Another thread on lateral harassment...

Sounds like a bunch of high schoolers to me, but if their immature behaviours don't hinder you from doing your tasks/job properly, then I really don't see a creditable complaint to the managers.

Lol @ the diatribe against older nurses. I'm not much into petty grievences. Just go, do your job and ignore the nonsense. When you need help, get it, otherwise just carry on. You aren't there for a coffee klatch, who cares if they don't like you.

Way to assume that I am the root of their misery. I have done soul searching and have realized that no matter how hard you try, you can't shine poop.

My advice, you can take it or leave it. If your consitently finding your disliked, your probably underperforming. I learned this the hard way.

A lot of people can't place their ego aside long enough to swallow that bitter of a pill. At the end of the day though, protecting your "feelings" and "self esteem" will land you back in the same spot. YMMV.

Wow, that's a whole lot of rage and assumptions directed at groups that weren't even referenced by OP. Truthfully, it's downright scary and feels somewhat violent in and of itself.

Hi I respect your opinion.

However I too have had this type of workplace harrassment, which, BTW in Australia is ILLEGAL and the OP is experiencing bullying. Bullying is another form of violence, in case you did not know (and no I am not being patronising). Some workers don't understand re bullying and how serious and deadly it can be. Bullying and work place harrassment also have far reaching effects, ie: the victim goes home and take it out on their family.

Recently, a friend of mine lost her nephew to bullying at school (also via the internet, mobiles, etc). He apparently left some sort of note (I don't know what was in it), then he went out into the back yard shed and hung himself. Apparently, no-one took him seriously and he felt nobody understood the seriousness of what was happening to him. He was 15 years old - so, so tragic. I too was bullied and beat up very badly at school, and contemplated taking my own life, but luckily I have a strong, probably aggressive personality, so I got through it. My friend's nephew, unfortunately, could not do that, more is the pity.

I have known people who have been harrassed and bullied in workplaces and they have actually taken it to court and won.

I do not think I assumed anything either. The OP is obviously very upset and distressed and needs firm advice on what to do. She doesn't know WHAT to do, that is why she is on here.

If you think I am too passionate re workplace harrassment and bullying, all I can say respectfully is that it has probably never happened to you. And I so sincerely hope it never does.

Bullying has devastating effects on individuals, not the least being suicide. They suffer from insomnia, lack of concentration, lose confidence in themselves, many complain re gastro problems, headaches, aches and pains, migraines - I could rave on. Needless to say, it should never be taken lightly.

SOMEBODY has to be passionate about injustices - if we were all blase and didn't give a c**p, nothing would ever change would it?

Like I said, I hope it never, ever happens to you, your kids or anyone you love.

Way to assume that I am the root of their misery. I have done soul searching and have realized that no matter how hard you try, you can't shine poop. This is in regards to my coworkers...

OP my advice: just ignore the miserable, negative people on here. If YOU feel you are being bullied and harrassed, that is all that matters. Maybe some of these people have never been bullied ever - good luck if they haven't cos they do not know what it is like.

I wouldn't lie down and take it though. Find out what your harrassment policies are, get as much info, witness statements as you can and take it from there. Have you got a union nursing rep you can contact?

Be strong and don't listen to others - if you don't do anything positive, they will just keep going on. Internalising your unhappiness will eventually affect your whole life - I do lots of mental health counselling so I do know a little about misery and unhappiness! Taking action will make you feel a whole lot better about yourself (but I'd personally still re-vamp that resume!)

Let us know how you get on.

Hi I respect your opinion.

However I too have had this type of workplace harrassment, which, BTW in Australia is ILLEGAL and the OP is experiencing bullying. Bullying is another form of violence, in case you did not know (and no I am not being patronising). Some workers don't understand re bullying and how serious and deadly it can be. Bullying and work place harrassment also have far reaching effects, ie: the victim goes home and take it out on their family.

Recently, a friend of mine lost her nephew to bullying at school (also via the internet, mobiles, etc). He apparently left some sort of note (I don't know what was in it), then he went out into the back yard shed and hung himself. Apparently, no-one took him seriously and he felt nobody understood the seriousness of what was happening to him. He was 15 years old - so, so tragic. I too was bullied and beat up very badly at school, and contemplated taking my own life, but luckily I have a strong, probably aggressive personality, so I got through it. My friend's nephew, unfortunately, could not do that, more is the pity.

I have known people who have been harrassed and bullied in workplaces and they have actually taken it to court and won.

I do not think I assumed anything either. The OP is obviously very upset and distressed and needs firm advice on what to do. She doesn't know WHAT to do, that is why she is on here.

If you think I am too passionate re workplace harrassment and bullying, all I can say respectfully is that it has probably never happened to you. And I so sincerely hope it never does.

Bullying has devastating effects on individuals, not the least being suicide. They suffer from insomnia, lack of concentration, lose confidence in themselves, many complain re gastro problems, headaches, aches and pains, migraines - I could rave on. Needless to say, it should never be taken lightly.

SOMEBODY has to be passionate about injustices - if we were all blase and didn't give a c**p, nothing would ever change would it?

Like I said, I hope it never, ever happens to you, your kids or anyone you love.

Hi CarolMacas66,

That was a very thoughtful and heartfelt explanation. Thank you for taking the time to share your personal experience as well as that of your friends son. It puts a face to a very serious and tragic problem that for all accounts does appear to be escalating. My heart goes out to your friend , yourself and all others who have experienced bullying.

You are more tuned in to this problem and thus more likely to be able to read between the lines and decipher nuances contained in OP's remarks. At the time I read it, it seemed like a big assumption that it was older, non-BSN nurses causing the trouble and in all honesty, I probably overreacted, I have my degree but I'm certainly no spring chicken :). My apologies.

I too have my hot button areas that bring out incredibly passionate responses.

Again, I'm sorry that we seemed to have gotten off on the wrong footing and glad we were able to clarify.

Warm Wishes to you, your family and friends and most especially to your friend who lost her son. XO

Kohala, how do others perceive you? How do you ask for things or for assistance? When I had my evaluation at my last job, my supervisor said that some of the staff perceived me as being bossy. This surprised me because I always asked things in a nice way. My supervisor knew my personality so that's why I didn't care what others thought of me. The environment in where I worked, there were a lot of backstabbing, gossip and catty people; very toxic. I don't know if it's just the culture or the fact that most of them were female. In the end, I ended up leaving. I felt suffocated with all this negative energy. Eight hours a day for five days dealing with all these drama leads you to a headache. You'd think they were all adults...

summerrose is right IMO. I was in a situation similar to this, coworker ignoring me, dumping her patients on others, on and on...right down your list pretty much. I decided to be the adult since she wouldn't talk directly, management wouldn't step up, and took it to HR. BIG mistake. She sat there (I think yall have read this before LOL) and stated to HR that Jesus told her I was possessed by Satan. Before my mouth could even hit the ground, HR smiled this sickly little smile and told her she was being a good Christian. I quit without notice when the door to HR was opened up again.

I'll never know if there was anything else I could have done to handle it differently.

My 2nd incidence of lateral violence someone was (with manager's permission) stealing my signed-contract days and hours to boost her overtime. Took it to manager, their manager, then floor director, witnesses, whole nine yards, no results. Gave notice and quit...I can't live on 8 hours when I'm contracted for 24.

Dont' have any good advice, except HR may not solve a thing...good luck!