there was only one CNA for the entire floor.
For some of you, having 5 and 6 patients is a luxury, but for me, when I get these heavy loads nearly every time I'm at work, it wears on me. I'm not happy to be there and I dread what assignment I will be getting that day. My co-workers are always visiting at the nurse's station, or online shopping or playing on their cell phones. Meanwhile, I'm running back and forth and back and forth and it never ends. When I'm in rooms, I find I lack energy to hold conversations and I just wish patients would stop talking to me so I can get in and get out. I always wanted to be the nurse to sit and take time to get to the bottom of why someone may be upset or depressed or lonely or what have you... I did that with the aforementioned load and was so completely drained. I learned one was grieving loss of a body part removed over two years ago and was very visibly angry for it but softened after being allowed to explain, the other had a wife who died several years ago, has been lonely ever since and was missing his companion... I don't know how to handle all this information some times. The angry patient and the hospice patient were given to me because "I knew you would be compassionate. They need a nurse with compassion" the night charge says. What about me? Typically I just love to love on my patients, but I'm beginning to show compassion fatigue. I just know that's what this is. How do I navigate this with my manager so I don't appear to be whining? I'm not the only one noticing my loads, so this should be ok to address, right?
I've considered that my assignments may be given because the night charge nurse making day shift assignments may be trying to play on our best nursing traits, but I'm tired... I sleep later, I have less energy, I've been combating depression that is slowly lifting... I say things I normally wouldn't and become angry faster...
I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. I've been praying a FT position will open up in another department so I can transfer. I don't think my career on my floor should have to end this way...
I'm very diligent in my nursing, always researching and I have good rapport with the physicians. I've noticed nurses in the past that have been picked on because they are slower, or march to the beat of their own drum, or do not handle stress well, or do not play politics. I am there for my patients so I do not visit and gossip, and therefore, do not play politics.
I don't want to be sensitive. Any thoughts on this issue? How would you proceed? Thank you!