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This is a discussion on Zero tolerance for workplace violence a double standard?? in Men in Nursing, part of General Nursing ... Hi, I am here to ask if any body could offer me any advise or share a personal experience with my...by burnedoutRNinSC Oct 22, '10Hi, I am here to ask if any body could offer me any advise or share a personal experience with my situation here. I currently work as a clinical coordinator for a medical surgical floor. I had a unit secretary,who happened to be female,threaten to physically harm me. My preceptor told be to beware of this person when I was in orientation because of her record of bullying behavior. I filled a formal complaint with HR regarding this situation and an investigation was supposedly launched. A week after the incident, little to my knowledge, both of us were on the schedule to work together. I refused to work with this individual and had put in a formal request to transfer to another unit of the hospital. I faced a lot of static from my boss and the director of nursing for refusing to work with this person. Needless to say, my attempts to transfer have been unsuccessful. I have informed my boss that I will be resigning. I know for a fact if I had been the one to threaten her, I WOULD have been fired at the very least. Possibly even arrested. Its frustrating because the tools that a man is given to combat inappropriate behavior against a belligerent female is proving to be ineffective.
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- Oct 24, '10 by PeaceKeeprThat is a crappy situation. You're getting the static b/c of the standard of care that you do not "abandon" the patients. It does seem like a double standard, but you have a responsibility to take care of the patients when assigned to work.
My next step would be to try to find out how far the investigation has gotten. Try to discuss again to your boss that you really do not wish to work with said coworker in order to avoid a confrontation.
- Oct 24, '10 by burnedoutRNinSCThanks for the advise. I may have been unclear in my original message, but when I refused to work with this co-worker, I floated to another unit and took an assignment there. I would not abandon a patient. Not just for ethical reasons, but I would not give them the pleasure of having them report me to the board.
- Oct 25, '10 by EmergencyNrseQuote from burnedoutrninschi, i am here to ask if any body could offer me any advice
i had a unit secretary,who happened to be female,threaten to physically harm me.
my first piece of advice is to get spellcheck...
next is grow a spine. unit secretary??? are you kidding me? you should have put her in her place. she has a license to practice what exactly? the day i refuse to work with ancillary help because of attitude and threats is the day i hand in my man-card.
you're the professional in this situation. be professional. so you have had it documented that she threatened you. great. she's still a paper shuffler. remind her she needs to shut up and do her job!
should it come to violence have her arrested.
- Oct 25, '10 by NM-NurseDudeI was the victim of workplace violence from my boss. She was in my office screaming and yelling and exhibiting threatening behavior. I do not tolerate this behavior from the children I have raised and certainly not from my boss. There are laws to protect us, or so I thought. I went to administration, I went to my union, nobody did anything about it. "That's just how she is" After a year of trying to get someone to listen, I relocated, enough was enough. I know that being a guy, and a large one at that, that if I had done what she did, I would have lost me job.
- Oct 25, '10 by badphishspell check ? really? how about reality check? if patients can abuse a nurse why not a co-worker ?
- Oct 26, '10 by nurse2033I would assume that you aren't in a union. Have you consulted a lawyer? She could be guilty of assault. I wouldn't give up that easy, and you could be helping a lot of coworkers by pushing the issue. Obviously her behavior is unacceptable, and you're right about the double standard.
- Oct 26, '10 by KarmaWiseRavenTell her to meet you at the fence at 3 and snatch her up you know. Or on the other hand she might want to date you. Remember in school if a girl was shy and didn't know how to act she would act like a B**** really it turns out mean girls like that they want to date you most of the time. This might not be the case here but worth looking in to. Look i would try to make mends you might like her. I would go and offer her lunch or a coffee and talk. And if your not dating anyone might want to try date her or just see what happens. Hey stranger things have happen. These are my thoughts use them as you wish
- Oct 31, '10 by remifentanilI gotta say grow a pair....Have some face time alone with her and in a calm voice tell her that you will NOT put up with any form of violence and if it should occur... unlike the Rules of Engagement " in Afghanistan.. you WILL respond with overwhelming force and cannot be responsible for any harm that would come to her if you were to respond to any threat to your own well being...
But ONLY react physically to a PHYSICAL attack... then take her off at the knees... make sure.. when it is over you mention to everyone you feared for your life.
How butch is this girl anyway?
- Nov 3, '10 by nurse2033An RT (male) that I work with had a similar story. He got so fed up once he told her "if you do that again, I'll punch you in your throat". I dont' advocate that kind of behavior but she shut up and never bothered him again. Fortunately she didn't have the guts to file charges against him. As an aside this has become the joke comeback on our unit ( I work nights so we can get away with it).