I recently finished all my prerequisites for an ADN program. All I have to do now is wait to see if I made the cut for the class starting Fall 2005.
After coming so far, I've come upon a roadblock that I wish I'd known about before spending the last two years dreaming of becoming an RN.
When I was 20 years old, I was arrested and charged with felony CDV...criminal domestic violence. Sounds really bad, right? To make a long story short, I lived with my mother and brother at the time, and one night my mother hit me (not the first time). Instead of just walking away like I usually did, I slapped her back. It was the first and only time in my life I have EVER hit anyone. I don't even spank my child. It was something I did before even rationalizing what I was doing, and I immediately apologized to her for it. It wasn't a hard slap. It didn't even make a mark, but it did upset her a lot. She was so shocked that I would hit her back. So was I, for that matter.
My brother heard her saying "I can't believe you hit me" from the other room and he rushed in, all agitated. He called the police. Funny how he never did that all the times she hit us. But anyway, the police came. By that time, my mother and I had already forgiven each other, but I wasn't going to lie when they asked me if I had slapped her. Thank God I didn't mention that she had hit me first or they would have arrested her, too. By law, they were required to arrest me even though my mother begged them not to and refused to press any charges.
I spent the night in jail and was let out the next day. The judge let me go through pre-trial intervention so that the record would be expunged because I was so young and had no prior record whatsoever.
I completed pre-trial intervention and the record was expunged. I thought that was the end of it. I'm not a violent person and have never even had the inclination to hit anyone ever again.
I recently found out that the NC BON requires fingerprinting from graduates before they can even sit the exam. From my understanding, fingerprints are sent through the federal system and bring up everything... even expunged records. I pass criminal background checks with flying colors, but I won't pass fingerprinting.
I am so scared and so depressed because it seems like I might have wasted the last two years of my life. I've heard horror stories of graduates being denied licensure for much less than my offence, even for past misdemeanors. So I can only imagine what my chances are with a felony charge, expunged or not. It seems so unfair, that a one-time mistake so many years in the past can destroy your future.
I don't know what to do. I find out next month if I made it into the ADN program for next fall. Sure, I could go through the program, but it would be pointless if I won't be allowed to sit for the exam afterwards. I've worked so hard at being a straight-A student while working AND being a mom that I can't accept that it was all for nothing. I feel so lost and hopeless right now.
I'd appreciate any advice any of you can give...especially if you've ever been in the same kind of situation. I'd appreciate honesty. If you think it's a hopeless cause and that I should just give up, then say so... just be gentle, please. This is a really awful time for me.